I get it…. You’ve all had a good laugh at my botched spray tan. (In case you missed it, watch last Sunday’s blog and check out all of the negative comments on YouTube).
Now you may think that type of thing gets me upset, but it doesn’t. It used to, of course – I’m only human. But being in the public eye, I’ve learned a few things about overcoming negativity and bad energy, and I want to share them with you today…
the funny thing is, I’ve seen the video where your tan is ‘botched’ but I never noticed anything odd about it until you mentioned it in today’s message. proves that when someone is truly confident and draws us in with their personality, we don’t focus on imperfections, they just kind of blend in with the overall perception of that person. thank you Matt for reminding me of this, because in spite of that knowledge, the reflex you described is still there and I will be watching out for it not to creep in and destroy my confidence ever again. xo
Great video Mat! Very insightful and I enjoyed the length. I never used to be happy with my body but going to the gym and eating right has done wonders. I remember in a part of your book you’ve written if you don’t like something about yourself change it or learn to love it and it holds true to your video
For your conditioning: Why so conscious about not self conscious.
Pros: You are one insightful, inspirational and attractive person.
M
Negative inonized water is healthy for the body… while if your body is to positive ionized (like if you eat fat things, sugar, coffe, smoke, or whatever) it´s unhealthy!
This is a problem in our language!! SOOOOO negative is not bad, and postive is not good!! In this case negative energy is good!
It´s a Molekühl thing we learn in shool.. or maby it´s a magnetism thing! TURN ON THE ION Jihaaaaa… Get Ironic Man!!!
Do not be too positive Matt hahaha… this might be a big mistake! hahahha
So what did we learn in shool today….
Positive is good and negative is good!!!
Bad is bad, and mad is mad! hihi
Oh my bad habbit.. is skratching pimpels, and so i have a lot of scars on different parts of my body…. also next to my little lady.. hahhaha cause if a hair grow in, i cannot wait until it comes out the natural way… the idea is to have soft, straight skin… so i skrach… but as i already now, this technik never bring the result.. hahaha
Hey Matt x Thanks for the video, very cool topic and always a great reminder. Funny how helpful it is to be reminded to reclaim our personal power and boundaries. I’d say my area of sensitivity is my nose. Although I like my looks overall, I’ve always been sensitive of the Italian nose I inherited from my Grandmother, and yet I’m very proud of my heritage. I still have plenty of luck with men, I guess it’s just something I hope to love and accept more. The thought of surgery is tempting but a bit too scary as I wonder if the new nose would suit me better than this one :) I’ll probably stick with my nose ha, although could use a bit more confidence about it x Thanks Matt! Hope to see you at an event soon.
My insecurity: thunder thighs!!
I used to feel insecure about my curviness and large hips… mainly because I was the “largest” out of my group of very slender friends!
However, since I have come to embrace this side of myself and not hide them (the thighs) I have actually found that it is exactly what men find attractive about me!
Who would have known… I now wonder why I was so worried about it in the past…
I don’t get the big deal about the spray tan – I am sure that ANYONE who has attempted fake tanning can relate to this problem ;)
I hate my fat cheeks.
I’m at a speed dating even. Does it get anyworse than thAt. It’s sad. I think I’ll tell them I’m into puppet-tree. Lol
I feel insecure about the fact that I have herpes from time to time. And also that my face is slightly crooked. But you’re right: Fuck it! :D
Love this! I’m learning how to love my body as is, while taking steps to improve it :)
Your videos are so inspirational. I am afraid to start my Youtube channel, but watching your videos honestly push me toward my goals, and dreams.
I am an aspiring High fashion Model, Author and Actress.But I am extremely shy. I am lacking the confidence I need, because I worry about what people think about me. I appreciate your honesty, it helps me sooo much.
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Hi Matt,
I feel uncomfortable with lots of things… I guess the two main things would be that I have pimples (and I am 30) and the way I curve my back when I am walking (I try to control it, but it is impossible).
Still, I live my life :-)
XXX
I am an American woman. And, I’m over 40. So when I look at women, even older than me (43) who look AMAZING, I feel a bit insecure. These women are all over the place. Magazine covers, at work, at the gym. Everywhere. So I notice that I hate my tummy , it makes me feel like I’m a lazy, undisciplined mess. And my skin has pick marks from teen acne and adult acne. These, and others make me suck my gut in and hide the scars, even more when I’m around people. However, I have gotten more confident about this recently (no sucking and no makeup) , and I’ve had many people tell me, you have a 19yr old daughter…??? I thought you were my age! (35). Many times I’ve gotten this compliment. It is solely due to my attitude about myself and my personality. Also how I dress. I feel so young at heart. And I mostly don’t care about all that negative stuff. And it was all because of my attitude towards myself!! I love who I am. And I love my life.
Great video ! Really appreciated the rawness and honesty.
I hadn’t even noticed the so criticized tan spray from the previous video because I was focusing more on the actual message instead of your usual perfect look ;)
By the way you look great and in shape!
My insecurity is the bit of extra weight I’ve been trying to loose for some time now. I’m pushing myself to reach my health and fitness goals whilst enjoying each step of the way.
Love you too Matt <3
Mat mat mat,,, I must say I love ( not in a creepy way ) lol
Ok I just had a thought and hoping you can shed some light on it :)
We ( well I ) often find myself gravitating towards things I can’t see, you know mysterious objects/ people.
Example Jameson, I’m dying to see what he looks like lol
And in the past I’ve ended up liking people that I met online and then actually found them really unattractive in person but I can’t get out of that.
Why is it like that and how can I change ?
Thanks Matt
God bless you xx
So I have a lot of insecurities I don’t know quite why I am 19 years old everyone says I’m skiny and pretty I don’t believe it I care what others say way to much instead of just being my self and doing what I like bcus everyone is going to talk and the only person I have get proud is my self and I so my greatest insecurity is that I have big boobs and a normal butt like I don’t like my self I feel fat tho I know I am not but I feel fat I don’t like my body I know I can look better and I focus on that instead of loving my self the way I am
Hi Mat from Australia!
After leaving a 23 year relationship, I am finding the new dating world very different to the one I left in 1991. Your book Get The Guy & your clips/email newsletters are crucial in helping me navigate this changed world of men.
All the dates I have been on have been with much younger men & I follow your advice closely. Thank you.
I am extremely fit thanks to running & weight lifting (ladies….the weights room is the ideal place to meet men as you are always outnumbered in there!!!) so I am extremely body confident. However, my insecurity is lots of broken capillaries on my legs. I have great legs but keep them covered in tights & am not confident enough to wear shorts.
Funnily enough, not one man I have ever been with has commented on them. It is obviously an issue for me only & no-one else.
Love all of your advice Matt. Hope you come Down Under one day.
Thank you
hi Matt from Finland! I have to say that I didn’t notice you’re white hands in the last video when I watched it the first. I actually thought have I missed one video. :D but now that you’ve pointti it out I did notice it.
And finally, the part(s) of my body that I’m self-confident about are my stomach, backfat and double chin.
Love this video, Matt! I really appreciated this idea of not having to explain or justify anything you want to try or do to your body.
An insecurity I have is that a tooth is beginning to turn grey.