Where do you meet men??
I believe good people are everywhere. In the video I want to demonstrate that to you, firstly by telling you some of the unusual places I’ve met people, and then by asking you and conducting a little experiment…
Where do you meet men? Where was the last place you met a quality guy?
Let me know in the comments below.
I want you to think of this as an experiment where the more comments we get, the better this is going to be. I’m then going to draw on all of your comments in my next video and let you know the results.
Be specific about where you were, what the location was, and what type of location it was.
Were you taking a class, doing one of your hobbies, were you grabbing a coffee, shopping…tell us!
Retweet this, get it to your friends, share it on your Facebook, pass it on to as many people as possible, and encourage them to comment too.
The more comments we get, the more effective this is going to be. So I can’t wait to read yours!
Matthew x
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I was just a about to pack up the internet as a dead loss, when up popped Cheeky Jim. He was sunny, cheeky, persistent despite me putting barriers up to deter further internet contact. So, as I deleted my profile, he left me his mobile number in case I wanted to contact him – and promptly deleted his profile. Well – how intriguing. As was my luck, I thought, he told me he was disappearing off to sea for 3 months but please would I drop him a message (sailing a passion). Well – I let him stew for 3 weeks, was intrigued, and dropped him a friendly ‘hi’. For 3 months he took that as ‘permission’ and never stopped the momentum – emailing, texting funny messages and calling out of the blue. Nailing me finally for an amazing pre-Christmas date on his return. After three months remote contact, finally meeting him was magical. On the 22nd December 2012 we met – we clicked – he came to my New Years Party – my family and friends loved him – my 2 girls crazy about him. He’s back at sea until early Feb and a day doesn’t go by when he’s not connecting. He has adventures lined up for the year with me and the girls – and we are MADLY in love. I’m 47, he’s 51. And I feel 17!
And I almost wrote the internet off and turned away someone who I suspiciously think could be my soulmate! <3
Hi Joanna,
That is an awesome story! I love it. Thanks so much for sharing! x
Pleasure, Matt. I am Vice President Marketing and Communications of a big $3bn global company – and hugely cynical. But, Wow! You have a BRILLIANT engagement style and personality! And no. I cannot believe I am writing this! :D
The Last guy. We both liked each other but we didn’t start dating each other because he was heading off to school into a whole another state. We met each other through church/friend. His little brother happens to be a dear friend of my and we go to church together. I needed a ride to a church activty my friend wasn’t able to help so he asked his older brother to give me a ride. At that time I didn’t have driver’s licsense and I amused myself with idea. Watch it be ironic the first guy who offers to help me learn how to drive we end up dating…
Well that very first time I met Josh. I was quite disappointed because I was hoping he was as good looking as my best friend aka. his little brother. Funny part he had me drive his car that same day I met him! As time went on Josh became more and more attractive to me. Not because I found him phyically attractive but personality and who he was. Then slowly he became even more phycally attractive to me. Keep in mind I wasn’t even wanting any kind of relationship with anyone and I even thought he be last person I would find myself completely attracted to.
By Halloween he grabed and held my hand. At this point I didn’t realize how much I liked him until he held my hand. One night we were up late talking to each other about whole dating thing. He told me that he didn’t want anything serious before he left off to school because it just wouldn’t be fair to the girl.
Oddly enough I was on the same page as well. Even though we both liked each other a lot. We both weren’t fully ready for a commitment. Maybe later in the future we might end up dating each other? Only time will tell.
Well a year ago I was travelling to swiss and had to land in Amsterdam and wait there for like eight hours. I found my gate after a while and sat there for a moment. Then because I sat right next to where you can charge a great looking guy came and sat almost right next to me. I looked over many times and he looked at me but I didn’t have the curage to say hi. But after a little while of doing nothing I saw that he was looking at some pictures he had taken from his trip (I really like taking pictures) so I got the curage to “man up” I fanelly said hi and we talked for like five hours. I liked him really mutch but through all that talk I forgot to ask for his phone number.. It was a good way to be stuck in an airport for eight hours
Love Merete
I met a guy on a train. I got on my first train, sat down and immediately noticed him get on and sit in front of me, I thought ‘wow hes cute.’ I got off at a station to change trains, he got off as well, but the train was delayed so we were hanging around on the station with a lot of other people. When the next train arrived it was so crowded that I had to stand up, I noticed him sitting down a bit in front of me, but I went and stood in the lobby and we didn’t end up speaking. A few weeks later I was in a bar in town with a few friends, I was at the bar queuing to be served when a man turns around in front of me, it was the man from the train, and he says to me ‘oh my god your the hot girl from the train!’ We exchanged numbers, he said he was going to offer me his seat on the train but I had walked off before he could.
DANM, WHO’S THAT GOODLOOKING GUY THE IHERE?
This is what I was thinking when I met Jessy at the church.
So I went to him and told him that. Exactly, I told him how goodlooking he was and since then we’ve been togheter…
Well, he wasn’t my boyfriend or anything, I kinda blow that of, I don’t want to have a long distant relationship. But we liked eatch other and I think that it could had been something between us..
However, I was on a vacation in South of France and I met him at a bar. It started with me talking to his friends and then he turned around and we started to talk. We two hanged around all night and before we went separate ways, we sat a date to see each other once again before he had to leave and get back home, to Paris. The thing is tho, I was thinking of and I’m still thinking about moving to Paris, so it might would had worked out.. But meanwhile I don’t want anyone to change my lifeplans, I am young and I want to travel alot. Wich makes it difficult for me to find someone that are willing to, kind of, following me. So it might just be the best if I don’t commit to anyone until i’ve committed to myself.
The answer is: at a bar in another country.
He worked at a sandwichbar in a busy metrostation. i used to see him when i got my morning coffee on my way to work. It didn’t work out because we were at completely different stages in our lives. I was young, had just turned twenty-one and had just started to live on my own, enjoying my freedom, going out etc.etc. etc..
He on the other hand was twenty-eight had already been divorced for 5 years and was in the midst of fighting over custody of their 6year old child.
At that moment in time i wasn’t mature enough to handle that kind of situation, i just wasn’t in the same mindset as he was.
We only had a few dates and we remained friends afterwards.
He is still a dear friend of mine and i realise now that i did make the right decision back then.
I know him better now and although he is great man.
He isn’t my kind of man.
We were just a typical case of ‘opposites attract’.
I’ve met amazing guys in so many strange places. My boyfriend and I met online on MySpace and we would always chat. One day he was talking about having a really stressful day so I invited him out to a bar that I was going to with some friends. That was probably pure luck, and we didn’t exactly meet at the bar.
Though I find I meet great guys in quiet places, but I love quiet guys. You know the cutie in the corner of a bar looking kind of scared ? The one who’s only there because his friends dragged him out? Yep that guy. The guy in the cafe with a book ,sipping espresso. That’s usually my type and I find I meet guys like that in quiet places. Buses , the subway, cafes, museums or local events are great places too. I never know how to approach these quiet , shy men. Lucky for me I have a fun guy friend who’s kind of loud and he’ll talk to anyone and make jokes and be the outgoing one. That at least gets the guys attention then I can lean over and say ” don’t worry, he’s nice just a tad crazy” it’s weird but it has worked every time.
The sad thing is without my loud friend around I’ll just glance at him , maybe smile with nothing to say.Especially at cafes when they are alone and the whole place is quiet I kind of feel like I would be a bother.
Good thing I met a guy as shy as myself now . But I always feel a tad shameful when people asked where we met…
Hope that helps, if you actually find the words when you do see a guy who strikes you.
I met the guy I’m currently interested in at my favorite karaoke bar. We are both regulars, and I had seen him around but never thought twice about him. Then a friend of mine asked me, “Hey, is that the guy you made out with here once?” I said no, but it became a joke between us. Every time this guy would come in, my friend would ask the question as if for the first time, and I would pretend to get annoyed at having to answer it repeatedly.
At the bar’s private Christmas party, my friend asked me the question again. I said, “I’m going to put an end to this once and for all!” Because by now, I’d been seeing this guy around for a month and I thought he was cute.
I walked up and said, “Would you do me a favor?” (And this was LONG before I watched GetTheGuy videos.) He said yes. I told him what my friend kept saying, and asked him to come over and set my friend straight. He agreed.
We walked over to my group of friends. I said, out loud, “Would you please tell these people that you have not made out with me here?” He said, “She and I have not made out here.” Then out of the blue and totally unplanned, I whispered in his ear, “…yet.” Without batting an eyelash, he dutifully told my friends, “…yet.” We were both hooked!
Get The Guy videos have helped me realize that he’s not a quality guy who’s ready for the kind of relationship I want, but he sure is fun to practice on!!
Last place I met a boyfriend was at a Valentine’s Day Dance Put on by the local Indian Alliance.
My new job, he was my trainer…, however since its at work, was difficult to tell if he was being polite or interested
A few years ago l had a bad motorbike accident and was raced to hospital to get stitched up. I forgot all about my pain when l saw my ER doctor. Even in that state, l was mesmerised and flirted badly because l saw him as my saviour. I was in a relationship at the time, but a year later when l was single, l took the initative to call him and he still remembered me. It was a magical dating period with a man who was just beautiful and had also helped save my life.
I went on holidays in November with my friend and her family to Lanzorate. Now I knew the family pretty well but her brother was also coming along. I’d never met him as he was over in America for a few months.
My sister and I arrived a day later then the rest of them but when we arrived we checked in and left the hotel to meet them in town. I walked into the bar it was a large bar called “Route 66” got a drink and went over to join them. I noticed him immediately and sat down and began talking to him.
The second night we all went out again and I ended up kissing him. We ended up kissing a few times on holidays. It was really romantic and a fun.
But I’m now back at work and he’s at home so nothing happened when we got home but at least I can look back at the holiday and think how fun it was :). So I guess it was a holiday romance I wasn’t excepting.
Last time I met a guy was at an airport restaurant. He was on his way to a family wedding, and I was on my way to visit some friends for a reunion. He was sitting at the table next to me while we chatted, ate, and exchanged business cards.
We were both very cultured and loved to travel!
Hey Matt,
I am very confused with men. I have had men flirt with me and then back off like nothing happened in two days. This one guys that I guess I’m persuing paced back and forth near me like he was going to the kitchen, but never came out with anything and then acted like nothing happened so I started staring at him to see if I could get his attention. After 2 days of doing this I finally got his attention and he started staring at me. The 4th day I got him to finally wave at me. The thing is I don’t know why I am pretty much persuing this guys because I am more of the girl who waits for a guy to persue me. Another thing is he is the Manager at the Ihop I go to so I don’t see him, but maybe once a month and if lucky 2 times a month.
one of my close friends wanted to go to another country forever.he wanted to have a great goodbye party to his friends.but his house was too small.so I told him u can have a party at my place,it’s big enough for having 50 guests.and he accepted.he invited lots of his friends and… so I met the guy at my own house for the first time.we had good time till next 5 mounths.
My friend and I have been swooning over this one guy that we saw at a club one night. I’m in college, so it was pretty likely to see him around campus, which I did a few times, especially in the dining hall.
One day when my friend and I were having lunch together, the guy was in our line of sight eating by himself and listening to music. No surprise, but our conversation for the whole meal was about him. Being college students, we were a little crude at some points, but it was all in good fun. Then I just had this brilliant idea: why don’t I just go up to him and tell him that he’s gorgeous, because he is. Initially, it was a joke. (And I had only thought of this thanks to you, Matt ☺)
Without trying to bore you with details, my friend and I came up with a semi-elaborate plan for me to go up to him. So after our meal, we got up and parted our ways. My friend didn’t want to just be standing around awkwardly. With his earphones still in, I approached him. He looked up, smiled and took out his earphones. Honestly, he was so gorgeous that I could not stop smiling. I said the following: “Hi, sorry but this is completely random, but I think you’re kinda gorgeous.”
He was taken aback, obviously, because not many people, especially girls, would make that move. But we had a brief conversation; he complimented me back, which made my smile even more permanent. We exchanged names, but that was it. I haven’t seen him since though, but it was an experience.
I’m taking this confidence thing step by step..
I met this guy on the street last summer. Actually, I was taking some pictures and he asked if I wanted a picture with me in it. I was really suspicious, but let him take the picture.
Afterwards, we started talking, and he ended up walking me to the train station.
For my job; I set up a booth at the local Flea Market once or twice a month. This cute / shy guy is a jewelry dealer there .. after small talk few times- asked me out.. went out several times.. now just good friends and look forward to seeing each other and still have lunch sometimes!
I met a cute Japanese guy in Tokio at a dance club, it was a place for everyone I guess because I came with my friend’s mom, my sisters and friends. That night they were playing “international hits”, pretty much dance music. I only knew very few words in Japanese . I noticed this guy is tall, so I asked my Japanese friend how do you say “you are tall” so I could tell him, and so I did! This is how it happened: My friends and I were dancing in a circle and we waved him and his friend to join us. They did, then I got in the middle of the circle, danced a little and grabbed him to join me, he did and then I looked to him, smiled and spoke those words, he gave me a big smile and said “thank you” with a very surprised face(in English! Lol, but he speaks little). Then we exchanged emails, danced the rest of the night and took pictures, had a great time. I didn’t want to leave Japan!
Oh, and I wouldn’t even think of making a move first if it wasn’t for you Matthew! We haven’t had contact since then but man, for sure my confidence was skyrocketing ! Ready to meet the next guy ;)
Congratulations, Diana. So glad you took the chance and created the moment. Thanks for commenting. x