How To Get the Guy Podcast

I hear this all the time: “Matthew, they’re wonderful but they won’t let me in. The conversations stay shallow. They deflect when things get real. And no matter how safe I try to make it, they just . . . won’t go there.” Sound familiar? Here’s the thing: I’ve been on both sides of this. I’ve been the man who shut down, and I’ve been lucky enough to experience the moment that cracked me open. This episode is personal. I’m telling you two stories: one where vulnerability went horribly wrong, and one where it literally led to my marriage. If

We often talk about how the right partner will elevate your best and soothe your worst. But what if you secretly feel like your best isn’t good enough . . . or that your worst will be “too much“ for someone? When we carry that fear, we tend to overcorrect. We try to impress. We hide parts of ourselves. We delay vulnerability. And in doing so, we block the very connection we want. In this episode, Matthew shares how to stop looking at yourself through a lens of self-judgment and self-loathing, and instead develop real self-compassion and self-empowerment. You’ll learn

Dating can burn you out . . . especially when you’ve been rejected, ghosted, or stuck in that exhausting loop where nothing ever turns into something real. In Part 2 of my conversation with clinical psychologist Guy Winch, we get into how to stop showing up in “don’t mess this up!” mode, how to shift from avoiding loss to actually going for connection, and how to date in a way that protects your energy. We also tackle modern dating burnout—why it turns into cynicism, how to spot the patterns keeping you stuck, the “coffee date” debate, the “burned haystack” method,

When you’re ghosted, the silence feels intensely personal. In this new episode, I'm breaking down what’s really going on when someone ghosts: why it happens at different stages, and how to respond without spiraling or chasing someone who’s already shown you where you stand. If you’re dealing with silence from someone right now, this will help you make sense of it and decide what to do next. Stay till the end for the perspective that will give you back your power and remind you of your worth. --- ►► Try Matthew AI for 24/7 coaching and advice anytime at AskMH.com Hosted

Everyone wants to stand out on a first date… especially when it feels like the person across from you has endless options. But the real way to become unforgettable isn’t performing, impressing, or saying the “right” thing—it’s creating genuine connection. In this episode, Matthew shares three powerful techniques that instantly make your conversations feel more memorable. If you’ve ever walked away from a date wondering “Did I do enough?”… this episode will help you show up with confidence, presence, and real emotional impact. --- ►► Every Friday, Matthew Hussey writes a personal letter to help you strengthen the three most

Work has a way of following us home—replaying that one frustrating meeting, stealing our attention from the people we love, and turning Sunday night into a countdown to stress. In this conversation with psychologist Guy Winch, we talk about why switching off feels so hard, and what actually helps when work starts to take over your life. We get practical about breaking rumination, handling that end-of-weekend dread, protecting your energy, and staying in that “just enough stress” zone where you can still function without burning out. This is the first half of a two-part conversation. In this one, we’re focused