Are Dating Sites Worth The Hassle?

Matthew was invited by BBC radio 5 live late last night to discuss why dating sites may not be the best route when it comes to meeting and attracting guys, the points raised were very interesting, so we decided to post it.

It’s no question that online dating has exploded over the past few years, but can it really help you find the guy you want?

I mean you need to avoid the crazies, the fake photos, the stretching of truth and maybe just maybe, you may find a legitimate guy.

Listen to the online dating discussion:


So to wrap up the conversation we have some good and bad points.

The good things about dating sites

  • You don’t need to spend too much time on meeting guys
  • You can pre-screen guys based on a bunch of profile features
  • Men are more likely to contact you

The bad things about dating sites

  • Profiles may not be up to date
  • It’s easy to manipulate a profile and add fake photos, bios etc
  • May not be safe
  • You will get hounded by guys NOT looking for a relationship
  • Doesn’t help you attract men in your every day life
  • Getting a date doesn’t equal getting the guy

What are your views on internet dating? Have you tried it? If so, did it go well? Have your say below… we at Get The Guy, don’t dismiss internet dating, we encourage you to try it, but just don’t use it as your sole form of meeting men. We would suggest giving a try.

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21 Replies to “Are Dating Sites Worth The Hassle?”

  • hello, i love your advice. it’s very helpful. i do want to say that i was actually just flipping through the internet looking at advice on bravo’s millionaire matchmaker. then i saw Matthew’s on youtube. while i was listening to his advice. i could not help but realize how beautiful he really is. i know he is not the one for me. but everytime i watch him. i can’t even pay attention to what he is saying because he is sooo beautiful. thanks for advice and Matthew’s beautiful face and voice.

  • I can’t be bothered with these sites anymore. Photos are deceptive and the ratio of strange men to normal men is just too high. I used a large dating website and I ended up with an underhand bully who since admitted he was on community service. I chose a higher calibre site after that, but to be honest I would rather go out, expand my circle of friends and meet someone through recommendation.

  • I met a guy who lied totally about his job and education. Like ALOT. Enough to be accused of misrepressentation.

  • Dating sites (actually not sites but apps) actually enabled me to practice my conversation skills with guys, boosted my confidence which led to my new approach towards guys in real life. I’m much more relaxed now around men and wit/rapport comes naturally I seldom have to think about it (in real life). So in a way I wouldn’t diss dating sites, I see it as a complementing element to one’s love life/confidence building process. I personally have been asked out by many men online, but only gave phone number to a handful after a careful selection process. I’m not too keen on meeting people from the internet and so I’ve only met a few outside. That was also sort of a training for me – getting myself out there in the field and put my online wit to real life practice. The fact that I knew they liked me helped a lot to calm me down and feel relaxed, be myself around them and bring out my usual witty “online-self”. After a short while I sort of adopted that behavior and I feel much more comfortable now talking to guys, even those that I like – which never happened before.

  • The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country. The most common idea is two people trying out a relationship and exploring whether they’re compatible by going out together in public as a couple, who may or may not yet be having sexual relations. This period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement or marriage.”*

    Be well

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  • My experience off and on for years with online dating sites is that they don’t work for the most part. It’s due to the many things that are usually mentioned as negatives, so there’s no need for me to repeat all of that. But due to the simple fact that you are not LOOKING at this person, as Matt says, “in the flesh,” you really know NOTHING for sure. I have heard people say that meeting someone in your everyday life is a gamble, too; however, there are certain things that will be “in your face evident.” You won’t have to question WHAT they really look like or what their personality is like.

    You will be able to discern whether this is someone you’d be interested in getting to know FURTHER and it will take less time. You can also accomplish this without revealing a lot of really PERSONAL info to a VIRTUAL stranger. Online dating? NOT A FAN!!!!!

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  • Good points but its really a gamble when you use dating sites. There is not much to gain and a lot is on stake. From my personal experience I would not recommend to use this sites but until you try you would never know. So make your choices but be careful. Good luck!

  • For first timers online dating is an amazing, new and unseen experience which immediately attracts their attention. But you might end up having a very bad experience and find someone who might exploit you! Also it’s hugely time-consuming activity and you can develop an addiction that kills your precious time. So its up to you guys, but you should be careful!

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