How To Get the Guy Podcast

Most of us have done this… We start to question whether someone is actually right for us—but the chemistry is there, it feels good, and we push those doubts to the side. In this Rewind episode, Matthew and his brother Stephen share four questions you can come back to when you’re trying to figure out if someone is truly a good fit. If you’ve ever had that feeling of “I’m not sure about this”… but kept going anyway, this will help you slow down and think a little more clearly. --- ►► Looking for love, clarity, or a fresh perspective?

A viewer recently asked me: Is there a way to spot an avoidant before you fall in love with them?   The truth is, early avoidant behavior can quietly trigger a sense of unworthiness, making us feel like we have to win someone over. Sometimes, what feels like “falling” for someone isn’t about how right they are for us, but how uncertain we’ve started to feel around them.   In this episode, I break down how to recognize avoidant patterns before you get too invested and why it’s not always as simple as it sounds. You’ll learn the key signs to

What if your looks aren’t the real reason you’re struggling in dating? In this episode, we unpack the belief that you’re “not attractive enough” and how that thought turns into a cycle of anxiety that keeps shifting from one insecurity to the next. We talk about why fixing your appearance won’t create lasting confidence, how to stop chasing validation, and what actually matters when it comes to finding love. If you’ve ever felt overlooked or like you don’t get the same attention as others, this episode will help you rethink your value and how to date with it. --- ►► Every

I’ve been making videos for nearly 20 years. If you’ve been here that whole time, thank you. But there’s a silent danger in doing this… It can't be the only thing you do to make progress in your love life. At some point, constant content consumption without action becomes a form of avoidance. That’s the hidden danger. Consuming advice feels like progress. It gives us a quick hit. And the worst part is, you may not even realize you’re doing it. In this episode, I’ll break down the 3 key reasons you’re stuck in this trap and how to finally

Dating apps can make it feel like we’re competing with endless options… while somehow no one is actually trying. In this episode, Matthew explores the frustrating reality of modern dating—why people seem flaky, why effort feels one-sided, and how dating apps can distort your perception of rejection and connection.  But what if the problem isn’t that no one is trying… it’s that everyone is waiting? Matthew breaks down how a small shift in your approach can change everything and how to know when it’s time to stop investing altogether. If dating apps have been leaving you discouraged or emotionally drained,

This episode is unlike anything I’ve done on this channel before.  It explores the lessons I’ve learned from my many visits to Japan, including my most recent trip last month. From the power of doing less to a deep sense of collective responsibility, Japan has reshaped how I think about my relationship with others, myself, and life itself.  At the same time, I reflect on the dangers of romanticizing places we don’t fully live in, much like romantic relationships that feel distant or out of reach.  You’ll not only learn more about me, but also walk away with meaningful insights