How To Get the Guy Podcast

Have you ever wondered if you ended a relationship too soon? In this week’s episode, I share the story of a woman who found herself trapped in a cycle that many of us know all too well. After a breakup, she couldn't shake the feeling that she might be walking away from something good. So when the door cracked open again, she stepped right back through it. What happened next revealed a pattern I’ve seen repeatedly over two decades of coaching: a subtle dynamic that keeps people stuck in relationships long after they’ve stopped feeling truly fulfilled. The challenge is

Sometimes attraction fades not because there wasn’t chemistry… but because we accidentally kill the tension too early. In this episode, Matthew shares 3 common mistakes that can quietly hurt desire in dating and relationships—and how to avoid them before a connection fizzles out. These are subtle patterns that are easy to miss in the moment, but once you see them, you’ll start spotting them everywhere. If you’ve ever wondered why someone seemed interested at first and then slowly pulled away, this episode will help you understand what may have changed. --- ►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter

Modern dating leads to burnout for a lot of people, especially those who use the apps. In my brand new video, I break down why so many people feel burnt out, disillusioned, and emotionally drained by today’s dating culture. From endless swiping to getting ghosted to dating defensively out of fear of rejection, it's tough out there. And unfortunately, many people are no longer dating to find connection, but simply trying to avoid getting hurt. I explore why burnout has become so common, how heartbreak quietly follows people back into the dating pool, and the subtle ways modern dating trains us

In this episode, Matthew and Stephen Hussey break down the real reasons this happens in dating and relationships—from emotional unavailability and low self-worth to the ways we may unintentionally push someone away ourselves. They talk about: Why some people lose interest once they feel they’ve “won” you Why emotionally unavailable people struggle with closeness How overinvesting too early can change the dynamic And how to tell the difference between someone pulling away because of them… or because of unhealthy patterns in the relationship If you’ve ever felt confused, rejected, or anxious when someone suddenly became distant, this episode will help

What if one tiny dating decision was secretly shaping how people see your value?  In this week’s episode, I dive into one of the internet’s most heated modern dating debates: the coffee date. It's one that’s sparked arguments across TikTok, Reddit, and dating culture at large. Some people say this common first-date move is practical and refreshing. Others claim it signals low standards, low effort, or even low self-worth. So…who’s right? I unpack the surprising psychology behind why this topic triggers such strong reactions, how dating apps have completely changed expectations, and why many people may be focusing on the

In this episode, we explore one of the biggest questions we face in love: is finding a meaningful relationship about meeting the right person… or about becoming truly ready for one? I talk about why so many of us unknowingly sabotage relationships while searching for perfection, chasing instant chemistry, or simply trying to avoid loneliness. I share the subtle signs that someone is emotionally ready for commitment, the difference between real connection and projection, and why modern “fast-food dating” culture can leave us feeling more disconnected than ever. We also dive into: Why timing matters so much in relationships The