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What A Difference A Year Makes

It’s been an amazing year for my team and I. With this video I want to stop by to say hello, to say thank you for making happen all that you have, and to reflect on the year and tell you some of the things I’ve learned along the way.

Leave a comment below and tell me one thing you’ve done this year that you appreciate, as well as one thing you’ve learned.

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  • Hey Matthew,

    I’ve been following you for almost two years now, and I’d like to thank you for all the work you’ve been doing. I finished the FTTMR program and feel like I’ve learned SO much from it and it has given me so much new perspective.

    This year I graduated from college, and a few months ago I uprooted myself and moved to Washington, DC. It has been kind of overwhelming and I’ve been so busy that I haven’t been able to make as much progress in my love life as I’d have liked. I need to work on putting your advice into practice by talking to lots of people, which is normally scary for me!

    One thing I learned this year is to not lower my standards for a guy just because I THINK I like him, because this will never end well, and I learned it the hard way!

    Thanks again for everything! Come back to the East Coast sometime!!

    1. Hi, Marissa. Absolutely side with you on that line: not lower my standards for a guy just because I THINK I like him.
      Take care!

  • I actually met a guy and things have been going very well. I knew that one day it would happen but I couldn’t have done it without you. Thank you so much for inspiring me. Since I first saw this website I have become much more secure with who I am.

    Life is pretty crazy; I’ll never understand it. My life isn’t going to get easier or less hectic anytime soon, but for once I don’t care. I’m happy and that’s all that counts. Nothing else matters, and logic is ridiculous when it come down to matters of the heart. I know I’ll make it because I have learned to trust myself. I think my first New Year’s resolution will be to have more fun because I know I deserve it. :)

  • This sounds strange, but I’m so proud of you and your work!
    what I’ve done that I’m proud of has to be that I have made ​​a plan of what to do with my life ..
    Next year I am moving from Norway to London to go to university.
    I’m very happy with this decision even though my parents are less happy about it… anyway .. looking forward to your book, but you can buy it online?

    Love you lots xx

  • Hey Matt,
    I just wanted to take the time to say thank you for all you have done because you have helped me a lot. Thanks to you I have one of the best guys in the world. You have helped me gain confidence and believe I can do things and not just sit and watch things happen. I hope you have a wonderful year.


  • Hey Matt,

    One thing I have done this year that I appreciate is starting a gratitude journal.
    I have been doing the FTTMR program and have learned some great tips so thank you. I have found that at times I still don’t know what to say to a guy. Any advice?

    1. Hi Lucy,

      Find one thing about them that sticks out or that you’ve noticed (for example his shoes, laugh, haircut) and tell him how much you like it. Everyone loves getting a compliment.


  • I have learned that it is ok to let go of the past and all of the things that I did or didn’t do. I try to approach guys I think are cute but have learned that sometimes I am unsure what to say. Do you have any tips Matt? I would also like to know how I can get attraction and what I can say to a guy I like that I have talked to already.

  • HI, Matthew! Lots of things happened this year. I’m reinventing myself and have included some new people in my life. Absolutely agree with you that relationships change our lives. Life is more fun now although I’m still single. I’ve always reminded myself to strike a work-study-life balance. I’m very happy for you, Matthew. Can’t wait to read your book. Am sure more successes will come to you!

  • Hi, Matt thank you for your wisdom shared over the year. I’m happy for you having the best time of your life right now, you deserve it!
    From April this year, I made a plan- going out every weekend till december , meeting people (mostly guys, lol) with open mind, in hoping that I could find the right one. Plus I also give this time for myself to find my true passion for my future career. ( btw, I turned 26 last month and I’m currently an accountant) .. So, after all the bars, drinks and wonders with cigarettes over balcony , I’m here still single , with lots of unamed or named phone numbers, which i could not bother to take the time to delete.. Matt, I’m sick of going out meeting ‘strangers'( a.k.a going on a date) it’s all the similar routine, you going out, out of 10 guys trying to talk or filter or whatever, you give your numbers to 2 or 3 of them. The next day or so, they call you for an ‘amazing’ place to eat ( that what they always call, but most likely jz some ordinary fine dining) and then having those introductory conversation. the guys are, some funny, some very successful, some younger and some are even fraking marriaged. but they are all smooth talker, a bit of play boy and after for one thing. and you know they all end up the same, it didn’t go anywhere further than average 4 weeks. And Matt, trust me I always try to make it fun or different, every time. But after all these people, now I’m sitting here thinking, I jz couldn’t be borthered no more ! I know you gonna say be positive and don’t give up.. I won’t. but i come this thought, maybe you disagree, in our time, people are all too busy with too many distractions, we are all quite satisfied independent individuals. we can be happy with A jz as much as with B. long lasting relationship become really rare. because we dont really need anyone! yes, from time to time, we feel a bit longly, but we can easily find another C for company for a while. this probably sounds really negaive and twisted. but i believe you can understand what i mean. On the other hand, I do have some real progress about what I’m gonna do for finding my true passion. Right now, I think I should jz work on my own battles first, work hard and be happy and successful! How do you think of that :)

    1. “i come this thought, maybe you disagree, in our time, people are all too busy with too many distractions, we are all quite satisfied independent individuals.”

      People want distractions BECAUSE they are lonely, they don’t have meaning, and they don’t have something to really drive them. Finding the right partner can help with all of these things. And remember, people who are satisfied, independent individuals are the BEST at having relationships.

      Thanks for commenting!


  • Hello Matt:

    My name is Alexandra and I’ve been watching your videos and reading your blog every time I had a chance for the past couple of months. I was born in Venezuela but moved to America and boy, so far, it has been one hell of a ride. Not only I am at a point in life where my dreams and ambitions can come true, but also I feel as if I’ve finally let myself enjoy from learning as I get older and wiser.

    I’ve always wanted to comment on your videos and letters but I’m still working on expressing myself the best way I can. I decided that I couldn’t take more time to avoid what I wanted to say and so I’m being courageous to write and putting my words out there.

    Several things happened this year that have shaped my entire outlook on life forever. I hit a low point by being with someone who used me and disrespected me in so many levels that I’m still suffering the consequences. I left that toxic relationship a few months ago and started building relationships with new friends and old family members. As I opened up with others about my struggles and victories I started healing the most important relationship one can have in the whole world, the one with your own self. Through this discovery journey I figured out what career path I want to pursue, I started defining my own values and beliefs system and surprisingly my so called love life became way better and richer in experiences. Flirting it’s no longer a death sentence and talking with strangers delights me nowadays.

    I know I still have a long way to go. I’m only 22 years old but today I have the confidence to say that I’ll be okay as long as I keep cultivating acceptance, perseverance, self-love, compassion, humility, forgiveness and overall positivity. I feel in charge of my reality and having this kind of security has unlocked a lot of doors for the future.

    Thank you and all the members of your team for sharing with us amazing advice and meaningful hard work. In those times when I felt so hopeless and frustrated I knew I could count on your videos and words to cheer myself and continue moving forward. The next step for me will be finding a way to give back and help more people by sharing my life story…

    I’m so excited for the new projects to come for all the people in this community.

    Merry Christmas and an exciting New Year.
    Much Love,


    1. Hi Alex,

      Thanks for sharing a part of your story with me, it means a lot. It seems you have come a long way this year and I wish you continued success on your journey in 2013.


  • 1 thing I have done this year? Cry.
    1 thing I have applied from wathcing your videos for the past 4 months? Confidence.
    Has it worked to attract guys? Yes.
    Have I been in a relationship after , or even before this? No.
    Reason? I am scared; very scared. =(

    1. Hi Adri,

      I’m happy that watching the videos has helped you with your confidence. Fear is a huge issue for all of us to deal with, there are no easy answers but I hope that through this journey we can work on it together.


  • Hey Matthew,
    I have to thank you for all you wise advice i have learned a lot, looking back in my pass i realized the mistakes i have done in my decision making in guys. i even told my mother about you and she thinks its a great thing you doing.
    I hoping that next year I wouldn’t be in the same position as this year, but my gold next year is to say yes to more offers according to you, well good ones, you have to be wise right?,I have been following you for maybe a month now,I tried your eye contact advice and i got some great results but i got a little scared. so lets hope next year i would be brave! Thank you and Enjoy the holiday season,
    P.S Wish You can visit Trinidad where I’m From, its beautiful here I’m sure it be a great vacation spot for you. :)

  • Matthew, hi :)
    I just wanted to thank you for motivating me and giving me confidence; I just found out about you and your crew over a month ago and you guys truly helped.

    There’s this guy I really like and all I did for the past months is look at him and he would always catch me— it’s like he knows I want to talk to him, and I do.. But we just can’t. We both seemed shy. Really shy. Matthew + ‘get the guy’ you taught me how to approach a guy and how to be the one choosing, not the one to be chosen. I can’t wait to see him again and actually do something about it.

    I became more cheerful and ‘not-boring'(?). I’m able to make great conversations not just with guys but also with my friends and famillies! And I thank you!

    Have a Merry Christmas ‘Get the guy’ crew and Matthew! I’ll be with you guys all the way (:

  • I’m in the process of getting to know a guy who’s become my best friend. He’s in a band and I follow them so much now. He’s really amazing.

  • Hey Matt,

    First of all, thanks for what you’re doing. I’ve never had problems to get a guy tho your advises make me stronger and better person, high value woman, good partner.
    This year has been amazing for me. My life has changed completely, I’m having the time of my life as well! I found a great job, moved in to another country, broke up with my boyfriend that i had been dating for 3,5 year and met tons of wonderful people.

    I applied for a flight attendant and it was the best decision ive ever taken. Since January 2012 im not living in Slovakia anymore, im enjoying every singe day, travelling a lot, meeting different people and lots of guys. Its not very easy to find one that is able to follow my lifestyle. Tho recently i met really great guy with just a small problem – he’s got a girlfriend. I’m not giving up – at the time he started to date her he didnt know me and i can see he likes me a lot, we went out few times, he always msgd me like 10 min later after our meeting saying how great it was.. Now hes on 2 weeks holidays so nothing s going on. What should i do in my situation? I dont want to be one that destroys happiness of other people but completely opposite one. But i need to show him that i am better than the other girl and its really worth it to be with me.. ;) Please, help me with this..

    Thank you very much,
    your follower

    1. Hi Kate,

      My job on this blog is to empower women and help them avoid the pain that comes from making mistakes in their love lives. By showing you how to get this guy not only would I be causing pain to a woman I don’t know but I would be landing you a guy that a cheater. No one wins. Remember high value women aren’t mistresses and they deserve loyal men.


  • Hey Matt :)
    Thanks for teaching me things that I didn’t know. Sence I’m disabled on my right side, I’ve learned that I can still be a great, amazing person to other people. my confidence is alot better than 10 mounths ago. I have a hard time talking with people still cause all that I know is nolige, But im working on being fun and sexy haha. So thank and I hope that you have a wonderful year :)

  • I hear what you’re saying about relationships, how important they are, and how much work they require. Thank you so much for all the hard work you and your team put into coaching! I really enjoy your articles and videos! This past year wasn’t the greatest but I’m hoping to change that! Thank you and Merry Christmas!

    P.S. I think the “scruff” is cute!;)

  • Hi Matt,

    it was a great video, and all your videos have helped me so much! This year has been a significant year for me in terms of personal achievements. I have become more confident, self-assured and able to communicate better as well as understand people better.
    Wishing you and your team all the best for the new year

  • You are the cutest man ever ,i honest to god would never hesitate if i had the chance to spend a day with you ,just listening to your wisdom and caressing voice,i’m IN love with what you represent as a men to me,you really helped me through my enormous breakup of my life ,definitely my worst phase ever,THANK YOU<3

  • Tanx matthew, u are d best thing that happen to me this year. u really boost my love life. I now know were I do go wrong when dealing with guy. Tanx a lot. merry xmas and a happy new year. Greetings from Nigeria.

  • Thanks Matthew! :)
    This year you tought me never to loose oportunities!
    I just fell for the guy that was teaching me italian and I was sooooo crazy about him! I decided to keep fighting for him, to take my chances! And guess what… I didn’t get him after all, but I can’t say I’ve lost! I won something much more! Somehow, while trying to get him, I learned that italian language and… next year I’m going to start my great adventure and study in Italy! :) Think how I could give up at the very beginning& run away, just because I was afraid of fail! Maybe I didn’t get exactly what I was expecting, but I can honestly say I’m the happiest girl in the world right now! :) As for him, we’re good friends now!

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