I realized a huge truth about getting rid of loneliness that I didn’t mention in last week’s video.
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Thank you matthew for creating that safe place where we can share and realize that we all have things in common
Vulnerable vs disingenuous. I had a really hard time letting down my walls right after college bc during college I was scoffed at when I showed caring for something or someone. It was like vulnerability became a weakness and I was immediately put down for it. Fast forward years later after traveling the world for 2 years and I have found that vulnerability allows for other people to show their humanity. And I also found out I am brave, for not letting someone else’s version of weakness define me, for going against the culture of what it means to be strong. So thanks for today’s email.
You really knocked it out of the park and will for sure be sharing this on fb. Lots of love,
Sara
100%. being alone isn’t being lonely. I always feel much more lonely in a group. and so many people don’t get that.
I hardly ever find people I can feel connected to. Being around people make me feel that even more. I can “forget” it when I’m on my own.
He’s wearing a cloak because he is vampire
I attend a therapy class and loneliness gets mentioned like ALL the time. It’s the #1 cause of depression. Everyone on earth should know one person. There should be one person you can go grab a coffee with. If not, then you need to improve your people skills and work on getting that person. Or building that network. Just get up and move! Go to a public place. We are never alone. Take a risk and talk to someone! Just ask “how’s your day going so far?” No expectations. Just share a smile like Matthew says. Don’t expect a smile back. Be bold and Be brave and Be happy!! Happiness provides energy to do things and to make goals happen!! Cultivate happiness and maximize good energy.
It’s weird because over the past few weeks, I have been very lonely. Thank you for this video.
Thank you, Matthew……….my first comment. I’m lonely sometimes but I have faith that the Universe is preparing me for something better. My alone time right now is part of the mix…….
Hi Matthew,
Another good vid but there’s a paradox here too. You always tell us that confidence is a major part of attraction, and here you are telling us that so is vulnerability. Do you think they sit happily together – that they are congruent?
Liz
It´s really great to think that being vulnerable is a good thing, I´ll do this more often. It really is magic to open up to people like this. I used to think I was ridiculous, like telling a friend that I don´t actually have many friends, this made my friend feel special, unlike my expectation of being perceived as silly.
I enjoyed this vedio
Hi Matthew …
I don’t normally reply as i am not really great with words … i will write and then probably rewrite this msg about a dozen times b4 i send it … how ever i did want to say thank you for your videos i am finding them comforting if that makes sense .. i have been single for 3 yrs now i have had 2 not so great relationships one quite abusive for 15 yrs … i am 42 with 3 fantastic girls ..
At first i hated being single and thought i couldn’t manage on my own .. then got use to it had a few dates here and there but nothing serious as i felt i wasn’t ready to let anyone in completely … i felt empowered being my own person making my own decisions for a change … now its come to a stage where its been 3 and a half nearly 4 yrs and its like I’ve forgotton how to date .. its kinda scary I’ve been so busy not letting myself be vulnerable so as not to get hurt rhat i don’t even know how to go about it anymore … how did this happen? I don’t know how to connect with a man on a personal level anymore it always feels fake … i feel fake! Not sure how to change this please help
Kind reguards Jasmine
Matthew, your videos make me laugh. You are such an incredible person. I can’t believe myself as a 38 years old woman is so attracted by what you are saying about relationships and human being, and learn so much from a 27 years old who usually I call a kid.. lol! Will love to meet you some day when you visit Orange County in Southern California.
Thank you for the response to my email. This is the poem I wrote for Matthew … hope he enjoys receiving as much as I enjoyed writing it!
From the ashrams in India to the streets of LA
I searched high and low, for someone to light the way
The dating world can be confusing
and consequently not so amusing
Whilst dating coaches are abundant
I found most of their “tips” redundant
Then one beautiful blue sky LA day
I found the man to guide & show me my way
With his cool English wit and charm
he does slowly and gently disarm
Whilst promoting intelligence, humor & integrity
Matt quickly gets down to the nitty gritty
He teaches us to drop the virtual hanky
Instead of on a first date… our panty
Whilst judge us he does not
His encouragement to excel is hot
You offer us tools
and just a few rules
So I thank you Matthew Hussey on behalf of us all
who watch and listen intently to your sweet English drawl
For like a burning fire
It is true love I desire
Mission accomplished Mr. Hussey
With love from one of your devoted posse
Xx
Bella Maree
Hi Matthew thanks so much for these amazing videos you take the time to do. I have a request if I may – I recently met a man for the first time after talking a great deal of time where he was totally into me and even when we met he was totally into me then he made a comment that he can’t go further due to my height and the fact that he felt I didn’t have the perfect figure. Now I don’t want to pursue things with him but that comment has stuck with me and affected my confidence with other men. How does one go about not taking things like that personally and let it affect your self worth?
Matthew and Jameson,
There is a 40+ year old woman 2 houses away from mine, that was terribly abused by her fiance, who left her with a special needs child. I discovered her two weeks ago, she has not left her house for 5 years except to go to work, and take her son to school.
Since I have subscribed and purchased some of your products, I have taken some of these videos of yours and given them to her to view. The last two you did on loneliness I have yet to give her. You might not believe it, but you just might have enough impact to save somebody’s life if they can be reached in time.
I have lost my son and my wife in the last couple years, so am struggling with the same issues, and that is how I stumbled upon your topics.
I hope to connect with her, to bring her back from the dark place she is in now and will be using your dating information to help in that process.
God Bless you and your crew for all that you do out of the goodness of your hearts.
Very inspiring… God bless.
That’s the spirit! You are a gift to her, I hope she sees it soon and developed an understanding of healthier relationships.
Loved every word. I’m really trying and striving to show more vulnerability.
Thank you Matthew, for these wonderful videos and for reminding me that it’s ok to feel lonely and that we can work together to better our relationships by just being polite, curtious and warm towards others because sometimes that smile that you give to someone can mean a difference in the type of day,they may chose to have!
Hello! I have been doing that more,stepping out of my box, and letting people see the real me! I learn to approach, step out, and it’s not so bad or weird! I learned it from my church, and good friends who encourage me! I feel happy! Content!
Thank you,
Debora Herrera
Fantastic ..so true ..time to smile at others more and not be deflated if they don’t smile back
Difficult to appear vulnerable with strangers