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Great stuff Matthew! Thank you for helping so many people!
If all people were more open, life would be much easier
Hey! I always look forward to your videos Matthew. Thank you so much for devoting your time to doing them. Your not afraid to cover the big issues. Loneliness has been a big deal for me most of my life. From being bullied at school to never having a real friend at church. It feels like every time I make a close friend they move away or I loose them. So it’s got to a point I am not even sure I know how to make friends anymore. But I have a great family and friends I occasionally see. And I have learnt to enjoy my own company. But it does make me feel unworthy. You hit the nail on the head with that! Thanks for showing us we are not alone. Lou xx
I have never commented on your videos but have watched almost all of them. What was said about smiling really struck a cord cause I’ve been asked sometimes why I smile so much and this encourages me to keep doing it. I have noticed it makes people remember we are all human. That we are all dealing with difficult things but just recieving a smile from a stranger can be encouraging.
You give great advice and I like the fact that you don’t dress things up. Your face tells that you are honest and trully believe what you say. Its refreshing and, just like a smile, encouraging.
Keep on doing all you are doing cause I bet you help more people than you actually know.
Huggs!
Andrea
Thanks a million, what a lovely video and the mini ones of others sharing their experiences too. Made me laugh and cry. Obviously I’ve never been lonely but it happened to a friend of a friend once!!!! Okay, maybe that’s not stricty true!! Thanks again for the feel good factor xx
thanks so much for sharing this beautiful video. It made my day and reminded me that I am not the only one feeling lovely at times. This video gave me hope and brightened my day. I am so grateful to you for this beautiful gift to us.
Yes I feel lonely I meditate read play with my puppy what a blessing she is. I have been a very busy mother of 4 married for 48 years a busy career my husband passed away my children are all grown and moved away. And now I am by myself trying to find happiness in my life
It makes me sad to hear about people feeling lonely. I often say that one of the biggest challenges in life is to make your life whole without looking for others to fill it for you. How do I make an effort do this? Meditate on what brings me joy that doesn’t involve another person and insert those things into my life. Look at this giant world and all of the people in it! I get so much joy by simply interacting and making “friends” with people at the grocery store, gas station, etc. Just a smile, a hello, or saying something nice to someone will not only make their day a nicer one, but it will also make yours a nicer – more whole one too. :) Thanks Matthew for also highlighting that you don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. So true.
Hey Matthew,
I went to your retreat in August ’15, quick shout out! Your video on loneliness was an on time word as well as this one. I have been feeling lonely, sad, etc. You helped me to realize that this is a normal emotion, and that anyone at any stage can feel lonely, not just a single person. This video helped me to realize that I am struggling with being vulnerable. Vulnerability, of course!!! I will be more aware and understand that if I want to connect with friends in a deeper sense I must be willing to be vulnerable.
Thank you for the video Matthew. It was the first thing I saw opening my eyes this morning.
I have been trying to be comfortable with my single life and solitude.
I travel and pursue an adventurous life but never have someone to share it with. I always wake up with an ache in my heart. That I have not felt loved back in so long. I miss feeling loved and it makes me feel very alone.
I have friends and family, a community. But being lonely and the ache in my heart I feel everyday, genuinely hurts.
Having a successful life helps me deal with the loneliness. But I don’t think the mornings will change till I see someone I love laying next to me and knowing they love me back.
Your videos and podcasts give me hope.
I feel like you are me lol
I have felt the exact same way that this is bringing me to tears.
I wish I had an answer. We will be ok
Having a significant other is not a sure thing on beating lonliness. Many people commented that they feel alone within a relationship with their significant other or in a large family.
A good way to handle lonliness is loving and accepting who you are, the way that you are. Try to not compare yourself and your relationships to those around you. Always searching for someone and failing to find them is a constant reminder of what you don’t have. Instead focus on all that you do have. You sound amazing. You sound like you do have an amazing life. Enjoying every moment, loving and experiencing all that you can in this wonderful life that you have built is so attractive and would surely bring to you the wonderful relationship that you are craving. You are not a failure in not having a relationship. Being single does not define who you are or make you lacking. When you get that relationship you are wanting, it is only going to add to the wonderful life you are already living.
This really resonated with me today. I watched both videos back to back and I really wish I would have seen the first one last week. This Saturday I had purchaced 8 tickets to go see an 80s cover band thinking surely my friends would love this. But I could not find one friend to agree to go. My brother and one of my cousins finally agreed to come and my brother brought 2 of his friends but I just felt so sad and lonely that people didn’t want to join me. I’m usually the life of the party but I didn’t have a great time at the show because the people I wanted to come weren’t there. I even got us on the list for the VIP area and that club felt like a Vegas level club and I still wasn’t having the best time. I should have just enjoyed the experience. Thank you for this perspective, Matthew.
Vulnerability! Yes! This is something I’ve been working on the past couple years to soften into. I recently completed Yoga Teacher Training and started teaching, which for me has been SUUUPER vulnerable.
Hitting 30 and finding myself alone and fearful of the world and my ability to thrive in it was an eye opening experience. I found that the hard shell and discipline I’d protected myself with over the years wasn’t actually serving my highest pursuit of love and connection.
I believe wholeheartedly that the solutions to most, if not all, the worlds problems are for us all to be more authentic and open with each other. SOO much easier said than done. Continuing to shine light and encouragement in this direction is so important and it makes me soul glow whenever I see people of influence sharing this message <3
Thank you for sharing. It’s somewhat of a relief to know I am not the only person who feels lonely at times. I agree with you that FB gives us an illusion that we are constantly missing out on life or not enough. Thank you for reminding us we are enough
That was simply not a part from any one of the Harry Potter books but I forgive you, LiberaNed.
Hi everyone!
I just want to say look for the people that appreciate YOU!
We can’t please everyone no matter how hard we try.
Look for the people that want to be with you.
I go out alone all the time. I’ve found some special people and some not so nice people.
Don’t invest yourself in the not so nice people. They will never appreciate you. You don’t have to understand why.
Just keep moving and searching for the people who are happy and loving.
They ARE out there. Sometimes it just takes time to find them and weed out the rest. The less time you spend feeling bad about why they don’t like you, the better. Just move onto the next like it’s a quest to find treasure.
When you are on your quest, make yourself your lover and best friend.
Ask yourself what you would like to do today. What would make ME happy today? Do I want Sushi? Do I want a better body? Do I want to learn a new skill? Do I want different hair or clothes? ANYTHING!
Make yourself your other person, your lover. And do for her what you would want someone else to do. Some of these things are just in the moment or sometimes they are goals you can do a little each day to get closer to your dream life.
Dogs help too. Or even just a little hamster lol. Idk. I get lonely too but these things seem to help. You can only talk to yourself for so long…
The thrill of getting out of your comfort zone and randomly talking to someone else is a rush!
So good!!! Next time I’m feeling lonely I’m going to make myself go outside and take a walk and smile and try and start a conversation with as many people as I can! Thank you!
Hi, Matthew I wanted to thank you for your video on loneliness. Yes I do feel lonely and it was so bad I would sleep with a picture of someone so I could fall asleep.or a picture of someone on my phone. My husband won’t sleep with me, its been 13 yrs now and he said it would make it easier when we do get apart, and that he is losing his love for Me! That hurt because I do love him. We have been married 38 yrs.1 son. Anyways I just wanted to reply back to you for the first time.Thank You, Sharon Covey
You are one of the most genuine guys I know.did’nt think guys like u exsisted.how do you seem to get get me so much.i cry with a variety of emotions,every time I watch your blogs.looking forward to seeing you at the retreat in November.can I reserve a big hug.best wishes Kathy
Hi Matt,
I’ve not much to say……
Thank you for your presentations.
Diane
Always fabulous… makes me smile and feel connected.
I’m a single young mother, my daughter goes to day care Monday-Friday for the full day. My evenings and weekends consist of giving my full attention to her, and my days consist of giving my full attention to college. I can’t pick a specific time or place where I feel lonely, it’s a constant gut feeling that I have on a daily basis. I still struggle to fight this dark cloud that follows me around, this lonely feeling I have. I started to get a sense of happiness when someone shone their light my way. But when they walked out it all came back. I don’t have many friends either, but when I am with my very few, that feeling just lingers around still. I will sit in a room with my family, and still feel like the room is empty.
I watch these videos and they give me a sense of hope that someday this feeling will end. That I am NOT alone.
Thank you for helping me keep my head up high.