How To Get the Guy Podcast

I’ve been making videos for nearly 20 years. If you’ve been here that whole time, thank you. But there’s a silent danger in doing this… It can't be the only thing you do to make progress in your love life. At some point, constant content consumption without action becomes a form of avoidance. That’s the hidden danger. Consuming advice feels like progress. It gives us a quick hit. And the worst part is, you may not even realize you’re doing it. In this episode, I’ll break down the 3 key reasons you’re stuck in this trap and how to finally

Dating apps can make it feel like we’re competing with endless options… while somehow no one is actually trying. In this episode, Matthew explores the frustrating reality of modern dating—why people seem flaky, why effort feels one-sided, and how dating apps can distort your perception of rejection and connection.  But what if the problem isn’t that no one is trying… it’s that everyone is waiting? Matthew breaks down how a small shift in your approach can change everything and how to know when it’s time to stop investing altogether. If dating apps have been leaving you discouraged or emotionally drained,

This episode is unlike anything I’ve done on this channel before.  It explores the lessons I’ve learned from my many visits to Japan, including my most recent trip last month. From the power of doing less to a deep sense of collective responsibility, Japan has reshaped how I think about my relationship with others, myself, and life itself.  At the same time, I reflect on the dangers of romanticizing places we don’t fully live in, much like romantic relationships that feel distant or out of reach.  You’ll not only learn more about me, but also walk away with meaningful insights

We often tell ourselves we’ll focus on love “when things calm down”… when we have more time, more energy, or a fresh start. But what if that moment never comes? In this episode, Matthew shares five powerful mindsets to help you stop waiting and start making progress in your love life now. From understanding how overwhelm quietly keeps us stuck, to letting go of the illusion of the “perfect time,” this conversation is about learning how to take action in the middle of a busy, imperfect life. If you’ve been putting your love life on hold or feeling like there’s

As many of you know, meeting Audrey has changed my life in so many meaningful ways. I’ve never felt happier or more fulfilled in a relationship. And because I talk about her so often, this video has been one of the most requested by this community. For a long time, Audrey resisted the idea of doing this video. She genuinely felt that if you’re here to see me each week, you wouldn’t want her stepping in front of the camera. But thanks to your encouragement, she finally agreed to sit down and answer some of your most-asked questions. In this

Many people think commitment is only about timing, but readiness for a relationship is really shaped by feeling truly seen, understood, and safe... In this conversation, Matthew and Audrey explore why so many people feel discouraged about commitment in modern dating. They unpack the belief that no one wants a real relationship anymore, what actually influences someone to become ready for commitment, and how the right dynamic can bring out a more authentic, relationship-ready version of someone. If you’ve been wondering whether commitment is still possible, or how to tell the difference between real potential and wasted time, this episode