Hey guys, check out this video first before moving on to the second one, as I use it here to illustrate my point.
If you’ve ever experienced the pain of losing someone, there is a technique you need to learn for shifting the emotion you feel when you’re heartbroken. So even if you’re not heartbroken right now, maybe you have been in the past, or maybe you want to be fully equipped with it for the future!
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Hi Matt,
thanks for that video! It really came at the right time, I am still feeling the pain after 1 year from a breakup and now it makes more sense. I moved country for my ex-boyfriend to his home country. It turned out to be a power struggle and he made all the important decisions of where to live, etc as my visa depended on him. In the end I realised it was unhealthy and he kicked me out of the bedroom and i had to sleep on the couch and on an air-mattress in the spare room until i found alternative housing. I have since moved home and recently made improvements in my career but still feel bogged down by the pain. He was certainly not the “one”! thanks matt! x
Thank you Matt for the video :) I personally never had much of a heart break seeing as how I’m only 19 and I have my whole life ahead of me. But it’s amazing how much we are greatly affected by even the little things in our lives. This is definetly some great advice. When I am feeling down because a crush got away from me or it didn’t work out with a guy, (might sound silly) I just put on some really loud music and cook or clean something.
You’re absolutly right Matt, thank you for such videos, everytime when I listen to you I feel like someone is supporting me and that it’s normal to be upset and feel pain and be dissapointed. everyone tells me the things you were talking about casuall things that it’s ok, you deserve better and you need time. Noone told me yet that you know it’s normal, it’s funny but this words mean really much. I know and I hope I’ll find someone someday who will be the one. so thanks again for supporting us everytime :)
Great point! We ladies got to learn to connect. Tune in. Be intuitive emotionally.
Oh dear where do I begin, everything that I’ve seen on the blog is just AMAZING and HELPFUL!!! Definitely will pass the word on =)
Oh my God! too many comments! I hope you have the time to read them all Matty =) Well mine is not that large…I just realize how mind can be such a powerful gun of destruction or instead…a lovely machine that let our dreams live for a while and make us happier…
I bet all of us has suffered pain in certain edge of our lives, however I must confess that before I took it like if were the end of the world so I repressed every feeling trying to hide my human side…Now I can say freely that I’m alive!
I permit myself to FEEL for once in my life and that’s a jewel that I won’t never let others to take away..not this time..not even the person I love..
Thank-you for the video. It is a very good tip. I enjoy your energy and sense of humor.
I love that movie, thank you for all your videos and wonderful advice. Can’t wait for your news! I wish I was closer to go to one of your retreats.
Greetings from Mexico!
This video…wow. It’s like you think you’re so smart about everything, and maybe you are, but everybody has at least one area in which they don’t excel, and that’s normal. That video was simply enlightening, once everything was said, it made so much sense… I can’t believe how long I’ve been going through my love life without that knowledge !
THANK YOU SO MUCH MATTHEW
You are a faithful one =)
Big love,
Leslie
Wow!! Thank you so much for that! It spoke to me right away! I actually have seen this happen very close for my father. He is 50 years old and hasn’t had a girlfriend since my parents divorced 15 years ago.
He’s exactly the extreme one you described. He has had that pain for 15 years because he is still stuck to the idea that she was the one. But the truth is if it didn’t work it was for a reason and he still doesn’t want to accept that. He has closed his heart, like you said. He lost his way, himself, his confidence, and his ambition. It has changed the way he lives his life. Because he stayed in love with the dream of them being the perfect couple. You are absolutely right, it makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE and I am really happy you talked about it that way, reminding us how the way we deal with pain can make all the difference in what the future will be. If my dad had seen it with other glasses, the glasses of the responsible one and not the victim he would have not given up on himself and on love and he would have tried again and again and probably succeeded. So, it’s letting go of the image you had, the attachment to the potential of that relationship we create in our head but that’s not always the realty.
So, please, lets never forget that we have a choice!! Even if it’s hard to see when we are heart broken. We can be disappointed, it’s totally normal but lets not give up! Like you said so well, the pain is a natural thing. Let’s live our pain, lets be sad if we are, it’s part of life, but than lets let go and move one! I am telling you this because I’ve seen the damage in my father, the damage of holding on to the past, closing all the doors. It’s a way you don’t want to go. The end of something is always the beginning of something new and with relationships I think this is very true too.
Thank you so much!! :)
Great message Matthew. And what I LOVE about that movie is when he meets someone even better suited for him as a RESULT of him getting over Summer. He might still be writing greeting cards if she didn’t catapult him into misery. Sometimes we need to hit rock bottom before we realize we didn’t actually like where we were or who we were with etc.
Sometimes these heartbreaks teach us about ourselves and what we want and don’t want and are stepping stones to something greater!
I absolutely agree with you!
Great video, Matt!
i love it
I really liked this video.. thanks for the things you’ve said, you’re soooo right.
The thing is, not so easy to do that in practice. You keep telling yourself he was a jerk, that he was the wrong person for you, cos if he broke your heart then he definitely was NOT the right person. Cos if he was, you two were still together, right? :P
STILL there’s another tiny part of you that cannot help thinking how good you would feel when you were with him, so you miss him and think that you’ll have with no one else the connection you would have with him. You kinda hope one day he’ll wake up and realize the mistake he has made, even if you know really really well that’s NOT gonna happen.
So, once again, yeah you’re completely right, but it’s not that easy to make that giant leap that makes you think you feel disappointed cos you’ve found out he was the wrong person for you and not cos you’ve lost your soul-mate. Still you have to make it, otherwise you’ll be like stuck in a limbo :)
Btw thanks again for the video! Illuminating as usual :D
hi Matthew, you have helped me to come to terms with why i was feeling like this. and what feeling like this means for me.it was not meant to be!! i feel inspired to not give up on love, and i still have hope that i will find that special man. thank you
Thank you, Matthew – this is such a helpful way of looking at things. If only someone had explained this concept to me ten years ago, I would have saved myself so much time feeling heartbroken over guys I now know were not right for me, and instead would have gotten on and lived life in a fuller way! Thank goodness I know better now and have the confidence to move past it a lot more quickly when I’ve been hurt by a guy – but it’s so good to have it thought out and explained in the way that you have here.
Thank you – I’m finding your blog videos so helpful and thought provoking and inspiring! I might come to one of your courses next year when I move from New Zeand to London!
Great stuff again Matt. This is amazing, its real service. I can see what you mean.
My biggest regret is that I live half a world away and cant see you in person.
By the way my favorite point during all these viewings is when you show up on the screen with a greeting. you’ve come to mean so much and stand for so much that its a pleasure to just watch you come back again. All the positives vibes begin to cascade right at the outset.
you’ve had me at hello!
Good Day 2 u Matthew,
In response 2 ur video blog post @ “AnyOne who’s Ever had their heart broken.”
The ironic thing I notice was the things u said in ur blog following the video were very similar 2 a blog I wrote @ 5 yeArs ago in November of 2007.
And also, another interesting coincidence was that I recently just saw that film (500) days of summer a few nights ago too.
My blog was entitled: “Broken Hearts ( Can / They ) Mend,” if u or anyone is interested in reading my rendition of this subject feel free 2 contact me @ ur discretion.
Oh, & by the way I believe u are doing a superb job when it comes 2 informing ur clients on matters of the heart through the interesting topics in which u deliver.
From: Crystal W_
You are awesome, Matthew. Thank you so much for this!
Great video! I needed to hear that perspective right now. Thanks Matthew!
So you say it’s ok to be sad about the fact that the guy wasn’t the right one yet. And after we become sick of being sad it’s good to see that there are other nice guys out there and we become happy again…