How To Get the Guy Podcast

"Where can I actually meet someone?" It's one of the most common dating questions, and one that's become even more frustrating in the age of dating apps and endless swiping. In this episode, we explore why so many people feel stuck meeting the same kinds of people, whether there's really a "best place" to meet someone great, and the simple shifts that can dramatically increase your chances of finding a meaningful relationship. If you're tired of wondering where all the good men are, or feel like you've exhausted every dating app and social circle, this episode will help you rethink

Love bombing can feel exactly like the beginning of the relationship you've always wanted. The chemistry is instant. They want to see you all the time. They talk about the future, make you feel special, and everything seems to move at lightning speed. Then, just as quickly, something changes. The messages become less frequent, they start pulling away, and you're left wondering whether any of it was real. In this episode, Matthew breaks down three simple ways to tell the difference between genuine interest and love bombing. He explains why intensity isn't the same as intimacy, the warning signs many

Some people stay with us long after they're gone. Not because they were the right person, but because we remember how they made us feel. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who can't seem to let go of someone she met two years ago. Their chemistry felt effortless. Their connection felt rare. Yet the relationship never became what she hoped it would. Together, they explore why certain people become impossible to forget, how nostalgia can distort the story we tell ourselves, and why chemistry alone is never enough to build a great relationship. If you've ever

I still remember the worst heartbreak of my life. I remember thinking I'd never feel okay again. I remember searching for answers. And I remember realizing that knowing what to do isn't the same as actually living through it. Over time, I discovered a handful of things that genuinely changed the way I healed. Not because they made the pain disappear overnight, but because they helped me stop making an already painful experience even harder. In this week's episode, I share the five things that got me through one of the hardest periods of my life, and the lessons I

There's a particular kind of heartbreak that comes from seeing your ex move on before you have. It can leave you wondering what they saw in someone else that they didn't see in you, or whether they were always meant to end up with someone else in the first place. In this episode, Matthew answers a question from a live audience member who is trying to let go after the end of a five-year relationship. They talk about why it's so hard to move on when someone else seems to have done it so quickly, the role our ego plays

Heartbreak has a way of changing everything. It can make the world feel unfamiliar, leave you questioning yourself, and convince you that no one could possibly understand the weight you're carrying. In this special episode, I wanted to do something different. I'm reading an essay I wrote over the last ten days about heartbreak, what it really feels like, why it can be one of the most devastating experiences of our lives, and the hope that still exists even when you can't see it. If you're in the middle of heartbreak right now, I hope this feels like someone sitting