Hey guys, check out this video first before moving on to the second one, as I use it here to illustrate my point.
If you’ve ever experienced the pain of losing someone, there is a technique you need to learn for shifting the emotion you feel when you’re heartbroken. So even if you’re not heartbroken right now, maybe you have been in the past, or maybe you want to be fully equipped with it for the future!
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Never saw it that way before, shifting the way you think about the situation really is a smart way to deal with things! But sometimes it’s just too hard to let go of what you thought was true =( great video as always – THANK YOU Matthew
Thank you Matt, I needed to see/hear this. I sometimes forget that guys have feelings too – I don’t know why but I think they are robots and I forget they get shy/upset to all the emotions us girls have. I like this guy at the moment and I can see him trying but sometimes I think I make it up – I feel I need to do something about it but I can’t – waiting not creating therefore I am frustrated with the situation. Anyways, always love your work and its practical application as well as honesty always delivered with love!
Thanks again!Emi
I’ve never really gone through a heartbreak, but hearing this video has taken away some fears that I’ve had about feeling pain because of another person and has given me a little more ambition. It doesn’t even need to be applied necessarily to only your love life, but can be applied in many areas of life where we experience pain. These videos are flowing with wisdom and are invaluable.
Thank you Matthew for making us girls happier everytime you post your advice videos. It really does change our lives.
Thank you so much Matthrew!
I was totally ‘hopeless’ about 6 months ago; don’t believe in ‘LOVE’ anymore, don’t trust any guy, don’t want any relationship’.So i went out with every guy i met; Canadian, Slovakian, Belgium, Korean. Since i am a foreign student in Korea i have wider chance to meet with a lot of foreigner who came and study here.I told to them that ‘I am such a mess, i don’t believe in relationship, i care nothing and i don’t even care about the gossips etc ect’.
I was acting like that because my ex ex boyfriend who’s been together with me for 6years cheated on me within the whole 6years (with a lot of girls). I broke up with him and dated with a Korean. But i didn’t go well and yeah we broke up.
Since then, I stop believing people and shut my mind off.
But a few months ago, i found your videos on youtube (at first, i was attracted only because of your apperance and accent of course :) ). And then i felt that you believe in what you’re saying, also very confident in yourself. I was very sure that yu are professional in this field.
So, i became watching your videos everytime i feel depressed and stressed. Living in a foreign country is already stressful, and plus guys problems,studying and everything, your videos made me gain the confident again and HAPPY again!
NOW i think i m ready to be in a relationship!! I haven’t found the guy who’s cute enough to date yet. But I am sure i will meet in a very near future. At least I want to be in a realtionship, right? :) :)
Again, thanks for the video Matthrew. :)
You couldn’t have said it better.
I too live in a foreign country (China). So so so far from my home. When solitude, stress, school and cultural shock mix together, there’s nothing more poisonous for a single young woman. We lose the mind seeking for a little warm.
I’ve been searching like crazy on the internet to find some advice, like a big brother or kind of a father (since mine died long ago), to keep me from bad behavior. Of all people, bloggers, coaches I found, Matthew stood out as the best, the one who got my trust, so pedagogic, simple, precise, understanding and professional. He’s my official personal pill in time of confusion or depression.
I’m cheering you up darling for I know just exactly what you are going through. Thx God for the creation and leading of Matthew Hussey!!!
Wow! This is awesome!
Thanks!!
Thank you so much!
I always thought that maybe I am too demanding, twisting movies and reality, and always end up settling for whatever he decided to offer hoping to reach full happiness as time goes by. It’s kind of a heartbreak, a slow and growing one… Now I know that I’m not silly, that I don’t have to go through that, selling myself sort, being so convenient. Things can always be better. Patience and faith will prove us right Matthew, they will prove us right. Thank you so much for you videos!
Great video! since i have never actually had a relationship i have never been heartbroken in that way – but i have had crushes and they ended badly – so i still get it – and i usually just brush it off and say oh well that was a waste of my time but now i can move on :) The Best is YET to come!!! and i am excited for that day to arrive! ;D
one guy i liked for 6yrs – then finally braved myself to go up and talk to him – and he didn’t even respond (i think he was like ‘oh great here is that dreaded day – lol) he just looked at his phone and was texting – now that i look back on it, yes it hurt at the time – but now its kinda funny lol – my family is going to be moving soon as soon as our place sells, we don’t know where exactly a different city or maybe a different state even – then there may be more options as far as guys go lol – either way i know i am finally ready to begin a relationship – a real one.
“I feel pain, but he/ she is not the right person for me.” So my life and my search are not over.
That’s exactly the way we should be thinking after being disappointed by someone.
Thank you for this video, Matthew. I hope I will be able to attend some of your events in the future in person.
Wish you really all the best!
heartbreak sucks. I just realized how much my 1st heartbreak affected me. And now I see a new interesting person, and I wish they would want me, and want to make me feel loved. But they quickly lost interest. I think i need to be my own superhero. How do you build emotional strength to be confident? how do you make a man want to treat you well?
500 days of Summer is one of my favorite movies for how real a film it is. Not a happy ending, but life isn’t always happy.
Again, I find myself commenting on your videos. It is truly inspiring, and I am very excited to hear about this big new announcement next week! It’s amazing how you can reach your viewers without even being there with them, physically. Keep up the fantastic blog! :)
Hi Matt
I know I’m only young (I’m 18) but I was in an on/off relationship for 3 years I finally dumped him in October because for the last few months of our relationship he was cheating on me with loads of people including some girls I counted as friends. Since then I have not been able to even fancy anyone. There have been guys ive liked but I can’t seem to do anything about it because I keep thinking about how they will hurt me… I know this sounds pathetic but i need help…
Grace
Matthew, thank you so much for saying that feeling pain is okay, because that means you have a heart, that you believe in love. These last months I was refusing to believe in love, because I have too much pain inside of me. I realized that when you said it, and I realized that I didn´t want to believe because I didn´t want to feel that kind of horrible pain again.
Thanks for saying that about the meaning we give to things or people. You are so right. I was thinking he was my soulmate and he wasn´t. And now that I realize it I feel incredibly good.
Thank you so much for your words and advice. I feel very grateful.
Thanks Matthew ! You have really helped me through my love life. I was at the friendzone with my best friend and I finally got out of it in a good way ;) Your awesome at what you do! I love your videos : ) take care!
Hi Matthew, thanks for the positive video! I actually bawled my eyes out during that scene when I watched the movie for the first time..
I went through a phase in my life for about 7 years, I thought I had lost “the one” and eventually I realized how silly I’d been thinking..
I also went through the numb phase, where nobody could get through to me, until a guy made me feel like a million bucks. He would come by my work and fog up the glass with his breath and draw little hearts on the glass when he saw I was having a rough day.. and came to my house in the middle of the night, called me out in my pajamas with my hair a mess and serenaded me with an out-of-key song he wrote for me because I was “so offbeat, regular chords wouldn’t do me justice”… about 6 months later we ended up breaking up and that’s when I realized that everyone is special and everyone has something to offer.. that no one person means life or death to your love life.
Now I’m in a phase where I am comfortable being by myself, but I want something more. I can’t have children and so a lot of guys don’t want a future with me, which is fine and understandable.. and I know eventually someone will love me regardless of that (getting teary eyed, sorry) but I’m nearly 30 and it’s starting to feel hopeless.
I can’t wait til June 7th. I live on the east coast of the US and have never been able to make it to one of your seminars. Again, thank you for the positive message. I think I’m gonna go watch the movie again now, before bed.
xx
Jess
Please please please if you can arrange for something in Kuala Lumpur. I will get all the ladies to hear you out ..Matt !!
Hi Mathew
Such great advice as per usual. Can really relate to it as I have been hurt in the past. Also, 500 days of summer – such a great film.
Take care xx
Hey Matthew! :) I’ve been watching your videos for a loooong time now and I just wanted to tell you that I really enjoy them! :)
I just got one question: Many people tell me that I am literally chasing love..That that is wrong and that I should try to focus on other things in life and that once I stop wanting it so bad…it will just happen ;)
But I want to fall in love and be loved and experience every aspect of love..I just want it so bad..
so what’s your opinion? :D Thank you so much for everything!
Yes!! I’m not the only one who does that:D
haha most certainly not! :D
btw! love your tumblr and the thing about soulmates! so true!
Thank you so much. Your videos are an inspiration to all of us who have gone through heartbreaks.