How To Get the Guy Podcast

Why does it feel so hard to find someone who will actually commit? These days, it’s easy to get caught up in someone’s curated image: their Instagram-perfect life, charm, and seemingly deep qualities. But having great qualities doesn’t automatically make someone a great partner. And that’s where we often get stuck. In this week’s episode, I break down why we idealize people based on what they project, and how it distracts us from seeing what really matters. I also share the subtle signs to look for in someone who’s truly capable of long-term commitment. (Also: This is your last chance

We all know we won’t connect with everyone we meet . . . but one of the most frustrating situations we can find ourselves in is one where we feel an initial spark and a connection, but things just don’t seem to progress. And in the end, they end up fading as we feel a lack of momentum. Rather than giving in to our desire to double down on communication, there’s a simple shift we can make on a date that allows unique attraction to grow. And it’s the kind of thing that will leave them thinking of us long

Do you ever feel like you’re giving too much in your relationships? In this week’s episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen tackle the exhausting cycle of overgiving and people-pleasing in love. You’ll discover why so many people feel the need to be “perfect” to keep someone around, and how this mindset can actually sabotage connection and attraction.   Learn how to break free from this pattern, create space for others to invest in you, and build relationships rooted in mutual effort and respect. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the work in your relationships or struggling to trust that

What happens when the person you trust most becomes the source of your deepest betrayal? In this week’s new video, we explore the shocking Netflix documentary Unknown Number: The High School Catfish, where a young girl discovers her relentless bully is someone she never expected. Using this real-life story, we unpack the concept of “betrayal blindness” and the devastating effects of narcissistic behavior.   If you’ve ever struggled with betrayal or felt trapped in a toxic dynamic, this video is for you. Together, we’ll unpack the emotional fallout, the tactics used by narcissists, and how to reclaim your power when

We’ve been told from a very young age to “play it cool”... But as we grow up, we realize that when we feel we need to “play it cool” to keep someone interested, that often means we’re feeling anything but cool... and it usually comes from a place of insecurity or a fear of being rejected. Pretty soon, we find ourselves calibrating our conversations and contorting ourselves to meet the other person’s needs so we don’t come off as needy or a nuisance, and little by little, we start to show them that our needs can be ignored with no

Have you ever felt like the dating world is rigged against you? In this week’s episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen dive into why finding love feels harder than ever and explore the recent shifts that have left so many people feeling stuck and isolated.    They also share practical tools to help you expand your social circle and build meaningful connections without burning out. If you’ve ever wondered how to take back control of your love life and create the relationship you actually want, this episode is packed with actionable advice to make that happen.   ---   ►► Don’t