Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
An attractive thing: the reaction a guy had after I sent him a note telling him that although I was sexually attracted to him (as he is with me) I couldn’t have a casual sexual interaction with him unless he had some plan for us and commitment and that what I could offer in the meantime is to keep it as friends, no sex involved (he now lives in another country but we know each other from many many years and we kissed once like 10 years ago and it was uniquely hot but I was leaving the country at the time, and according to him I’ve been his crush since forever… anyways recently we increased our exchanges again and surprisingly one texting exchange escalated quickly into a sexual banter we enjoyed too much for our own sake, so I sent him the note just in case, really)
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A week after I sent the note he texted me apologizing for not replying yet because he was very busy and didn’t want to send me a crapy text and was pending to write me back properly. I thanked him for the explanation since I was afraid he had misinterpreted it, he told me that in fact, he found it cool that I sent him that because “is good that people communicate and tell what they think more often” and that I should feel free to talk/write with/to him anytime.
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Then he immediately changed the subject to tell me “flash news” that he had adopted a puppy, and when I asked for details he proceeded to sent me pictures of the puppy and his selfie with her (needlessly to say that I melted, I am a dog lover myself) he sounded very happy and proud and told me her name and age (2 months) and then we shared our thoughts on how deadly cute she was and her features, etc, etc…
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PLEASE NOTICE: This guy is a husky 6feet tall with a manly bass voice, completely bald with a thick black beard and works as an intense HardCore Heavy Metal singer and drummer, when he’s onstage is a machine, he is effortlessly masculine… so the fact that he can be this adorable and sensitive and that instead of enjoying his single life uncompromised especially now that is very busy and he has chosen to invest time to take care of a small sweet creature was so attractive and beautiful to watch, really.
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I have no idea if this guy and I will be anything more than friends, any romantic relationship is doomed by geography and lack of money to travel, even when we both have attraction we tested in the past, but in any case, I just wanted to share the experience. The unique pairings are totally true and is very sexy.
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When he told me that I can call him anytime if I feel tired driving home or long distance. Very sweet move
I was getting tired & grumpy after a full day spent running errands together , and asked him just to pls drive me home after the supermarket. He agreed but suggested that he could cook something real quick for me before taking me home as it was already late and he didn’t want my gastric issues to recur. I was so moved by that sweet gesture .
When i knew that a guy I had just started seeing was moving into a new place with his son, I made them dinner and went to drop it off to them. I knew he probably wasn’t up for having company with nothing unpacked but also that he was probably starving. He was so appreciative and told me later that my thoughtfulness made him really attracted to me.
A mircoattraction moment for me happened in the early stages of my boyfriend and I dating. One night we went out to a bar to get drinks and meet up with his best friend, who I had only met once briefly. When we got to the bar his friend was already there and a little drunk. We was getting pretty close to this girl at the bar and she was all over him. My boyfriend was upset to see him acting this way because he had a girlfriend and was acting in a way that would be not acceptable to the girlfriend. My boyfriend went up to his friend and said, “What the F*&k are you doing? You’re being an asshole right now, how would you like it if Sheila was acting like this with some guy at a bar?” The friend looked guilty and said, “Ya, you’re right, you’re right.”
In that moment I knew he was a person of character and was instantly attracted to him. He didn’t go by the “bro code,” he was all about integrity and honesty.
I remember seeing my ex boyfriend after a year and a half that we broke up, so we started talking about how we were and the new experiences we have lived. So, he started talking about this new job he has (he has to move to another city), and how great he felt with him self for doing it, even if it was difficult sometimes, and he felt lonely any other day, but the joy that filled his eyes, along with some tears.. when he said he now could send money to his parents when they needed it, and how thankful he was with them for their love and support, and now being able to return some of that to them made him feel complete. On that day, i think to myself, i want to be his girlfriend, and then marry him. For real! it made me so proud of him
When I stayed over with my dog the first time, my guy walked the dog so I could sleep in without me asking.
Another thing that I love is he most often ask how my kids are doing in our conversation without ever meeting them.
This guy is really smart. We were driving and I didnt know we were on a unfamiliar road, he just murmured “why am I going this way” haha, too cute. Even it seems he knows everything but that moment, i witnessed a no idea smart grown up man
Several weeks ago, one of the guys I work with asked me my opinion to a problem he was having. I felt like he truly valued my opinion. He used some of the tips I had suggested. Most guys I’ve talked to or worked with, never take anything I say to heart. But I really felt like he does.
I was hanging out with a friend of mine at his house and on the way over my car had started to act up. So I called my dad and was explaining to him what had happened and brainstorming how we could fix it. While I was on the phone, my friend grabbed my car keys and went out to my car. By the time I got off the phone he came back in and said he had fixed the problem. I was head over heels from then on.
When I was first dating the man I would later marry…it was our second date and I asked him what was most important to him in his life and how he would want to leave this world..I was thinking when I asked the question about things like success and accomplishments..things I wanted to achieve …he looked at me..stared me straight in the eye and said he wanted to “die in love” That was a defining moment for me. I literally melted inside when he said it.
This video was beautiful Matthew! If this is heady, then we want more!
I completely agree with your theory! It’s the tiny, fleeting moments that change our hearts.
It’s actually so very difficult to put a beautifully intense moment of microattraction into words…
The best moment I can think of is sitting in my car after a dinner date and holding eye contact for what felt like a really long time. He said “what does this feel like to you, pumpkin?”
I’ve been talking to a guy for awhile now. We’ve been on our first date and have a second planned. So nothing terribly serious yet. He took a weekend trip out of state and didn’t message me all day. I didn’t mind and knew he was driving so I didn’t want to be a bother. I wasn’t expecting to get anything from him. The next morning I woke up to a text from him apologizing and that he knew I was asleep but he wanted to let me know he got to his destination safely. That made me feel like I meant something to him. Definitely made him stand out.
While watching a movie on a 3rd date my PTSD was triggered. A sat through the reat of the movie trying not to pay too much attention to it but started shaking the minute we left the theatre. He knew something was wrong and asked. I very vulnerably told him.
He was driving. Put his hand on mine turned yo me and said, it’s ok if you need to cry. I will never forget the compassion from him.
The guy I want to get back together with is a musician. I am too. He has made a point of criticizing people who rag on bands. Like when people talk smack about Nickelback. I realized I had been following the pack in ragging on Nickelback and I didn’t even know what they sounded like. I have always prided myself as someone who will step out of the mob and stand up for what is right and here, in my interaction with him I learned that I was being someone I did not want to be. In knowing him and spending time together connecting with him I was able to be more of the person I wanted to be. That’s when I fell in love with him.
We were playing basketball in gym class when our teacher blew the whistle to have us line up to go back to the school. Our teacher asked one of the guys she asked to help out that day who was a year older than me to do something and without a single question he did say hat and asked, and this showed not only responsibility, but respect in my opinion
I meant he did what she asked
I was with a guy friend who said he would watch my dog while I went to Florida with my kids .We have a chemistry for sure but I want more than that. While I was at his house our dogs weren’t hitting it off and his 11 year old son came out when hearing all the barking … I was afriad and his son says my dad can handle this have you seen his muscles? He was just so proud and sure of his dad. He Is a great Father and this is attractive to me. And he does have nice muscles ha. ha.
I was standing by the door shoving food in my mouth before my students walked in. I dropped a piece of my burrito on the floor and a teacher who works with me cleaned up the burrito. Then I said I had ants and he went and got sanitizer and took a Kleenex and checked to see if it was really clean.
I loved this, Matt. It was an act of kindness that he did for me in the face of a very tough situation for me. He was calm and strong and I love that he stepped up for me. We were casual friends but he did this very mature and gentlemanly, very manly thing.
On a first date he asked me if I had read and knew my love language. I was quite impressed!