Hey guys, check out this video first before moving on to the second one, as I use it here to illustrate my point.
If you’ve ever experienced the pain of losing someone, there is a technique you need to learn for shifting the emotion you feel when you’re heartbroken. So even if you’re not heartbroken right now, maybe you have been in the past, or maybe you want to be fully equipped with it for the future!
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That scene will never stop being excruciating. I don’t know if I can thank you for making me endure that again.
At 27 I am not only still a virgin, I have never been in a relationship with anyone, which makes me feel like my inexperience in connecting with anyone is only going to be a bigger hurdle as it goes on. So naturally any (every!) crush that ends upset feels pretty awful. Also hearing constantly that guys don’t want to have anything to do with virgins for a couple of reasons but mostly because we won’t know what to do and we’ll be clingy (!) doesn’t help.
I’ve kind of resigned myself to the fact that maybe I belong by myself, but it’s hard when yet another guy who I like just doesn’t feel the same and it goes and hurts all over again.
Thanks for the video though. I really do know it’s the right advice, but changing an entire mindset of at least 12 years build up is proving to be nearly bloody impossible! xxx
Sometimes I wonder if you are able to read my mind. 3 days ago I had the same experience as the guy in the film. I thought that this guy was going to be mine – but now, out of nowhere, he’s in a relationship and I thought to myself, “You have to see this as a lost chance but it won’t be the end for you eventhough it hurts so bad right now.”
So I’ll live through the pain for now and hopefully be back on my feet in some time.
xoxo, and thank you Matthew!
Mat , I just wanna tell u that u r an amazing man , and thats what i really needed to hear , U r Awesome
Zaina …Baghdad
Thanks dear
I really love your advice, Matthew. I wish I had it around 7 years ago, back when my toxic relationship started. Now I just managed to get into terms with it and discovered you, who ensured me that what I do is right. Funny enough, I could never get out of the relationship hoping the guy would change, thinking he was the one. Some time ago I started thinking how disappointed I was, how the guy just was not the one for me and would never change. Since i changed my attitude towards him, I was finally able to move on. So what you just put in your blog video is totally true and works magic. xxx
Oh, Matthew, somehow I’ve discovered it my self, but i couldn’t name it. I’ve been through lot of guys and a LOT OF PAIN, but now I clearly understand, that eventually there is only one love life, I don’t know how, but THAT soul mate will clearly recognize you. What I want to say is: does getting a ‘guy’ has a meaning if he’s certainly not your lovelife and you see it clearly, why do you have to search and look for HIM everywhere? OKay, maybe it’s the part of the plan, MAYBE SOME OF US need this kind of plan to raise our personalities to prepare them for meeting the one? The more I go to dates the more I see, that my man is somewhere else, I see lying to myself every time I’m thinking: maybe he’s the one? Nooo.. it can’t be that question, it just can’t be. As I said, I believe in recognition. btw, Matthew is the name of a boy, whom I thought would be my lovelife, but I was wrong. By googling “matthew” I found You, thanks to him! How can I expect for any response? There are a lot of women with big stories to tell:) hope you will read it.
Thank you soooo much for this video, its exactly what i need now to go on forward with my life,because I divorced 2 years ago and until now i did not feel ready for moving forward, (and i also have a 5 year old son, so it’s clear thats no longer so easy to get involved into a new relationship, i dont know how are things this way in the UK ,but here its very difficult that another man would be okay with my son because men are not so open minded when it comes to kids from another marriage), soo back to the video i come to the conclusion that the healthiest method is not you make too many illusions but to accept things as they come, good or bad.
I am soo sory that I saw the video on beauty just this week, and in connection with the message of the video I found a quote very wise and very beautiful …..
“When you start to know someone, all their physical characteristics start to disappear . You begin to dwell in their energy, recognize the scent of their skin. You see only the essence of the person, not the shell. That’s why you can’t fall in love with beauty. You can lust after it, be infatuated by it, want to own it. You can love it with your eyes and your body but not your heart. And that’s why, when you really connect with a person’s inner self, any physical imperfections disappear, become irrelevant.”.
I do not own this, i just find it on the net.
Once again THANK YOU sooo much for all your hard work in helping us with the insecurities and complexes which are sure that each one of us has.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK .
Thank you. Its completely changed everything.
broken heart hurts as hell :(
but what’s the worst is when it’s constantly being broken! I still don’t know if this is the time to give in & walk away, or ..if i still have the chance & should fight to get what i want…
from one side, i don’t want to hurt myself more & have this crazy expectations just to get disappointed over & over again, but from another – i also don’t want to loose the chance, if i still have one… !
How to recognize when is the right moment to leave & move on?! Help!
Thanks Matt, this video was so well timed.. I lost someone who I thought was my soal mate and now I see someone very similar to him in front of me, but am so fightened in case it turns out the same way, but this video is so positive and highlights that even iif it does, and it may not, I should be disappointed and not so heartbroken this time!
Hey Matthew!
I just wanted to thank you for posting this video and actually addressing the pain that so many people decide to ignore. One of my friends is going through some heartbreak and I just wanted to thank you for making this video because I’m sure that it can help them with their love problems. As far as people that have serious heartbreak I was just wondering how you help them recover and feel again. My friend, he’s a wonderful guy and I really like him but I’m worried that he won’t ever be able to move forward in his love life. How can I help him get over this other girl? How can I help him open up again?
Thanks so much!!
Carolyn~
Guess I’m dead! I bought the book,been reading this blog ect…the past two videos made me realize I’m the bitch you described from the prior video, and I’m dead apparently. I also realize that after being married for 10 yrs and being divorced for 3…..I’m actually enjoying my company. Maybe I’ll read your book and log on when I’m ready to date..ttfn!!
So my mom (i’m 17) has been in only 3 or 4 relationships. The first long-term relationship she was ever in was with my father. After they were married, they had my siblings and I, but he passed away after 14 or so years of being married to her. She completely broke down, and didn’t date for a couple of years. When she got back out there, she never brought any of her dates home – which is understandable – but when she finally did, she dated the guy for about 4 years. She found out that he was married, or that he had been married for 16 years, and that she was a part of an affair. She met his wife, and after talking to her, she cut him out of her life. She hated him – she was so devastated that he lied to her for 4 years. She started talking to a friend of hers, my present day step-father. But recently, he’s cheated on her too. Now that I’m a little older, she’s telling me how she feels, how she hates all men, and that I should too. I’m afraid that any future boyfriend of mine that i decide to have meet her she’ll over-analyze, because she doesn’t want him to hurt me like all of those other men hurt her. Now, I’ve been watching your videos long enough to realize that she’s only talking through her emotions, and I shouldn’t hate men for what a few of them did to her but, i can’t help but feel as if they’ve damaged her so much that she’s no longer capable of loving another man again. I’ve never been able to see her happy. She always finds faults in whoever she’s dating, and she’s obviously too guarded to ever let herself fall in love again. Is there any hope for her? I love her to death, and i couldn’t bear to see her live the rest of her life single and lonely. Any advice? :)
Hey, pls help can’t see the video
well … i know what you meen i loved a guy for five years and really thought that his the man that i will spend the rest of my life with
but after we got married he turned to someone i don’t know the last few years with him i was always saying that someday he will be back for me he will remmaber what i did for him and the man that i fall for will comeback for me
and when we had a baby i thought this will unite us but it mad everything worse
and i was afraid of losing him so i exept the pain and the hurt from him
then oneday i was searching the internet for answers about how i can get him back
and i saw you and you changed all my life so thank you for that
i went to him and told him that i can’t live like this anymore
and i really want a divorce
and since that day my life is going amazing but i still didn’t find that perfect man for me but i won’t give up maybe someday i will find him and then i will be the happiest woman on earth
at first the pain was so bad i was crying all night because every time i looked to the side of the bed , he just wasn’t there
i was hurting and trying to become stronge i tried and tried till i fainally forget his smell
and everytime when someone talks about him i feel nothing
so thank you matt
i told you that you are man of my dreams and my hero
Thanks Matthew. I so needed to hear this right now.
Thank you Mat for sharing this video with us. I am using this therapy for all other aspects in my life and it truly does work.
Is this always like this? I mean…From being totally fallen in love to realize that everything’s a LIE, in this moment I don’t believe in this feeling anymore, I won’t deny it was fun at the beginning but now everything has lost its sense, the sparkle its just gone..
I share this because I was excited and so happy days before..but I guess I just fooled myself within al the fantasy stories I made up
Nevertheless I don’t want to transmit my bitterness so I hope all of you girls can find the love you’ve been looking for, never give up as I decided to do..good luck
Too bad, the first video cannot be view as it has been blocked in my area. But it’s ok I can relate I saw the movie twice and it’s a highly recommended movie.
Thank you for reminding me of this movie again and explaining your message to us through this movie. Having a positive perspective out from unhappy ending is the way to find your soon to be partner. Great message, Matt! More power to you!
I am so thankful for this video. my heart was so broken – I almost commit suicide. In fact,the guy who broke my heart told me to kill myself. He’s a real jerk, I know, but I’m still sad about it. It happened last night too. I admit that this video makes me feel a little bit better, but I’m still very sad; I can’t stop thinking about him- which terrifies me. This video has helped me out heaps. It makes me feel heaps good about myself. Thanks for words of advice, Matthew. xx