What do people who are naturally good at flirting do differently?
It’s easy to assume they’re more confident, more attractive, or simply better at knowing what to say. But after nearly 20 years of studying attraction and watching hundreds of first dates, I’ve noticed something else going on.
In this week’s video, I break down three great flirting scenes from movies that look completely different on the surface but all have one surprising thing in common.
And it’s something most flirting advice completely misses.
Loved everything you said here today! It’s quite enlightening! A million thank yous!
So good! Learned a lesson. Thank you, Matthew!
Wauw, you really are spot on in your observation, its so interesting to hear what you are saying.
The first time I heard about you I felt that you had been sitting on my shoulder and watching me, making all my mistakes
Love this! So much fun to watch; movie clips, along with your advice, were excellent! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love this! So much fun to watch; movie clips, along with your advice, are excellent! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The challenge for me is actually meeting people I’m interested in and attracted to that I’d like to flirt with. I’ve been single for over 20 years
Great advice…. Yes; calmness is key.
9/27/26 Mr Matthew, I very much need your Calm Method but have prior plans to be out of town and possibly not able to log into your live stream on Tues. Sept 29th. Will these live streamed events be made public via video after the fact? I am in a very precarious friendship with an avoidant that started in Nov. 2025 and it’s ripping me apart. I need some clarification and direction becuz I am at my wits end. Thank you for your time.
Looking forward to what you have to teach as more tools.for my own teaching toolbelt
For me, easy to do if I don’t feel any attraction, I’m just flirting, teasing, tormenting, having fun being in control… Almost impossible if I DO feel attraction…