Knowledge is one of the most attractive things we can have.
Sometimes knowledge comes in the form of what we know, other times in the form of things we can do and skills we have.
We live in a world where it’s become more necessary than ever to have eclectic knowledge and diverse skillsets.
Men are running out of ways to feel special
It’s not enough that we make money or have status, because women today already have these things.
We have to work a little harder to be interesting
We cannot afford NOT to be a Renaissance man or woman with a variety of skillsets, art forms and knowledge bases.
Knowledge and skill is a good look on anyone – as is curiosity which inevitably leads us to these things.
And attraction is sustained for longer periods of time when you’re able to keep surprising your partner.
Challenge:
Go and learn about or study something that you have no real need for. Just do something new.
When you’ve decided, leave a comment about the thing you’ve picked. Then come back and leave another at the end of the week to let me know how you’ve gotten on! Do you feel more interesting? Do you have a story because of it?
Be sure to let me know as you’ll be giving me ideas for what I can go on to do next myself!
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Hey Matt, I’m a terrible cook and not having anyone but myself to cook for over the years hasn’t help to motivate me. What meal would you personally enjoy a woman to cook for you?
This is actually the first time I comment on one of your videos and it´s because I actually was very curious about what you´re talking about. So here´s my question to you..
I know I find knowledge very interesting and sexy in a guy, cause you supposed to look up to your guy, respect him admire him..but guys think the same way about girls?? I mean of course a guy wants an interesting girl, but it would´t be intimidating and a little boring for them to think they are going to be with a know it all??
P.S very helpfull and insightful tips, I hope you can come up with more for us..
Hopefully this is the correct place to post this. I mentioned this challenge to my friend and coworker. We decided to attempt to learn Italian. My mom always wanted to learn so she could understand her grandparents when they were fighting. ha ha. So, together my friend and I will take on this challenge.
Hi Matthew
I really enjoy your videos and I am going to find something new to learn immediately! This will really help!
Thanks so much!
I love youtube because I am able to learn all kinds of different things from people I don’t know. In the last 4 months some new skills I have been learning are. 1)how to learn more about men from Matthew Hussey.2)How to sell on ebay,3)New makeup skills- Kandee Johnson is great, 4)Paleo diet. Each month it’s something new. Also, I love podcast for the same reason. Great for long trips and commuting.
Matthrew!
I completely understand your Mandarin! Well-done! I’m a Chinese. Okay, I’m learning to become an elegant swimmer this Summer, also to have my Bikini body ready, not for anybody else but me!
I’ve always loved Argentina Tango. Can’t say enough about it. You can picture you wearing the coolest tango hat and making tango moves, that would WOW! Your lady!! Let us know where she is, or I’ll take you ;)
Haha, perhaps Ill see you in Florida this Nov.
Li
Typo. I mean I can picture you ;)
Hi Matt,
I hope you are well. I’m still in Australia with my family. I love the content of your videos, you’re very wise and motivational.
I’ve started re-learning mandarin chinese. I was previously studying for five years during school and I’m also working towards dancing en pointe. I’m certainly too old to be a ballerina, but I love learning. I’m also learning NLP, PR and I’ve downloaded a psych 110 but it can be argued that these are work related.
Millie xx :)
Hey matthew
Luv your passion and inspiration
I’ve decided its time to learn a signature dish.
Learn to play golf and get educated on wines.
So much fun with all. Great tips !
I also think that people should learn about things they are not interested to because if we kept looking about the things we like we are going to stuck there for our whole life and know only about the things we love ,, anyway I am happy that recently I had known about politics that I can have an opinion right now about some subjects in politics after being just neutral because I didnt know what was right and what was wrong which means that I hadn’t enough info about that ( politics is something I am not interested to )
thanks Mathew !
but I would love if you provide blogs and video about different subjects other than how to get the guy of course with focusing about how to get the guy ?
wow….u speak mandarim…!? well, u are right, when guys have somekind electic knowledge or skill, they “become” so sexy!!! :) well, i dont know really what i should do, maybe mandarim, u gave the idea! :) Kiss*
Reading a French classic. Madame bovary by Flaubert. I know it’s not 30 mins, more like several hours, but! It’s my first time reading a French classic :)
It’s true, always gotta be pushing, to be better.
I just got really inspired. This mindset shows me that there are so many ways to go. I have so much I want to do and trying myself out would be the best. A lot of different things and only for a short time. I might even find some new passions. Wish me luck and thank god Matthew you`re there for us.
Hi! Matt! Im from Taiwan and I have been following your website since I broke up wirh my ex. I have learned a lot from you so I wanna thank you for the good work!!!Btw, r u trying to say: Where r you from in Chinese? Ha! I can understand it…good job and keep going : )
Matt, as much as I value your advice and experience, I can’t really relate to the knowledge/curiosity thing you talked about in the video. I am very knowledgeable, always curious and eager to learn new things/languages, my brain is like a sponge. I have impressed the guy I am attracted to with my vast knowledge and I am sure he admires it but still I haven’t been able to connect with him on a deeper level. I am tired of proving I am smart and worth it. This is not the way to go. I am giving it up. Any thoughts why it’s not working for me? Tnx :-)
u seem like you may have intimidated him, your knowledge and intelligence do make you more special, however its not what attracts men. Mayebe you should concentrate on your flirting skills, Matt has many videos regarding that and underxtanding men. Hope i helped =)
I appreciate the reply Feriel. Unfortunately, whenever I am with this guy, I don’t even get the impression he is intimidated. The guy I am interested in is definitely not a person who can get easily intimidated. He is self-confident and has very strong opinions on various subjects, always ready to share his knowledge with me when we are together and I ask him questions (he is more of an expert in the things we talk about but I know quite a lot too). Just thinking, I am naturally flirtitious, sexy AND intelligent and if that is still not enough, I am definitely NOT going to change anything about me. If he doesn’t appreciate it, I am not going to keep my interest. It shouldn’t be THAT hard. I will let this guy find someone who he likes more than me and, what is more important, let myself find someone who will appreciate me for who I am!
You go girl! Love that attitude. I agree with you, love shouldn’t be that hard. It should come easy if it’s meant to be. Like Matt said, we have to keep the abundance mentality. If there’s one like him, there must be millions/billions out there for you to run into one.
Thank you! I can see we are on the same page. It is going to be hard to eventually detach myself from the thought of him being not close to me because I like him but there is nothing I can do. Abundance – I like that :-)
Hi Justyna,
there’s a lot you still can do, if you have ‘access’ to the guy. So I wouldn’t worry about ‘if’, rather ‘when’. It’s all flexible, human relationships are plastic and constantly changing.
From what I understand, it looks like you have failed to impress him. It’s not about knowledge or skill, it’s about brain power, how smart you are. Without it all the knowledge in the world is but dead weight.
If the guy is intelligent and secure about it, he won’t care how intelligent you are or how much you know. He’s got it all. What he’ll care about is something he doesn’t have, and can’t get, either at all, or easily, but wants to have. You need to look out for his insecurities, and how you can compensate for these. That’s the key.
This is the homework for you to figure out.
There’s more to it. But one step at a time.
Good luck
Janna
Thank you Janna. What you said is very interesting. We all want what we don’t have and we all have insecurities within us. I am not sure though that I will have any more access to this guy. Anyway, will keep your advice for future use.
u seem like you may have intimidated him, your knowledge and intelligence do make you more special, however its not what attracts men. Mayebe you should concentrate on your flirting skills, Matt has many videos regarding that and understanding men. Hope i helped =)
Wow. Thanks for letting me know I’m not strange. I will keep on with my hobbies, and love of learning and creating new experiences for myself.
I try to create a list of fun things to learn or experience every season. This has inspired me to work on my fall list, since I’m pretty much done for the summer.
U are a great life coach,Matt. Very practical advices. U give the way it is and not the way people want to hear. U cover from personal to professional life from intimacy to relationship to communicating to expressing to understanding etc . Thank u for sharing pearls of wisdom
i watched this video today and decided to learn how to be an extrovert. I’ve wanted to do this since i watched the “you are not shy you are boring” video,
Hello Matthew,
Hope you are doing good. First of all i want to thank you for your amazing advice, i have discovered a lot of things by listening to your talks and video on youtube, it enriches my knowledge and how i can better help people dealing with their problems.
I will start some research on BRAIN. How we human being react and the different section. How woman brain is different from man? what drives people to act like they do? what may go in a human brain like talking to someone (interaction)
best regards,
nadiah :)
I’ve read the book ‘The brain that changes itself’ by Norman Doidge. It’s not about the male vs. female brain but it’s soooo good. It’s about neuroplasticity.
Amazing stories about people not being able to see getting the sight back through the skin. People not being able to stand due to a ‘kink’ end their vestibular system getting their balance back through the tongue.
It’s really good. :)
I’ve only watched a few of your videos but I really felt compelled to say how grateful and pleasantly surprised I am by how often to push being an attractive person for the skills and knowlege you have to offer and not just the way you look. I think everyone needs to be reminded that knowlege is sexy. haha! Keep up the good work darlin. =)
I agree that we need to keep growing intellectually. Learning is the way of life. But it shouldn’t be done for someone or with the aim to become more ‘interesting’ or ‘sexy’. It’s done for yourself, out of curiosity and desire.
If it’s done to become more interesting or of higher ‘value’, the underlying assumption is that we’re not already interesting or of high value.
Janna