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Beautiful. Thank you so much for this reminder, and for being such a wonderful example of the very vulnerability of which you spoke. Blessings to you and your team!
Thank you, Matthew!! You give me hope as I deal I appreciate what you do and a wonderful videos you sent me. I feel sometimes lonely and sad but when I feel lonely I watched your videos over and over makes me less lonely so I thank you
Loved the video. I live alone, and most of the time feel great about that and enjoy my solitide as well as time with friends. But today, oddly, I felt lonely. I decided not to reach out to others but as an experiment, work through matters on my own.
I am proud to say I ate only two small bags of chips, total 260 calories. I can justify everything else I ate. I swear.
Then I watched your video and I’m excited to see the next one. I think I’m on your mailing list, and I’ll watch out for an announcement.
Till then, have a great week!
Hi Matthew and community,
Thank you for the video!
I’ve been hurtingly lonely since a breakup 2 months ago.
Even tho we’ve started to flirt and talk, that’s not real intimacy, it’s getting reacquainted.
My mother died this week.
I guessed my ex-boyfriend, who’d been my joy and comfort, probably wouldn’t want to hear this.
I’d look needy. I might cry. It might be more intimacy than he’d want.
So I shut down.
Way down.
An incredibly deep loneliness spread thru me.
Altho I’d been there for him for 2 deaths in his family last year, that was when we were a couple.
I forced myself to attend yoga, a new experience.
A stranger, who turned out to be a fellow classmate, opened the door for me, giving me a warm smile from his eyes and his mouth. It was so real that relief washed over me. I smiled back and felt belonging.
Receiving a genuine smile is wonderful.
I passed it along to another classmate at the end of class.
The first step to making progress towards happiness and not loneliness is the intention. Waking up with the intent of feeling happy. It isn’t that you can’t feel lonely, or that feeling isn’t valid. Taking a step back, and becoming aware of the emotion, taking it in, allowing yourself to feel it, and letting it pass can be a way to heal. What can be dangerous is when you become stuck in that emotion, and hold onto it hoping for it to change. Change comes within, and our own perspective will create the reality around us. I feel lonely before bed sometimes when reflecting on life. But I will wake up with the intention that the day will bring me something beautiful… I started this in January, and this year has been the most amazing year because I am in control of my happiness. Thank you for these videos, I feel it helps a lot of people.
I have “only” 3 friends that I talk about really important and deep stuff. And I noticed that I prefer their company, than being on a great party with “flashy” people that talks about a loads of nothing really..
Also it is sad how people don’t really look at each other anymore, strangers passing through with their heads in their phones trying to connect, but they forget that real life is offline..
I am single looking after my dad I am a carer. They only person I talk to is myself or carers come in.I am 45years old my friends I see are elderly.I hardly see my friends at my own age. I have once a week phone call to my x boyfriend who friends with benefit.I just feel really lonley. He took me away he paid for the hotel room and we had a fall out and we still talking now he not texting me or phoning me. I feel very lonley and on my own doing everything for my lovely wonderful caring dad. I wouldn’t change caring for.
Hi Matthew, here I am leaving you a comment after watching many many videos you have posted. Those videos have helped me so much to understand myself and grow as a better person. I’m a single mum for an 8 year old Autistic son who hurts me and worries me all the time. I’m 34 and very good looking but when a guy gets to me that I have a disabled child they don’t want me. I have no family and very limited friends who are just work collegues. I spend most of the time alone and my mind is like a diary . I have conversations within my brain every single day. I feel lonely when I go out to a restaurant and sit in a table for 1 or going to a movie by myself. But regardless of my loneliness I keep doing these things and I have no shame about it. Hardest thing for me is I do get chance to meet new people going out alone like this but soon as they find out my disabled child they don’t ask me out.
I have accepted life as it is and I keep loving myself. I keep doing things that I love to do and it was the only thing that kept me going.
I’m glad that I found your videos because watching these videos confirmed me that I’m doing the exactly what I should be doing. I feel more confident and if I ever feel lonely I now know how to deal with it as well. Thanks Matthew. Have a great day !
Kind regards
Jaymie
hi matthew ur videos are always inspiring…I wish the guys u talk about in ur videos nd articals exists in real world…bcz in real world nothing works like this…they just left…
Hi :) Thank you for this video and for everything you are doing to help people feel better with themselfs. You and this community giving me so much power and better feeling everyday.
Thank you to all off you <3
Wonderful Video, dear Matthew, and so true…………living in the here and in the now and feeling the energy of the here and the now is one of the answers to feeling connected….
Dear Jon,
Hi!
I was actually feelin lonely not able to watched the GOT season 7 episodes,all the links were not complete,aaghh… I clicked on episode 1 but it turns out to be the last part when one or my dragon got slained? I could not even find it in Netflix?soo frustrating, internet is soo misleading, don’t know what’s true and what’s not…
and you even know I’m hiding away and this is not what really makes me sad.lol
you know things.lol I just wanted to have an excuse to say “hi”
Yours,
Daenerys
PS. I’ll send you laters baby
I always post comments for you matt:)
I love you matthew hussey
and thank you :)
I live in a country which people’s eyes are all dark and black
whenever you post a video matt , I set the highest quality just to see the color of your eyes :D
I think I need to travel abroad to see more blue-eyed people
your color is much more attractive than we ,black eyed people :)
Iv been a single mum for 6 years now. In that time my friends have found love and have no time for me. I end up at home most of the time. I feel house bound because I have two small children and no one to look after them, and no one to go out and socialise with. It’s a vicious circle.
I sit here most nights thinking of all those couples who can go to the cinema a lovely meal, who can laugh together then come home and share intimacy, whilst I sit here alone. I miss that so much I feel empty
Iv tried online dating and that has not Been a good experience
I feel there should be a website where people like me can make friends in a similar situation, who can connect when lonely or meet up to socialise. Or just become amazing friends.
Life has challenges and Iv been through a lot of personal upsets and not having someone there to give he a big hug and say “I’m here for you” makes life’s struggles even harder to bare. Doing things alone is hard especially seeing couples taking their children out for family days out and I’m there trying my best for my two beautiful children. I start to feel there’s something wrong with me for not being able to meet a lovely guy. But deep sien I have a lot to give a guy. As for my friends I can’t change their priorities even though Iv spoken to them about how I feel. They still have no time for me. I can’t go anywhere to make new friends.
Ive recieved such a feeling of support and strength from your videos… i think of all my friends going through sumilar levels of loneliness for various reasons and my immediate thought is always how i want to introduce them to your videos… they span so many lifestyles and circumstances so gently and simply.
Thank you Matthew for the work you do.
Loneliness I feel the pain between Iyhink of my children and grandchildren I smile and it keeps me going! Keep up the good work Matthew what a beautiful soul you have xx
Thank you! Still working on breaking the loneliness cycle after separating with a really close friend. The fact that they did not want to save / continue our friendship made me doubt everything they had ever said that made me feel worth and doubting the value of our friendship and my value as a friend. I’ve spent the last couple of months trying to avoid loneliness but it keeps catching up with me. I try really hard to make / feel connections. I don’t always succeed but I always feel best when I am with the people I feel connected to. Don’t have a romantic partner but have worked hard to develop a few good friends.
Hi Matthew I’m a single mom with no family members around I don’t have a social life, but right now at this moment listing to you video I know that I have some work to do with me. So thank again for sharing x
Oh God rabbit in headlights that’s me…
The most moved I’ve been by someone was when they showed me their vulnerability and I probably looked like I could care less. Really I was just surprised and so moved by their openness and words. I guess sometimes we can shut others out without realizing what we are doing simply because we don’t know how to react. Hopefully some day I can be better able to respond and be more vulnerable myself. Let’s all be more vulnerable please. Thank you for sharing this video Matt.