How To Get the Guy Podcast

What if one tiny dating decision was secretly shaping how people see your value?  In this week’s episode, I dive into one of the internet’s most heated modern dating debates: the coffee date. It's one that’s sparked arguments across TikTok, Reddit, and dating culture at large. Some people say this common first-date move is practical and refreshing. Others claim it signals low standards, low effort, or even low self-worth. So…who’s right? I unpack the surprising psychology behind why this topic triggers such strong reactions, how dating apps have completely changed expectations, and why many people may be focusing on the

In this episode, we explore one of the biggest questions we face in love: is finding a meaningful relationship about meeting the right person… or about becoming truly ready for one? I talk about why so many of us unknowingly sabotage relationships while searching for perfection, chasing instant chemistry, or simply trying to avoid loneliness. I share the subtle signs that someone is emotionally ready for commitment, the difference between real connection and projection, and why modern “fast-food dating” culture can leave us feeling more disconnected than ever. We also dive into: Why timing matters so much in relationships The

Have you ever stared at a text message for 20 minutes trying to decode it and then another 20 minutes trying to figure out how to respond to it? In this week’s episode, I dive into the obsession and overthinking that can happen in dating, when every text, silence, and tiny interaction suddenly feels loaded with meaning. (And yes, I act out the entire internal meltdown we’ve all had while trying to craft the “perfect” reply.) More importantly, I share a powerful framework I teach to my coaching clients called the “CALM Method,” designed to help you stop spiraling and

What do you do when someone breaks your trust—but you still like them? In this episode, Matthew and Audrey talk about how to handle trust issues in dating, including what to do when someone lies, cheats, or makes you feel unsafe in a relationship. They explore whether “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true, how to rebuild trust after betrayal, and how to know if someone is right for you after they’ve hurt you. If you’re struggling with trust, mixed signals, or deciding whether to stay or walk away, this episode will help you see your situation more clearly.

In a world of endless dating options, it’s never been harder to know if you’re choosing the right person. If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking signals, questioning compatibility, or wondering whether early dating challenges are a red flag or normal speed bumps, then this episode is for you. Instead of focusing on surface-level traits, we explore the deeper patterns that actually determine whether a relationship has real potential. These are the kinds of things you can feel but can’t always put into words. In the early dating stages, where everything feels uncertain, it's easy to get overwhelmed. In this video,

Most of us have done this… We start to question whether someone is actually right for us—but the chemistry is there, it feels good, and we push those doubts to the side. In this Rewind episode, Matthew and his brother Stephen share four questions you can come back to when you’re trying to figure out if someone is truly a good fit. If you’ve ever had that feeling of “I’m not sure about this”… but kept going anyway, this will help you slow down and think a little more clearly. --- ►► Looking for love, clarity, or a fresh perspective?