I realized a huge truth about getting rid of loneliness that I didn’t mention in last week’s video.
Learn this simple-yet-powerful concept, and you’ll have an essential tool to create happy, meaningful relationships and feel connected again…
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Yes this emotion I live with constantly, being injured on my job 30 Yrs Ago, the experiences that I have lived through out my injured life is truly has been quite a journey now wheelchair bound widow, I find people together all seem happy and loved, I on the other hand feel left out of society like being left out on the play ground from school, I am sure everyone has felt this way once in their lifetime…. I have learn to dig deep inside …let my insides feel freedom from the restences of life give and take…l laugh freely, talk and express myself with wirds and body language …I watch and make sure everyone is at ease…just to have people that are positive, happy go lucky are nice to be around…I have always draw people to me…they come with their life concerns…the talk on how life really is for them…I have lived a life of bedridden state, not seeing people for weeks on end…lonieness is scary, uncomfortable and at times unbearable….but manageable…thanks Matthew for all your advise, I really enjoy learning from the master…of connecting with our mates….Linda…
You, as a Stark, with the Game of Thrones theme song, is the ultimate trifecta of sexiness. Never stop bringing your quirky side. Please.
I work almost entirely alone. One of the ways I keep myself sane is by listening to Podcasts. They further help me by giving me a topic to connect on with others.
For me, it is a more rewarding use of my time than seeing what others are up on on social media. Time spent there often increases my loneliness.
Thank you for letting us in on part of your party. Your videos and programs have brought me hope in countless ways over the last year, and have likely saved my life. You have inspired me to get on a more meaningful path for my life.
thanks a lot Mathew for a valuable speech. I’ve been suffering from loneliness for years and it seems I finally found light at the end of the tunnel after watching your video.
Thank you Matthew!! The worst loneliness I’ve felt was being in a marriage where I couldn’t connect with my spouse. I typically don’t have a hard time connecting with people because I’m very open and they tend to open up to me because of that. How can I connect with so many others but not the guy I’m sharing a bed with. (Past tense because we are separated).
I’m all signed up for your November retreat so look forward to meeting you, your family and the rest of the crew. Thanks for everything you do!
Michelle
Thank you for this video! I have been talking with a girl for some time and she always says she doesn’t like this boy around me, but last night I learned that she still has feelings for him. I was feeling very lonely after reading her reply. This video was very inspiring. I just need to find myself and the things that I love to do which can decrease my loneliness. You’re a great motivational figure.
Thank you Matthew for this video and all other videos that I learned from a lot.Feeling lonely before made me start dating somebody I didnt like at the begining and I suffered after he disappered. But I thankful for this experience because I needed time to know myself more and discover how to change my life.Thank you because you gave me hope and good ideas that helped me to improve the way of thinking in myself.
i wish I could a man like you Matthew, I would be the happiest alive creature.
Your video always comes from the deepest part of a human’s heart and mind. I truly love your previous video and this one. It brought up tears to my eyes since I am the loneliest girl in the world. No family, No friend, No partner. Just going to school and taking care of my son.
I took my daughter to college mid July and since then I have felt my life slip from under me. My best friend is gone but also my main purpose for living these last 10 years. I thought leaving my husband was he hardest part of my life but this now tops it. The loneliness is overwleming. I’ve tried to befriend people. I’ve tried to express to my friends how much I need them right now. But more often than not I am left alone. I’m a naturally happy person and I feel so lost.
I decided that since my daughter was away at a navy academy and working hard, I would work hard too. I’ve been going to the gym so that the next time she sees me she would see I’m taking care of myself. To be honest it would be the first time in my life that I am doing so. Also, I know men find my weight extremely unattractive. But I have a warm heart and a vibrant personality. So maybe they don’t want to date me yet but at least I won’t let myself blend into the the background!
Your videos have made me feel so validated. And less alone. I wanted to thank you for that. I wander around asking myself “what’s wrong with me? Why don’t people see I have needs too? Why don’t people see how vulnerable I am?” Because I’m so tired of hearing “you’re so strong Tyna”. People don’t realize that the “strongest” people are actually the weakest. We feel too much. Therefore we build ourselves of steel to withstand every storm. But even steel can bend. And eventually break. I’m trying to fight against my breaking point every single day.
Thank you and the community you’ve built for showing me that there are a lot of souls out there in the world similar to mine. I appreciate the kindness and hope I can keep building myself up. Be well.
Have you tried Meet up Tyna? It’s a great way to meet new people and take up new hobbies at the same time. Maybe there are some groups near where you live.
Matthew,
Thank you for videos! I really appreciate you sharing your knowledge. Not only are they inspirational but I learn several new things each time I hear you speak. Thank you for sharing your light and knowledge with the world.
I don’t think there’s anything sadder than living in London. I came here four years ago and I still can’t find my place, let alone meet normal guys that won’t disappear after 3 dates. Your tips for curing loneliness are great, but I don’t think they would work in a city where everyone is dehumanised.
I don’t feel lonely anymore, I feel numb, but I get some gratification in reading and watching you, thank you for that.
Oh I’m sad to read your comments as London can be a difficult place as ambition and ego does seem to rule. However when we really look at everyone as an individual in most there is kindness and love so please please don’t give up!
I am the life of the party most times but if only the ppl I’m around know how lonely I am . I am so lonely especially becoz I’ve faced so mch rejection tht now I’ve left feeling like I really dnt matter it’s so stuck with me idk wat I should do ….
Off topic but.. Matt, what are some books that have influenced you or the work of people that we all could learn from?
Hey Alexis! Did you know Matt has a book club? It’s for retreat attendees only. Here’s more info about the retreat, if you’re interested: https://matthewhussey.com/retreat-live/. – Mars
Matthew,
After watching this video, I felt like giving you a standing ovation. All of the concepts you have put forth are exactly on the mark. Thank you for doing this. You are doing a very noble thing by giving everyone hope and inspiration. The world needs more people like you.
Over the last week your comments about letting yourself be vulnerable has really resonated with me and that it’s OK & effective in communicating with others so they can actually see the real you. Thank you for giving me “permission” that I don’t have to hold back, keep my guard up or risk being the real me. My quest is to have healthy relationships with everyone in my life, and it can only get better from here! THANK YOU Matt
Thank you for this video. It was really helpful the way you frame loneliness as an emotion that can be manipulated to be good sometimes. Being vulnerable with no expectations of it being reciprocated is hard. It’s hard when you’re expected to be strong or independent. At the same time, that’s also when I feel actually heard/seen/acknowledged. Thank you again.
I would be very hesitant to show too much vunerability to others because this could be interpreted by others as low self esteem and we could become magnets for manipulative people. Better to show this side of ourselves to people we now and trust
Dear Gemma,
Your comment touched me, because to me, vulnerability comes from a place of strength and trust. It’s basically telling people: “I am going to be me, I’m going to be real. I am aware there are people out there who might not have good intentions, but I am strong and trust that I can deal with dissappointment. I am not naive, I am true to who I am and I will not let my fear change that.”
Hi Matt!! Hi Jameson!
Just thought I should say hi :) — I blab on here all the time, even though I know you don’t see my responses, and I’m also not part of your paying community. It doesn’t matter, I’ll just keep saying hi over time — and I hope it’s a long time.
I LOVE your vision for our online community, Matt. Boy that was clear when you spit it out: “…..I want us to actually have a community that thrives on great energy here, not just positive energy, but Good energy, where we’re here to help each other…”
You tell ’em. Yes, both loneliness videos are just excellent. I had been set to respond, “oh, please say ‘aloneness’ is different from ‘loneliness'” or some such verbiage, but you made it real clear the way you put it. THANKS.
I love you guys. xoxooii
Matthew Hussey! You are one amazing human being!!! Just watched your interview with Lewis Howes – truly appreciate your beautiful presence on the planet. And it’s ok that you don’t believe (yet) in the infinity/eternity of Life/Soul/Consciousness :P
Love, love, love! You are so right when it comes to seeing vulnerability being a standard. This year I have started writing a postcard every week to someone. For no other reason than to tell them they are beautiful, wonderful, special and they matter. I’ve felt so much love and connectedness to these people (some of who I don’t even know – I got their addresses from people I know who thought those people were amazing). It really helps, give love, focus on love, zoom in on what you love and it will come back to you with such force you’ll feel amazing. Love always, Janet
Janet – That is such a cool thing to do. Not many of us (me included) are brave enough to do that). Beautiful!
Thank you, Bee, wouldnt it be AWESOME if people did it anyway? To me, being vulnerable is just that: having all these worries, fears and anxiety and… doing it anyway. The reward is so much bigger than I could ever explain. Love, Janet
Showing vulnerability to build connection…great concept. I totally agree with you Matt that solitude is a beautiful thing but certainly we would all like more connection with our community. I will meditate now on how to put your great concept into action.
I have loved your videos. You have a great ability to distil abstract concepts into concrete actionable steps. Well done!