I realized a huge truth about getting rid of loneliness that I didn’t mention in last week’s video.
Learn this simple-yet-powerful concept, and you’ll have an essential tool to create happy, meaningful relationships and feel connected again…
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Thank you for sharing Matthew, you always find the words I can’t express.
You’re right when you say vulnerability is not easy.
But when you go against your fear of being ridiculous or rejected if you smile to someone, if you exchange a word with someone, then you’ll feel alive.
I, myself, had to work a lot to be the person I am today. I love hugging people (even if they are perfect strangers) but most often I smile (even more to someone who looks sad or angry) – and I’ve been told that the warmth of my smile or my hugs make people feel good, relaxed, wanting to trust life and people again…
So thank you, be you, be kind, be vulnerable and caring. Show others the way, and they will follow, maybe not now, maybe not tomorrow but, one day, every single act of kindness (small or big) will have an impact.
I love you people <3
More wise words, your first video on loneliness made me cry (in a good way) as it connected with me and made me realise that firstly there were lots of others who experienced the same feeling and secondly there was a different way of thinking. Just got to keep remembering I have the power to change the way I view things I hold the power to change my perspective. Vunerability is taking that chance to speak to someone new and risk rejection. I missed two opportunities this weekend to take initial attraction further, I just need to be a little bit braver. Thank you, as always wise words.
Loved it!!! Please do the video on vulnerability!!!
Matthew, you have inspired me to go out and help others. This year I am taking a break from work to dedicate me to my MBA studies. I am a top manager for an automaker and have a deep sense to conect with others, to help them to make a positive change in their profesional and personal lives. When I decided to leave my job to pursuit my MBA, I also decided that I would try my best to connect with my friends and listen to them and their circumstances, that way I could be more meaningful. After seeing your second video about loneliness and listening you talking about being more empathized with others, I got absolutely eager to go and do that for others, starting with my friends specially those going through hard times, making them feel they are never alone. THANK YOU for what you do, teaching us and reminding us HOW to be more humans. You are making such a positive change in the world! Keep shining that light please!
Seriously, am so amazed.i had never felt loved by my family being that i was brought up by my dad only and we had no sense of vulnability .to him it was always work but thanks be to God for this brilliant guy(Matthew).i always felt less important and not free with everyone coz they all see me as the shortess amongest them yet am not that short, this always sets isecure thoughts in my mind that leads me to loneliness.u just taught me a new thing that am super eager to apply to end insecure loneliness.Thank u Matthew and God bless u
Matthew, I just recently found your videos and programs a few months ago. Everything you post is such a huge help to me. This video is wonderful as I have been dealing with feeling lonely a lot lately. Thank you for your insight.
I was also wondering if you have advice for women going out alone or how to find the female peers that you talk about in some of your videos and building that support group? A lot of your material suggests that we would already have that in place and that we would be going out with friends to meet men. What if we don’t have those since recently getting out of a relationship?
Maybe this could be an idea for a video down the road. Thank you Matthew for all you do!
Matt,
I love all your videos and books thats published. You have guided me through tough times and helped me bond me with my family as philosophies that you’ve discussed are relevant to all sorts of love. I’m currently going through a rough patch in my relationship/ heartbreak and also some hard- realisations. I’m on my way again, doing my best to understand myself. Keep it up, I look forward to more of your inspirations!
Love your work!,
Kat xx
Thank you for this beautiful video.
I used to feel lonely, just like you describe in last weeks video. But after I went to your retreat in San Diego a couple of years ago I never feel lonely anymore. Whether I’m on my own, with friends or my boyfiend (thanks for making that happen too by the way) I always feel like I’m in great company and I feel valued.
I wish all of the people watching your video could learn how to feel like this. Lots of kisses to all of you xx
Hi :) you’re amazing!
I have struggled with loneliness for as long as I can remember. Lately I’ve been wrought with it and I can’t seem to pull myself out of it. I’ve been trying to make myself into a better version of me for many years now and I feel like I’ve just been failing this entire time. I’m deeply unhappy and alone and any time people start to show interest in getting close to me, I find a logical reason why they shouldn’t and I give them that reason and they take it and run. The only thing I truly want in this life is a deep, lasting friendship that carries on for the rest of my life, and yet I am crippled with the fear of being hurt, betrayed, and rejected. I have many many people around me who like me and who seem happy to see me, but I only find myself able to connect with them in the most superficial ways. I go home from these interactions feeling even more alone than before. I don’t know what to do or how to change. I’m just sitting in front of my computer sobbing. I want to be happy again but I’m overwhelmed at the idea because it seems like such a steep climb from where I am.
I spent all day applying for jobs and being pissed off because nobody has gotten back to me with an interview. That being said, I realized everything will happen in it’s due time. The only thing I control is my effort.
SO – if something bothers you, then please take the effort. AND coming from somebody with bipolar disorder, medical illness is real. Some people are depressed for no reason and no blame of theirs. If you think this is you, then please see a doctor. Medication has changed my life. Unfortunately, lithium makes me feel nauseous on some days and I take vitamins too so it’s a LOT of pills. But my brain feels good and I can concentrate and I’m raring to go! I can’t wait to get and ace my next job. I can’t wait to ace my certification exam and admissions exam and go back to school at some point. There is a lot of stuff in life besides guys. I love making money. I still date and try to make a connection, don’t get me wrong.
Adrienne, how beautiful you are when you are being real. It’s like breathing fresh air. I have felt like this before specially after difficult times, I found it useful to focus on finding a purpose. Being on boards, volunteering and sharing my talents. Sometimes silence can be a talent, specially when someone needs to talk and all the word of difference is in your presence. You are valuable and I am glad I saw your comment. I hope you are well.
I’ve felt lonely since i was a child… its is just a longing for someone i’ve never had around. I trust that the void will be filled some day but waiting is super lonely. Raising two kids for 4 years alone… every man failing me along the way… of course even my father and most men in our family… its like its a curse… I just dont even know what its like to have the void filled…. ive had a taste with my childrens fathers in the past that claimed to be my soul mate and then morphed into cheaters/ abusers, alcoholics… so i just decided to be alone and love myself and my kids… but no matter how hard i try… i cant stop longing for this “THING” LOVE.. true, life partner, till death do us part and… its haunting.. The male and all his ability to make everyone feel safe and just some type of presence i cant describe… im tired of filling that void as well for everyone in the family… I need it, the kids need it and it just hits you your alone! Deal with it… keep it moving… stop being sad… but you are and you just fake it till ya make it! oh well im just venting now.. but you asked so i had to answer… what you do really helps with this whole process… you make things seem LIGHTER and easier to deal with from your opinions… Your a great coach… You also remind me there are GOOD, positive, aware, capable men out there; and it helps me to not settle.. THANK YOU FOR EVERYHTING! <3 I will continue to Love myself as much as i can and just be ready.
MATTHEW EDMOND HUSSEY!
Why are there no new pictures on your instagram?! You’re one of two people who I keep up with on the internet. Neither of you has posted anything.
The other person doesn’t have a blog. Anyway, best get to work mate… or shall I say MEH.
Wow….thanks Matthew. When i watched your last video on Feeling lonely , i was shocked to see how connected i felt with your words. I used to feel no one listens to me and felt lonely. Everyone seemed busy. My friends and lover call me weak for this. After watching your video i feel more alive. It helped me regain my self consciousness. So keep posting such amazing motivational videos.
It’s amazing that there have been these videos from Matt about loneliness, which is a such a taboo subject. Love the little snapshots into peoples lives. I particularly like the one about feeling lonely when on a train when seeing everyone on their mobiles.
I particularly like the advice about showing vulnerability. Not the usual ‘go out and meet people’ advice when more often than you are doing that but just not connecting. It’s most definitely the connecting which is important. Plagued me for years. Has opened up the idea that others may be feeling that too standing next to you.
Never got around to sending my video. But my feeling lonely is at a football match, which I go to alone every week as I love watching football. I chat to people before the match, they are very friendly, then they disappear into their respective seats & with their particular group of people/family & I don’t see them again.
The best time I had connecting (without making it sound like a cliche) was at a Matt Hussey London event recently. So good I went twice and brought a friend 2nd time. Honestly, the best time I’ve had in years. xxx
Matthew I loved it!
You’re advice of opening up so we connect with those around us it’s so great and I’m gonna start trying and do it! Its not always an easy thing to do because I’m afraid of opening up cuz others don’t do it as well!
Xxoo
Thank you Matthew. Sometimes its even easier for me to show myself vulnerable to strangers than to my long time friends. I made myself the question of why do I feel lonely when my group of friends from school get together (it doesnt happen to me with other friends), and realized that I dont feel quite connected to them, maybe it’s because we are all in different stages of life and its harder to get to connect in a deeper level, but I also realized that sometimes I do not feel that worthiness, cause I havent have many big or great news, so I’ll work on that and in showing myself more vulnerable, even I sometimes dont make myself the space to share it. :) Besos from Argentina :)
I don’t usually have a problem with being alone. It’s my gift and curse. I know I love myself and I am most at peace when I am spending time with my self and doing something not because anyone else asked me to or wants me to but because the idea came to me and I didn’t stop and ask myself who can I get to do this with me. I feel it’s a curse because I use it as a shield to not have to be vulnerable or put myself out there to get hurt. I feel like I can control how I accept myself and am feircly protective of giveing that power to anyone else. The more I find myself spending time with ppl I find myself caring about them and in essence allowing them to have that part of me that I can’t control. I have this insane fear of pain because I have not dealt with it well in the past. I don’t want to be unbalanced and impenetrable because I have strength to protect me from me but not others.
Beautiful video :) Thanks for sharing amazing insight into a very common situation in today’s world. Loneliness can come in various forms and being an introverted person, I can completely relate to the general distaste for vulnerability. Thank you again :)
Matthew, this was the perfect missing piece to my documentary, “Breaking Stigma.” (A closer look at our communities mental health.) A smile goes a long way, and being nicer to ourselves while keeping an outward focus will improve our moods and enhance our realities. Thank you for the message, one of my favourites thus far. As I recipricate it, I will give you credit.
Super funny Harry Potter seg. ❤️
This message is for Jamison,
Loving your creativity on camera and editing. The lighting tech is good.
A suggestion for Matthew… How about examples. Showing people being brave. Show us how to get out of our comfort zone. Hits the street! You’ll be a sensation.
Creative editing?