Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
I’ve been dating this guy for a few weeks and I wasn’t too sure about him until his friend told me how he had helped his friend’s wife, he rode on his bicycle in the pouring rain to help her when she was unwell and it melted my heart. The fact that he hadn’t mentioned it to me either made me even more attracted to him. Hot and humble 2 unique pairings :)
He brought me coffee at home before work just to see me and give me a hug. He still does it now when he can.
He took me on a hike for one of our first dates. He picked a blossom from a tree, handed it to me and said, “Here. First flower of the year.” I still have that flower almost a year later.
I was attracted to my boyfriend on a whole other level when I asked him to come over bc i needed to talk w/ him about something important to me. Even tho he’d just gotten home from work, he was here in 30 min and listened to what I had to say, without having any preconceived responses ready. He teared up when I asked him for how he was feeling about what I had shared, which so endeared him to me, I was almost lost.
I was doing volunteerwork one summer and was put in tents with all the other volunteers. In the course of the summer I hooked up with a guy there and when I started staying over in his tent, he rearranged all the furniture in there so we could have a cozy little love nest.
I was walking ahead of the group after our college basketball team won, and high-fiving everyone (as you do) when one man wouldn’t let go of my hand. He ran up front to forcefully remove the man’s hand from mine and walked me away from the situation. He asked if I was okay, and later at home, did not even bring up what happened. The last part is what got me.
The moment I felt that deep attraction was when we were at a nice restaurant and my caesar salad came out without croutons. I mentioned this but didn’t make a big deal about it at all. The next thing I knew he took about half of his croutons from his house salad and gave them to me. This kind gesture meant so much to me. This coupled with the look of innocent generosity created that little “fluttery” feeling we all look for in a relationship. He is one of the kindest and most real people I know.
My first boyfriend carried a box of books and magazines that I had bought at a book sale
I was waking down my block with a guy I was seeing, and at the top of the street, there were a bunch of envelopes strewn across the pavement. I bent down and picked up all the mail and put it in the right mailbox. I didn’t think it was such a big deal, but the guy never forgot, still mentioning it every so often.
There’s this guy whom I’ve only seen as a friend with benefits for almost 14 years. Whenever I had broken up with a bf, I would unintentionally see him in unexpected places. From there we’ll rekindle until such time when any one of us would find another serious relationship. Recently, we went out on a date. Since we were using my car and he’s driving, I joked and said that he has to drive well and not hurt my car. He just nodded. Until we exited the freeway and I realized that he was driving very cautiously. I told him that it was only then that I realized that he’s a cautious driver. He said, “Because you told me to.” I remembered when we were younger, we were driving through a road with trees lined up on the sidewalk. It was a lovely afternoon then. He slowed down, turned the music to Enya, opened the window on my side, and told me look up to the sun and just bask myself on how beautiful that day was. These little things that he does for me makes me wonder why we never pursued our relationship into something deeper. But these also proves why we remain friends for 14 years…
When I was a student I was doing the sound on a show when one of the actors came up and started chatting me up but I didn’t think much of him and as I was in the middle if a task I didn’t engage much. Days later, I heard him sing and it wasn’t that he was a good singer that I liked but that he sang the song in the way that I would have sung it and expressed it just as I would have and that’s when I fell for him. Unfortunately he had moved on and was chasing and eventually went out with someone else. I had missed my chance.
This scenario has happened to me time and again since then.
I had just started dating this guy when we came out of the bowling alley and he ran across the street without saying a word to me. I could see he went to help a woman that was trying to load furniture into the back of a truck by herself. He spent a few minutes loading it all up for her, a complete stranger. When he came back he apologized for running off with out saying anything, and he thought I might be mad. I was so impressed with his strength and generosity, I was hooked.
When he was struggling with his camera and was embarrassed to ask me for batteries cause his was dead. Then had to ask me to put them in. Cause his 8yr old son was getting ready to pick his volunteer pumpkins from a pile of dirt he brought me. They both were sooooo excited about how many and how BIG those pumpkins were! You would have thought he was 8 yrs old himself… :-)
Great vid Matthew. My micro attraction was before our first date he offered to come to the door with his umbrella for me so I wouldn’t get wet.
When the Guy I just started dating said his son falls asleep better when he let him fall asleep on his arm.
I was on a Saturday date, he turned a corner, when suddenly he slowed down and pulled to the curb. He got out and lifted the windshield wiper to free a little butterfly that had gotten stuck. Instantly my heart was stuck!
i like the video. i agree that money and how many followers mean nothing. i would rather have those other things you mentioned.
He heard my son was in the hospital and called right away . Then the next day as I was leaving the hospital he asked me to stop by he hugged me for a really long time and I needed that . I really want this man’s love . I want to be his .
When he told me about a charity he was deeply involved in.
When he ask me to come and visit and he pay for the bus and the hotels and my time there I think that was attraction because guys that I did with always wanting me to do all those things I find I was attractive..