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Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory

Are you struggling today? Does it feel like the universe has dealt you a s**tty hand?

If the answer is yes, then let’s talk….

Let’s Celebrate the Small Stuff Together. What’s Your Tiny Victory?
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Being at the top of your game. Peak performance. Maximizing your potential. Being the best you could be. Living your best life. Nothing could feel more off your radar when you’re in a place of depression, deep anxiety, deep hurt. When you are feeling shit. I’m interested in that person today. Not how do I get you to live an extraordinary life, how do we transform you? But how do we start celebrating the tiny victories? Because I believe that when you’re in that state and when everything in your life I know the feeling everything in your life feels tinged with pain or hurt or darkness, nothing, literally there is nothing you want to do. When you’re in that state, eating breakfast feels like a big deal, going and taking a shower, simply getting out of bed feels like a huge thing. Forget the rest of the day because when you’re in the place that I’m talking about right now, the rest of the day feels like a marathon.

You can’t even process getting through the rest of the day, so let’s not focus on that. Let’s focus on the next 20 minutes after you watch this video. So what could you do in the next 20 minutes? Feed your body something healthy. Do something physical. Even if it’s something small. Read a page of a book that you feel might nourish you. You don’t even have to guarantee that it will. Don’t obsess over what book it is. This book might help. Read one page instead of looking at social media or whatever else might not help you. It could be watching a video, a video you’ve proactively chosen because you believe it might inspire you or it might spark an idea or it might have you think about something differently. Or maybe you feel like everything I’m talking about right now, even the smallest things, are too much.

Then great, do fucking nothing. Take the next few minutes to sit there and do nothing but do nothing slightly better than you normally do. Decide for a couple of minutes, “I’m going to put that problem to one side while I get really mindful about my breath and if I feel it coming back, I’m just going to note it and then get back to my breath.” Just training your mind and your focus on your breath for a couple of minutes is a tiny victory. It’s a form of training your focus. And by the way, this isn’t just about doing things in the next 20 minutes that could create tiny victories. I also want you to think about what tiny victories have already happened today. I want you to find a five minutes from today where you felt neutral because those things are reference points. Those things become these little hooks of potential on which you hang this sense that things can be better. This idea that it can be better.

If five minutes today was okay, was neutral, let’s make more of those minutes. Let’s worry about creating another five minutes like that. And what we’ll begin to do is create some small momentum. It doesn’t mean you won’t backslide, doesn’t mean you won’t feel pain again, doesn’t mean you might not feel it again tonight. But let’s create more of those minutes. Today, give yourself a break from the big shit and all the things that you wish you could be doing if you could only feel better or whatever.

Let’s start with the most humble, modest, nothing things that may to everyone else seem like it’s ridiculous to celebrate that, but we will because we’re celebrating the tiny victories. What’s a tiny victory that you didn’t celebrate today that you should? Something that if you are embarrassed at how small it is, write in the comments, I want to read it. And if you can’t think of anything, take the next 20 minutes or even the next five and do something to create that tiny victory, and leave me a comment letting me know what that thing is. I’ll see you guys next week.

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160 Replies to “Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory”

  • After a few rough months, the words of this video hit the right note for me. Thank you. Tiny victories is my thought of the day, and cleaning my foyer, was the big accomplishment for the day. It may now seem like much, but it’s set my mood each time I entered the house.
    Now if I can put into action a plan of action for other areas of my life, that have been feeling stalled. Progress over perfection!

  • Thank you, just thank you. I love your relationship advice, but these are exactly what I need right now. Every move I make, sh*t just happens. It’s like you’re reading my mind. Please post more like this.

  • I pulled myself out of bed at 4pm and took a shower. Faked my way through a Father’s Day dinner then came back home to bed.

  • Very true feeling reached the end when I was very sick thinking if could get through it.And yes I did smthing for my family cooked dinner and they all enjoyed it!

  • I live with my boyfriend and I’m not happy because we don’t go anywhere just stay home get high I told him I don’t want that anymore

  • Week 8 into the deepest hurt I have ever felt, needed medication to get through the first few weeks. In the last week I have definitely begun to improve. Today’s small victory is doing a 18 minute HIIT rowing workout. Now on session 5 of a month’s program. It is becoming a habit!

  • Wow! Matthew literally knows ( that place )

    I celebrate just being able to watch this Video. It really reaches out to where I’m at right now . Thankyou Matthew .

  • Hi Matt

    Well i’m At my partner an my used to be home. I say used to be cause I have moved most of my things out. I am trying to not be a bumble bee, you know that part of us that gets angry stings someone we love and then those actions kill us. I moved out cause after 3.5 years together I am unhappy. I’ve had one birthday celebrated, been given flowers not my favourite once without telling him to buy and unfortunately my gf told me of a moment my spouse cheated on me a year and a half ago. I don’t know what to do. If I confront it will be a fight, if I say nothing, it will just be another incident where I stuff my feelings down.
    But today I had my coffee took my vitamins watched your video and am setting up my day to achieve some goals on my to do list while i’m Out here picking up clothes. Thanks the video helped

  • Big victories…..read a great article on Japanese koans, called my mom to say “hi” and heading out for a 15 minute walk before I begin work!

  • Well, i had breakfast. Even tho im not feeling like a morning in spring, im not hungry and i know that im lucky because i had a jam and cheese sandwich. Hey you know what they say, you cant think properly with an empty stomach.

  • I got out of bed and had coffee and listened to the birds chirping. It was a big deal for me. Thank you

  • Thank you for this topic♥️
    These days I am glad that I am taking a walk every day- even if it is just half an hour-or cooking a tiny lunch, etc.
    I try to practice self-care like talking to myself like I would talk to a friend. Which is not easy but I try.
    Doing Pilates again, seeing friends, etc.
    I feel like I am getting better and wanna start dating again but as you talk about attraction in some of your videos I guess my current life looks boring to men so I am not sure how to deal with this situation right now.
    Am I not „allowed“ to date after all that I have been through?
    Do I really have to get my life completely back together before I start (successful) dating again?
    I wanna believe that I deserve love but I don‘t know how to deal with this „attraction-thing“ in this situation right now

  • I moved into a new place, lost who i thought is my soulmate and only slept 3 hours ridden with fear and anxiety- today I emptied six more boxes… small victories! Needed this

  • Hi Matthew. I seen your video. I was on pof app and was discoutaged. Nothing what a waist of money. So mow i connected to match. Dating site. I connected to one man that helld my interest. He connected to me first. Now nothing. No response back. Its ok. He may be not the right one for me. His loss lol. I don’t go out and o know your not comfortable on dating app’s. But i don’t feel i have a choice on connecting to someone. This is crazy

  • Hie Mathew ….to mention a few os some of tiny victory so far is that l have been able to work away form the things was causing so much pain And less self respect….to cut the long story short …..my partner whom l have been with him for five years used to control ams so abusive to me .at first l ddint see it clearly in thos early years antil he rock me outside jits because l went out with my friend…since he doesn’t agree with me having my friends over or anywhere …as a couple we were sleeping separetes place. When l cook a a dinner early .he used not to eat because according to him the food has gone cold .we didnt seeing eye to eye..l lost the spark on him that lead to whenever he wants sex ..l was not contributing or engange myself as far as sex life is concern because of how he treated me .eventuarly l saw myself losing myself juts to please him ….then l realising this is not l how one should treat onther after l have been watching yout videos..email as well as your advices ..till the day l dicided that l can do better without him ….now its has been two months now ..am HAPPY. Even though He is asking me back …….coming to my working place…..trying so hard. ..but in my mind l know that l have moved on ..no more caming back

  • After watching a few movies over the weekend, I felt myself yearning for something more in my relationships. I don’t know nor can I explain what it was, but I found myself opening up again to the possibility of love again, as cheesy as that sounds. I’ve been closed off for a while and not really looking or actively searching but now I just feel more open to it.

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