Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
Really great video, Thanks Matt
I agree with you Matt completely. The moment I realized I love him it was when we were talking and I said to him “You can talk to me about anything.” And his eyes got with tears. It was an incredible moment when he looked at me with tears in his eyes. I knew I felt in love deeply.
This moment when he called to say that he wanted to go back home to his space, before he sat down to read my thank you note after a group trip so that he could savor the sentiment and that he had no qualms admitting that he had saved it in his box of papers. I was touched.
I went on a coffee date with someone and it had been my birthday earlier that week. He said we should get cake as it had been my birthday and let me choose and said he was paying at the end because it was my birthday. That meant more to me than the dinner date we went out on the earlier week. He paid for that too. Wasn’t that he has paid for the dates realkybthough thst mattered. It was the gesture of remembering my birthday.
This amazing guy was creating a movie, and I remembered the date he had a meeting with an investor to have funding. I asked him about it and it created a microattraction moment. Just showing I really cared I guess.
Why a woman still wants to be in a hidden and secret relationship with a married man even after knowing that she’s not his first priority for years, how to make her realise?
Met him at a bicycle shop he was the manager. He asked me out on a date. We went and played raquet ball. When we were done playing. We sat down and he looked at me and said. I know you from somewhere we have met before. I remember those amazing green eyes. You were the family that I use to deliver papers to when I was 12 and you were 8. I feel in love with you, and now we are sitting here years later on a date, am I right? I said yes that was me, and I fell in love with you too.
Well needless to say we were married 6 months later and was married for 27 years, until his passing 6 years ago. The love of my life. Never give up on finding your special someone. He may be right around the corner. God bless. Have a beautiful day.
My moment came when he asked me to tell him my story. After sharing a few things, he responded, “Go on”. It made me feel he was really interested in my life. I am just a week into this “relationship ” after being divorced 16 years. I’m a little skittish and don’t want to mess this up! I enjoy all of your videos and I get a lot out of them even though I am older than who they are geared for. lol I’m 51! Thanks again for sharing.
I let the guy I was seeing know that I had just heard earlier that day that a work colleague of mine had lost her battle to cancer. My whatsapp status at the time said “if you do it right you will love where you are”. It seemed totally wrong to keep it given the circumstances. So I was looking for something more appropriate, but I couldnt find anything I liked. I mentioned it to him as we were texting goodnight (he was away for business) and for the next hour or so he texted me suggestions. I loved one of his suggestions and used that! Very special moment. Very special guy.
When we started dating,I became ill with gastroenteritis on our short vacation by the lake due to type of food and drink we consumed. I have not noticed a trace of disgust on his side as I was sick, on contrary, he literally wiped the floor after me and got the meds from the pharmacy, made sure I felt comfortable and looked at me with the same caring look although I new I looked terrible.
I had only talked to this guy a couple of times before this moment but I was out clubbing with my friends one night and he was there. He held my hand as we walked through everyone in the club to make sure I was alright and at the end of the night he gave me his coat to wear and walked me to my car. He didn’t even ask for his coat back even though I didn’t know him very well at the time and he probably didn’t know if he would get it back – it just showed me how gernerous he is as a person and I love it.
There are so many moments like these that happen on-going with my BF and I throughout the last 2.5 years of dating.
I am always reminded that the reason why I date him is because he has such strong character. I think there is a list of many moments that we adore each other more for, but it seems many of them are how we respond to challenges at work, at home and how we support each other and encourage each other in those moments.
I specifically remember a day where he could sense from my text I was down and discouraged, having a sad day. He ran out of his office and called me to cheer me up, I realized he couldn’t stand for me to be sad and wanted to console me and make me feel better. From him caring and realizing my pain pained him, I knew we were emotionally linked. It is a simple thing, a phone call- however – it was that he stopped immediately and called me.
Another moment is we were playing at the park at the beach and he felt he needed to catch the swing and slow it down where my child was swinging… it resulted in him biting his tongue a bit as he caught my son and I see he is protective and will jump to make my son or daughter safe and feel secure.
He tells me that he observes the way I speak to my grandmother and he likes it.
He tells me I don’t do nice things for him and keep score or do it so he will do something nice or do it for show. He says what I do is because I enjoy it and that it wouldn’t change over time, I would always do thoughtful gestures.
He also mentions watching me grow, he says I am able to adjust to change quickly.
Even the first time we meet he tells me I am responsible.
Even his dating profile had bullets when he answered the questions so it was easy to read- I loved the format!
Hi from Denmark and thank you for all your advice, Matt. I attended a seminar over some weeks and this man and I had for the first few days taken a walk together after dinner. One evening he told me that he would have to see someone for an hour after dinner the next day and that he didn`t want me to wait in vain for him to show up for a walk. He also always took care that he was not walking too fast for me(he is much taller than I). I started to think what a great guy – so considerate- he would make a good husbond.
When the guy i was seeing was in the passenger seat next to me in the car and out of nowhere made a gun with his hands and pretended to shoot at cars making the ‘pew pew’ noise. I looked over and smiled and thought it was a moment of genuine silliness that he didnt care what i thought about it. He just did what he wanted to do. It was cute for some reason.
We have been seen each other for a few weeks only, I was at his place but he had to leave earlier to work, and when I was about to leave he had left a chocolate on top of my purse. He used to get up earlier and make me breakfast or prepare something so I could take to work… it made me feel in love completely, but after we started dating I started to do the same things for him and now he stopped doing it :(
my boyfriend finds the way i treat people that are serving at restaurants and stores charming and kind. it’s very attractive he says, as it says a lot about a person’s character.
he also does a sweet inlove face everytime i stop to give money to the homeless.
for me it’s everytime he stops to help someone, or everytime he speaks a different language and takes time to teach me a new word, or the origin of an expression. intelligent and kind are very attractive in a man!:)
I was out partying with a group of business friends when a guy I’d been talking to mentioned a man in the group had guessed my age at way older than I actually am. (I generally don’t act my age even though I am actually older than most of them, but it touched a nerve and I’ll admit my first response was “bastard!”)
The guy I was chatting to clearly thought it was funny that I would even be offended, or take it seriously and he moved the hair off my face, held my face up and said “I don’t care about age. You’re beautiful, don’t you know that?”
I melted :)
Hello,
I have been following your videos for a while and they have really helped me to grow as a person not just from a relationship point of view but in general, to be more myself, confident and patient.
Although I have a question, I have been friends with this guy for almost a year, we had a few months of an online relationship and then we stopped and went to just being friends and we are both quite good at it.
He exactly likes me for these microattractions that you mention, he loved details and little stuff that might not matter to others attracts him. He has been with many people before and he says they were just casual people he forgot, and because I am so special and because he does not want a relationship, he doesn’t want to start something with me, kind of like respects and loves me more than that to start a passing fling with me and risk our meaningful friendship. He doesn’t know how to have a relationship in his own words, he has Aspergers and to him connecting is a challenge,I think he thinks he would burden me with it and he has his recuperation times when he wants to be just left alone, I understand all that and can deal with it but he is too sweet and analytical to want to try.
I am not writing to tell you what I should do with this guy but to ask if you have any plans to try and work on helping people in relationships with people like me and my dear friend. How to integrate your methods into something like that. How to love someone when they might love you but not realise it themselves…
Thank you for all you do
You and your team is awesome!
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I loved this topic. I’m divorced and looking back there were not many micromoments for my ex and I. There was one moment that touched me when we were at my parents during a family gathering at the beginning of our relationship. He was sitting on the couch talking to my brother and I was walking around saying hi to people and helping my mom with food. At one point when I passed him he leaned over and said “I love you so much”. This was a big deal to me because in crowds he is not one to show affection at all. No whispers. No touching. No special glances or stolen smiles. I felt so attracted to him in that moment. It was a big deal for him to put aside his usual reservations because it was more important for him to let me know he loved me.
When he admitted to me that he was falling in love with me as I always make him feel so great.