Knowledge is one of the most attractive things we can have.
Sometimes knowledge comes in the form of what we know, other times in the form of things we can do and skills we have.
We live in a world where it’s become more necessary than ever to have eclectic knowledge and diverse skillsets.
Men are running out of ways to feel special
It’s not enough that we make money or have status, because women today already have these things.
We have to work a little harder to be interesting
We cannot afford NOT to be a Renaissance man or woman with a variety of skillsets, art forms and knowledge bases.
Knowledge and skill is a good look on anyone – as is curiosity which inevitably leads us to these things.
And attraction is sustained for longer periods of time when you’re able to keep surprising your partner.
Challenge:
Go and learn about or study something that you have no real need for. Just do something new.
When you’ve decided, leave a comment about the thing you’ve picked. Then come back and leave another at the end of the week to let me know how you’ve gotten on! Do you feel more interesting? Do you have a story because of it?
Be sure to let me know as you’ll be giving me ideas for what I can go on to do next myself!
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I took up ballroom dancing while with my ex-boyfriend. He joined me for the first 6 lessons and broke it off with me (out of nowhere). I continued the lessons anx joined two hiphop classes at the studio.
Looking forward to horseback riding lessons and taking up archery.
I am always learning new things. Meditation, Tai Chi, wood carving, beading… This weekend I will be part of the retinue for the King & Queen, Prince and Princess at our medieval feast. I’ve belonged to the Society for Creative Anachronism, for over 20 years and I’m ALWAYS learning something new. I will learn how to interact with Royalty, and thus be more at ease talking with ANYONE!
Thank you for your videos, they are helping me move on from the lose of my husband from ALS.
Bless you!
Every morning I listening to you!
You made my days happier!
I’m learning a lot of new things to interact around people. Thank you
Hey Matthew!
I’m friends with some of the typically ‘popular’ guys and girls in school, in fact two of them are my best friends. Though it isn’t really well known, so I feel like an outsider when I hang out with their other friends.
Pretty much, I have feelings towards one of those ‘other friends’, but we’ve only really had conversations a couple times (they were pleasant, but still). I was just wondering what should I do, as in, should I wait and see if tension builds? or should I just make a move?
Well thanks for enlightening us with your utube vids.So I saw your current one about learning new things. Ive always had a passion about hotels since visiting them in my early career. Im now on a short hotel management course and have learnt about the different areas of careers in hotel. I didnt know all the different aspects of wking in a hotel. Some jobs are now obsulete for example a key clerk or bell jobs. Thanks Matthew for encouraging us to work towards our goals what ever happens.
Matthew, I watch your videos on youtube to learn English! You are cute … But anyway,you encorage me to think about the things I should do… Sexy thing… if you wear a v t-shirt… something I realice you keep doing…you should think about laser on your chest (stylish tip)..;) that would make you sexier…
Hello Matthew,
I truly enjoy watching an listening to your videos. They are very helpful.
I have a huge dilemma. Guy I’ve been dating this guy for 4 months. An out of nowhere has not return text messages until today. It was a week w/ no text on his part. Last night I test
I was getting concerned and he finally text me and said,
I’m not trying pressure you. I’m trying to give you space. Its been over a week since I’ve heard from you and I’m just concerned.
He replied this morning;
Hey. I know I’ve been off the grid. I’m just trying to figure something things out. I’ll be in touch soon.
I replied
Sounds like you have confusion going on and that’s fine. I too needed some alone time for personal and family time.
Sum up our relationship we have been w each other for 4 months. Sent a lot of time together, an holidays… with his family and friends.
We told me he was falling in love with me.. and I felt the same. 3 weeks into us dating.
What do I do?
I have a great tuna salad recipe! Came up with it myself :D
Hi, Matthew
I’m a student and i study English and german. Recently I have learned some sentences in turkey and about hamlet’s role play and now after I had seen your video, i will try to get more information every day about several things
Hi Matt,
Your video’s have been helpful. My husband of 20 years and I seperated in June last year however he returned after 7 months apart and moved back in with my children and I so we can try and reconcile. After 4 months together he left again due to he feeling guilty about a emotional affair he had and later found out that he had only broke that off a month before he came back but I didn’t know. I have forgiven him but now he wants a divorce and I don’t. He knows I want to work on us but he can’t get passed what he has done and thinks it’s the only way forward. I know have left him be and don’t ask if he is sure about the divorce so am starting to look after myself and my children and trying to move forward, even though my heart hurts and I didn’t think this would ever happen. Can you please offer some help on if I should just let him go or let him think I have and just wait. Please help PS please don’t put my full name
Hi Matthew,
How are you doing?
First of all, let me introduce my self, my name is Ayurosa (Ayu), 38 years old and I am Indonesian.
I’ve been watching your youtube videos just lately, in these few days. I’m so happy to find all your videos and saw your videos as well with Esther Perel (my hero) :-) and particularly this subject of “How to be Sexier and Smarter at the same time”…then i got to realise what i’ve been doing for my own knowledges so far in my life.
I’m grateful to be able to share this part of my life to you or to the world, even i don’t know if you will read or response ;-)
For my knowledge, i’ve been doing such things as:
(but doesn’t mean that i’ll be good on all those i’ve learnt)
– Dance (Salsa, Tango, Belly, Traditional Indonesian dances, Rn’B/Hip Hop)
– Martial Arts (Karate, Taekwondo, Capoeira, Silat (Indonesia), Boxing)
– Music (Guitar, Drum, Electric Piano, Harmonica)
– Other Art activities (Painting, Paper cut, Sewing, Fabric Paintin (Batik – Indonesian), Pottery)
– Languages (English, French, Spanish, Italian, Japanese, German)
– Sports (Snorkeling, Diving, Yoga, Swimming, Basketball, Softball, Badminton, Bowling, Tennis, Ping Pong, Billiard, Hiking, Trekking, Climbing)
– Culture (Spanish, Italian, French, Middle East, Japan)
– Religion (Hindhu, Budha, Taoism, Christian, Moslem)
– Other Activities (Cooking, Baking, Writing, Blogging, Reading, Singing, Theatrical, Therapist)
– Work related (Accounting, Managing, PR, Laws (notary & lawyer interaction), Government affairs)
– Work experience (Hotel, Travel Agent, Shipping, Development, Prefabricated House, Spa, Salon, Retails, Sourcing, Personal Assistant)
– Travelling (Italy, French, Singapore, Malaysia, Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Maldive, Australia, New Zealand, Japan)
– Recycle project (plastics into art, origami, house project from usable bottles)
– Other knowledges (chemist, biology, physic, anatomy, economy, history)
And after watching your video, i’ve been thinking something else that i need to learn for my knowledge :-) I’m curious person and always believe on the words from Alice in Wonderland “to achieve the impossible is to believe it is possible”
Perhaps you can help me to give some idea?
Others than what i’ve been getting for my knowledge…i’ve been going through my divorce 3 months ago (March 2018) after 11 years of marriage where my ex husband left the house directly with someone else at the same day he told me that he loves other person than 1 month after the girl is pregnant and the girl was good friend of both of us, they are living now in the beautiful house which me and my ex planned. I will be soon processing our legal divorce.
With all those happening in my life for quite short time (let’s say that), i still feel grateful with the life i have until now and weird, good one, i’m in love with my life more. And, i’m still willing to share the good and bad which happen in my life with others to share my idea of trinity in life: Acceptance, Grateful and Love.
So…thank you for your kind attention on my comments (long one…LOL) and i wish that i can share more my grateful energy and i wish all people can still be positive in this wild world :-)
Hope have a wonderful days and send you warm sun from Indonesia :-)
I’m off to a good start! I’ve started to learn dirty talk in several different languages. My guy digs it
Wow! I spent all my growing-up years learning tons of things,like lace-making, European cooking, history of carriages, tailoring, Irish songs, on & on. Now there is finally a way to use all that backlog of history, philosophy, sports, poetry, etc. Thank you! That is amazingly liberating. Spice to a conversation. Mr. H, you are an incredible help.Tusen takk! (Norwegian for ‘thank you’).
I will try to learn a diffrent language to help my self better.And thank you matthew for all your videos it helps me feel more secure of my self.
I have a question. I finally decided to explore to start socializing with men after I divorced my ex. I met this guy by chance. Mom gave him my # so I could do a transaction. He asked me wanted call me. I agreed. Eventually I got scare and blocked him. 3 weeks after I contacted Him.I wanted to know if I could ever get over my feelings towards my ex. We talked and text 3 days and even very late – night. We pursued me and did phone sex 2x. He asked wanted to see me personally I declined 2x.he pulled off saying I was a very women and didn’t want to hurt me he said was scared that I might go wild after sex. I told him that people have to make those decisions of allowing it to happen. So I agreed let go. But then he started pursuing me even more. + show concern 4 me.actually hooked up after.he told me was very busy but was going to make tome in his agenda 4 me and include me in his schedule when is off. He owns a business.while we were hooking up the phone ran 5x and he to stop to deal it it.i sent him the text you said one should send the day after sex – which I know he read. At 10:45 am he was snooping on Whatts app, at 1pm I sent the text I just mentioned. Is 6pm I haven’t get any reply. What should I do.
What advise will you give to an introvert…who are finding difficult to deal with people in their day to day life, talk to them but still looking for the people who can love them… irrespective of their introvert nature
This video really struck me. I have been thinking of learning something new but i could never take the baby step towards it. I will make sure i do it today and will comeback here to share it with you!
You’re absolutely right. I’m thinking about attending a course for wine serving. I’m trying to pass on your ideas to my friends in Italy…
Chinese is not a sexy language.
Hey!I’m a CS student and it’s in me to pile up knowledge on different science fields not related to Computers.This week I watched a documentary called “Cosmos a space time odessy.” Learnt about evolution, how earth was created, about other stars (red dwarfs etc) the age of the universe&the earth… Can’t wait to introduce the series to a guy friend I like. He likes it when I go geek and I can’t help myself!Sometimes I overdo it.