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Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory

Are you struggling today? Does it feel like the universe has dealt you a s**tty hand?

If the answer is yes, then let’s talk….

Let’s Celebrate the Small Stuff Together. What’s Your Tiny Victory?
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Being at the top of your game. Peak performance. Maximizing your potential. Being the best you could be. Living your best life. Nothing could feel more off your radar when you’re in a place of depression, deep anxiety, deep hurt. When you are feeling shit. I’m interested in that person today. Not how do I get you to live an extraordinary life, how do we transform you? But how do we start celebrating the tiny victories? Because I believe that when you’re in that state and when everything in your life I know the feeling everything in your life feels tinged with pain or hurt or darkness, nothing, literally there is nothing you want to do. When you’re in that state, eating breakfast feels like a big deal, going and taking a shower, simply getting out of bed feels like a huge thing. Forget the rest of the day because when you’re in the place that I’m talking about right now, the rest of the day feels like a marathon.

You can’t even process getting through the rest of the day, so let’s not focus on that. Let’s focus on the next 20 minutes after you watch this video. So what could you do in the next 20 minutes? Feed your body something healthy. Do something physical. Even if it’s something small. Read a page of a book that you feel might nourish you. You don’t even have to guarantee that it will. Don’t obsess over what book it is. This book might help. Read one page instead of looking at social media or whatever else might not help you. It could be watching a video, a video you’ve proactively chosen because you believe it might inspire you or it might spark an idea or it might have you think about something differently. Or maybe you feel like everything I’m talking about right now, even the smallest things, are too much.

Then great, do fucking nothing. Take the next few minutes to sit there and do nothing but do nothing slightly better than you normally do. Decide for a couple of minutes, “I’m going to put that problem to one side while I get really mindful about my breath and if I feel it coming back, I’m just going to note it and then get back to my breath.” Just training your mind and your focus on your breath for a couple of minutes is a tiny victory. It’s a form of training your focus. And by the way, this isn’t just about doing things in the next 20 minutes that could create tiny victories. I also want you to think about what tiny victories have already happened today. I want you to find a five minutes from today where you felt neutral because those things are reference points. Those things become these little hooks of potential on which you hang this sense that things can be better. This idea that it can be better.

If five minutes today was okay, was neutral, let’s make more of those minutes. Let’s worry about creating another five minutes like that. And what we’ll begin to do is create some small momentum. It doesn’t mean you won’t backslide, doesn’t mean you won’t feel pain again, doesn’t mean you might not feel it again tonight. But let’s create more of those minutes. Today, give yourself a break from the big shit and all the things that you wish you could be doing if you could only feel better or whatever.

Let’s start with the most humble, modest, nothing things that may to everyone else seem like it’s ridiculous to celebrate that, but we will because we’re celebrating the tiny victories. What’s a tiny victory that you didn’t celebrate today that you should? Something that if you are embarrassed at how small it is, write in the comments, I want to read it. And if you can’t think of anything, take the next 20 minutes or even the next five and do something to create that tiny victory, and leave me a comment letting me know what that thing is. I’ll see you guys next week.

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160 Replies to “Feel Like Sh*t? Go for a Tiny Victory”

  • I needed this today like you wouldn’t believe. I promised myself I would go to the gym, but instead I slept until noon because I’m depressed over a dumb boy. I still managed to do my morning push-ups, though. Baby steps. Thank you, Matthew.

  • My tiny victory was that I leaned into vulnerability and had a conversation with a coworker about their frustrations with how the feel I have changed since my recent promotion. I could have closed, blamed others, called people out as haters but instead I let myself be extremely vulnerable and listed despite the embarrassment of all the crying I knew I would and did do during the conversation.

  • Thanks! I was in a deep hurt in theb past few days that even until today I still feel the pain. I don’t want to get mad or angry with the person who hurt me but i can’t stop myself from the pain of his words whose happen to be my brother. But as I watch your video there is some realization in me. Thank you so much!

  • I went to visit a neighbor I knew was sad because his son moved to a different country a few weeks ago.

  • I so needed this yesterday. Majorly depressed, in pain and could not do anything. But this morning, I got up, stretched my legs, did some yoga, ate a good breakfast, got an early start on tomorrow’s work because it will be hectic, and was lucky enough to watch your video. Thank you. That one is a keeper I will watch again and again when I need to. And I suck at that mindful meditation breathing. I will definitely count that as a victory. Thank you, Matthew, for putting kind thoughts in my head, not the negative ones I always tell myself. Much love. You really help me so much.

  • It’s a gift to go through feeling shit because when we feel better again it is something we can really enjoy more than most! We can appreciate feelings of gratitude relaxation or even just having energy…
    I once sat on the beach for a week and did nothing but breathing and feeling for hours we really are enough just as we are without needing to do anything just that we are here and that we breathe is a miracle in itself lets enjoy feeling shit and doing nothing because it doesn’t show us that we failed or that we are not good enough it really shows us that we are human and that is a gift!!!!

  • I took all the medicine that I was supposed to take this morning.
    And I didn’t think of him when I woke up.

  • This message came in just when I needed it the most.
    I decided to switch my phone off today and sat at the balcony doing totally nothing better than meditate. I thought it was a waste of time but then think I should celebrate that.
    Thank you so much.

  • I FEEL LIKE SHIT I CANT CRY ! WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME ? I HAVE AN CHEATER AN AN LAIR FOR ANFRIEND WITH BENEFITS ! I HAVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR 7 YEARS NOW I LEFT HIM 10 MONTGS AGO HE CAME CRAWL8NG BACK TO ME BECAUSE THE PERSON HE CHEATED ON ME WITH K8CK HIM OUT ! I AM LIVING MY MOMS LIFE FUCK WHATS WRONG WITH ME !! I NEED HELP !! PLEASE !!

  • I cleaned out my disgusting freezer – threw away old food and wiped it all down. Now I’m cleaning my dusty and cluttered bedroom. I’m on a roll and I feel very good about it!! :-)

  • Thank you for this. I have been feeling the shit and I know only time will heal. My tiny victory was to not pick up my phone for three hours to check social media. And I could not get myself out of bed to go to mass but I watched it live streaming and I felt some peace. Then to see your video helped me realize it’s ok. I will be ok.

  • Oh wow, just what I needed. All I did today is stare ar the sky, my cherry tree and my animals. I have tried to read but my mind is all over the place. It is a hard world we live in, and all i want is a bit of love. I have let the tears come. And cried today. No toughness only vulnerable me.

  • Thank you Michael. My tiny victory was getting through a morning where I felt in control and not manipulated by others who really don’t have your best interests at heart

  • Thanx for that great video Matthew. You made my day.
    I feel like shit. I’m lucky to have a dog. Otherwise I’d sleep all the time.
    My tiny victory: I did the dishes (after 3 days) and I repaired my favourite bra.

  • Thank you Matthew! I really needed this video today.. I had some tiny victories today actually. I finished a book I’ve been struggling with for a couple of months now. I also meditated for a few minutes :) life isn’t always easy. I really struggle with being single for the past 5 years. Your book has helped me with my self value but I’m still hoping to meet that person that’s going to love me.

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