Where do you meet men??
I believe good people are everywhere. In the video I want to demonstrate that to you, firstly by telling you some of the unusual places I’ve met people, and then by asking you and conducting a little experiment…
Where do you meet men? Where was the last place you met a quality guy?
Let me know in the comments below.
I want you to think of this as an experiment where the more comments we get, the better this is going to be. I’m then going to draw on all of your comments in my next video and let you know the results.
Be specific about where you were, what the location was, and what type of location it was.
Were you taking a class, doing one of your hobbies, were you grabbing a coffee, shopping…tell us!
Retweet this, get it to your friends, share it on your Facebook, pass it on to as many people as possible, and encourage them to comment too.
The more comments we get, the more effective this is going to be. So I can’t wait to read yours!
Matthew x
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Friend of a friend’s party. Met my current bf there.
I seem to might Out-of-This-World men when I am at important personal crossroads in life – especially creative ones. I’m a filmmaker and the first significant man I met was in art college. I was suddenly becoming aware of this incredible awakening of creativity and suddenly this perfect man steps right into the picture! He was so attractive in every way but mostly because he seemed like the mentor type – as in, I was going to learn an enormous amount from him since he was a filmmaker too. And I did! We didn’t last but it was something a lot more significant that was going on.
The next significant man was the same. But he was a comedian. He was truly remarkable. Like some kind of impossible peacock of a man! Extraordinarily charismatic and he’d look me up and down like I was a delicious cake or something. I don’t know how he got away with being so attractive!!! He was someone I looked up to again but we didnt’ even ever get together! To this day I cry in my bed when I think of him!
Hmm, I don’t seem to have the typical view on suitors. If I could ask you one question, Matthew, how do I not feel so intimidated by these extraordinary men i seem to attract to myself? I really would like to even stay friends with one and not embarrass myself by putting them up on a pedestal. I can’t seem to think I deserve them even though they’re the only kind I really need. I guess I’m lacking confidence here!
Specifically, I met one of the men mentioned above in my first year in art college. And the second man lived in a building I moved into when I finished college. I met them both through a friend of theirs.
at the disco i thought he was the one but he is also one an aaaaaaahole
I met my, current ex, boyfriend through some friends.The Plan was that I was going out with one of my girlfriends, and her current ex, boyfriend, and he thought it could be fun to set me up with a “blind” date. So he came with us, and we had a blast, it lasted for 3 years, and it were some great years too, so never say No to a “blind” date guys! ;)
it was the second weekend of my post grad degree in warwick, england. i was literally up for anything since i didnt know anyone. a guy i had met during our introductory week asked me if i wanted to join him for drinks and i thought why not… but it wasn’t him. it was his english friend that i connected to… we were tipsy and he asked me for a dance….
ELECTRIC is all i could say to describe the chemistry we experienced… its funny because i’m rarely attracted to men so easy especially the first time we meet!
We were seeing each other since the very next day..sometime around October and we fell for each other like never before…It is bit crazy cuz none of us felt like his with anyone before… But he thinks we are too intense for each other and it would only end up a mess.. he says we should be friends…but then again he gets mad if he sees me with my male friends…. whatever bs is going on i dont know.. but it really hurts.. i’m literally in tears everyday :'(
Errr, if a man really wants you, he won’t start this sudden friendzoning , cause he will not want to loose you;/ and all this jealousy drama at the same time…maye theres another lady involved and he wants time to decide which one is his “favourite”? If so, do you really want to stay with someone who sees you as an option? My advice would e to ask him, wtf is going on-its whether he wants you or not (don’t shoot the messenger, still all this – I like you, ut we should stay friends-doesn’t sound promising;/).
on-line dating… :)
I met my last boyfriend on the Internet.
However the most unexpected place that I met a boyfriend was whilst on safari in the Nairobi National Park in Kenya. I was only there for 24 hours (I worked for BA at the time and got a free flight). We got chatting on the jeep and then when I got off at my hotel in the evening, he jumped off the bus and asked me if I would like to go out to dinner.
I only had an hour to spare before having to leave for the airport, we had the most efficient conversation ever, finding out everything we needed to know and exchanging details, this was years before mobiles, Facebook and email. I didn’t even have a landline so we had to write to each other at first!
I met my husband through our personal trainer. I spied him working out one morning and ask my trainer about him. And he was asking about me. Fun!
Hey Matt! So the guy that I met was on the city bus!! I was taking the city bus home one day from school and there was this guy waiting with me at the bus stop. At first, I didn’t say anything to him, but I knew that I wanted to talk to him. So when we were on the bus, it was pretty crowded (which I used to my advantage ;)) and got an excuse to get close to him. From there, I struck up a conversation by commenting on his bag!! And that’s how it all began!
Gosh, there are so many. Most memorable:
I was living in Florence, Italy as an undergrad student and was sitting in the Joshua Tree Pub having a pint on my own waiting on some friends when one little old gypsy lady walks past selling roses (how cheesy I thought to myself). Anyway, there was a loud ( and I mean LOUD) group of Sardinians sitting at my peripherals, that I glanced over at once or twice because I was reading. Fifteen minutes later one of the girls from the loud crew waltzes over and brings me a rose. “Oh boy” I thought to myself. She said “this is from my brother who is getting over a terrible breakup, I bought him this rose and told him I would personally deliver to the most beautiful girl in the bar.” This story has multiple elements to it as any others above, like us hanging-out all night that first night, him LOSING my number and returning to the bar every night for an entire month to get my number again. We are still friends today. Sweetest man I’ve ever dated.
Hi Yudelka,
That is an amazing story, very romantic! Thanks for commenting. x
He was visiting his family at my church and sat in the same row as me.
MATT!!! THE LAST TIME I MET A GUY WAS ON INTERNET!!! hahaha …there is an application called “text plus” You can send free SMS to phones. He is from the States and I’m from Peru. In dec. 11′ he sent a SMS saying “hey how u doin?” WE WERE TALKIN THE WHOLE TIME. We even dated and now WE MET NEXT MONTH IN PERSON!!! CAN U BELIEVE IT?? :D
I’d love to hear your opinion about long distance relantionships :D
You r the best!!!!
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I met a really great guy on a parliament simulation (a roleplaying simulation) that took place in Brussels, Belgium. All the participants stayed at the same inn for the week, so we were all together 24 hours a day.
Me and this guy were part of the same committee but I never dared to speak to him until the third evening, where I came up to him with an unexpected, zany pick-up line, literally asking him if he wanted to play at riddles. He laughed, and we started talking to each other, flirting, and spent all the rest of the week together.
It happened 7 years ago, and even if it didn’t work out, we’re still close friends, and we still laugh about the way I broke the ice =p.
The last serious person that I went out with, I met at in a college classroom. We worked on a project together, then were friends for a long time before it turned into something else. We are broken up now for several reasons. But we met in a class. When I first met him, I had no idea that we would eventually be attracted to one another.
At a new year’s party at my friend’s house. It was a very small party and he was the only person there that I did not know
I actually met my last boyfriend on a bench on the corner of the library at college. He was reading a book as I was walking to the cafeteria, and I thought he was cute (I have a thing for redheads) so I couldn’t resist saying, “You’re cute, I would really like to meet you!” I sat down and we talked for an hour right there, immediately hitting it off. This experience made me so overjoyed because it was finally proof that introducing myself to random strangers who catch my eye is 100% worth it even if 90% of the time nothing comes of it.
I met him at a house party my friend invited me to.
Hi Matthew, I really enjoy your blogs and videos. You have some excellent advice on dating, and I enjoy getting a man’s view.
I live in a city in New Zealand which is known for having a ‘man drought.’ There are far more women than men in the 25-35 year old age group. I’ve been here for three years and have yet to have a date. It is so bad I’m thinking of moving to London or Australia. I have a great career here and love my country, but am in my late 20s and don’t know if I will ever meet a guy here. I’ve met many single ladies who are in their 30s here, have come back from their O.E. experience in London and have the same issue. Any advice?
Places I’ve met guys (in my early 20s before the man drought hit NZ lol): Through friends at BBQ, at a bar during at staff Christmas party, and through friends at pubs.
Meetup.com is a great way to meet guys. Join a group that interests you and you will find guys with similar interests. It’s great!
I met the last guy I dated on real-time rideharing (I’m not really sure how to put this in proper English – this is what wikipedia calls it though it sounds awfully complicated ;) )
The purpose of that ridesharing obviously isn’t dating but getting a ride so you can talk during those otherwise boring hours but you don’t have to. Even apart from that guy I got to know a lot of fascinating people that way. And after having talked for two or more hours asking for a number is really easy :)
Hi Franziska,
That’s a really interesting story. I like the simple idea of people sharing rides for the company! THanks for sharing. x