What if the things you’ve been blaming for where you are in life—your past, your heartbreaks, your fears—aren’t actually what’s holding you back? In this week’s episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen explore a bold idea from Adlerian psychology: that your life isn’t determined as much by your trauma as by the goals you’ve set for yourself. The Love Life Podcast crew breaks down how this flips the script on what we think we know about change, self-sabotage, and why we stay stuck. If you’ve ever felt like you’re spinning your wheels in love or life, this episode will challenge you