How To Get the Guy Podcast

This week’s episode looks at why even highly intuitive people can miss the signs of a partner living a double life. I share the story of a woman who spent 17 years in a marriage without suspecting a thing—not because she wasn’t perceptive, but because love can dull the very instincts meant to protect us. I also break down the psychological trapdoors that make us overlook what’s right in front of us. The goal isn’t to make you suspicious; it’s to help you trust those moments of quiet discomfort instead of dismissing them. If something has ever felt “off,” this

Ever feel like you’re stuck dating people who never fully show up? Maybe they’re avoidant, inconsistent, or just not ready for real commitment—yet somehow, you keep holding on, hoping things will change. In this episode, Matthew unpacks why we get attached to people who can’t give us what we need and how to break free from that pattern for good. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your self-worth, spot emotional unavailability early, and start saying “no” faster—so you can finally say “yes” to something real. --- ►► Find the Beautiful & LASTING Relationship You Want. Watch My Masterclass, From Casual to

Is love really easier to find in Chicago than in Los Angeles? Or is it all in how you show up? In this week’s all-new Love Life episode, we unpack the myths and realities of dating in different cities—and what your zip code might (or might not) have to do with your love life. Plus, we tackle a Love Life Line question from a listener in her 50s who’s navigating the tricky waters of dating men who prefer much younger partners. Is this a red flag, or should she keep an open mind? --- ►► If you’ve ever felt like

This episode tackles a topic that’s as raw as it is real: “I no longer want to hear dating advice from conventionally attractive people.” That line, from a recent British Vogue article, struck a chord with many people, and for good reason. So much dating advice comes from people who’ve never had to face what it’s like to be overlooked or rejected again and again. When you’ve never had to climb from the bottom of the mountain, “just be confident” isn’t advice . . . it’s a reminder of how far the gap really is. This week, we’ll explore what

Why do we get so in our heads when we start dating someone new? In this episode, we dive deep into the most common fears people face in early dating — from getting too invested too soon, to navigating intimacy and exclusivity when someone’s seeing multiple people. With over 1,300 comments from listeners sharing their biggest dating anxieties, we unpack the most relatable ones and offer real, practical ways to reframe them. You’ll hear us talk about: What it really means when someone wants intimacy but avoids emotional connection How to slow down without feeling like you’re “falling behind” Why obsession isn’t

Long-distance love can be beautiful . . . or it can slowly drive you insane. In this week’s Love Life Podcast episode, we talk about how to know the difference. Are you in something real, or just filling a void? We’ll unpack what makes distance work: from actually planning to see each other to noticing when communication starts feeling one-sided. You’ll learn the signs your relationship is moving forward with real intention vs. when you’re being kept around for comfort or convenience. You’ll also hear from a caller on setting boundaries without feeling needy, plus a hilarious round of “Steve’s