How To Get the Guy Podcast

What if the reason your heartbreak isn’t getting better isn’t because you haven’t tried hard enough to move on, but because there’s a part of it you still haven’t allowed yourself to feel? I recently sat down with David Kessler, one of the world’s leading experts on grief, and something he said stopped me in my tracks: “You don’t have a broken mind. You have a broken heart.” We spend so much time trying to think our way out of heartbreak. We compare our pain to other people’s. We distract ourselves. We turn sadness into anger. We tell ourselves we

Have you ever noticed that the moment someone starts pulling away, you suddenly want them more? Maybe they’re taking longer to reply. Their texts are getting shorter. Or they haven’t made plans to see you again. Nothing has actually happened, but you can feel that something has changed. And suddenly, someone you were still figuring out becomes the person you can’t stop thinking about. Before you know it, the question has changed from “Do I actually want this person?” to “How do I get them to want me again?” Why does that shift happen? And why can not knowing where

Have you ever realized that you’re the one keeping a relationship alive? You’re the one who reaches out. The one who checks in. The one who remembers, helps, gives, and shows up. And after a while, instead of feeling generous, you start feeling resentful. We often think the answer is to get the other person to give more. But what happens when they don’t? In this episode, I talk about why sometimes the only way to stop the resentment is to start giving less—and why doing that can be much harder than it sounds. Because when you stop propping up

There are small things we do in the early stages of dating that can have a surprisingly big impact on how someone sees us, and on the kind of relationship we end up creating with them. Sometimes we’re so focused on whether someone likes us that we don’t stop to think about the tone we’re setting. Are we showing them what we value? Are we making it too easy for the relationship to exist entirely on their terms? Are we communicating what we want without even realizing it? In this episode, I’m giving you 13 practical ways to be taken

Why can someone who treated you terribly still be so hard to get over? You know they lied. You remember the manipulation, the gaslighting, and all the ways they made you question yourself. And yet, even after you leave, you can still find yourself replaying what happened, searching for answers, or wondering whether somehow you were the problem. That’s because getting a narcissist out of your life and getting free from their effects are two very different things. In this week’s episode, I break down three of the biggest traps that can keep us emotionally tied to a narcissist long after the

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a guy thinking, “Wait... what did he actually mean by that?” Maybe he says he “isn’t ready for a relationship right now” but continues acting like your boyfriend. Or he tells you he “doesn’t want to hurt you” while still pursuing you. Suddenly, you’re analyzing every word, wondering whether you should give him a chance or take what he’s saying as a warning. In this episode, I’m breaking down 9 of the most confusing things men say in dating, based on real examples you sent me, including: How to tell when an