How To Get the Guy Podcast

When you’re deep in a relationship, it can be hard to tell if you’re fighting for something worth saving—or holding on to something that’s slowly breaking you down. In this episode, Matthew shares 3 powerful questions that will help you see your relationship more clearly and know whether it’s time to stay or walk away. You’ll also learn the “dark pairing” traits that quietly erode your confidence and happiness over time—and how to spot them before it’s too late. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the fog of confusion, this episode will give you the clarity and confidence to make

What if tiny habits could completely change your love life? In this week’s Love Life Podcast, we break down the small, everyday actions that quietly create more confidence, more connection, and way more opportunity. You’ll learn about “micro missions” that can lead to new friendships, relationships, or simply a more fulfilling day, plus other simple shifts that make dating feel lighter and more intentional.   We also answer a Love Life Line question about knowing when a relationship is genuinely right for you, followed by a new round of “Steve’s Sleeves” on the bad habits that can hold us back.

This week’s episode looks at why even highly intuitive people can miss the signs of a partner living a double life. I share the story of a woman who spent 17 years in a marriage without suspecting a thing—not because she wasn’t perceptive, but because love can dull the very instincts meant to protect us. I also break down the psychological trapdoors that make us overlook what’s right in front of us. The goal isn’t to make you suspicious; it’s to help you trust those moments of quiet discomfort instead of dismissing them. If something has ever felt “off,” this

Ever feel like you’re stuck dating people who never fully show up? Maybe they’re avoidant, inconsistent, or just not ready for real commitment—yet somehow, you keep holding on, hoping things will change. In this episode, Matthew unpacks why we get attached to people who can’t give us what we need and how to break free from that pattern for good. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your self-worth, spot emotional unavailability early, and start saying “no” faster—so you can finally say “yes” to something real. --- ►► Find the Beautiful & LASTING Relationship You Want. Watch My Masterclass, From Casual to

Is love really easier to find in Chicago than in Los Angeles? Or is it all in how you show up? In this week’s all-new Love Life episode, we unpack the myths and realities of dating in different cities—and what your zip code might (or might not) have to do with your love life. Plus, we tackle a Love Life Line question from a listener in her 50s who’s navigating the tricky waters of dating men who prefer much younger partners. Is this a red flag, or should she keep an open mind? --- ►► If you’ve ever felt like

This episode tackles a topic that’s as raw as it is real: “I no longer want to hear dating advice from conventionally attractive people.” That line, from a recent British Vogue article, struck a chord with many people, and for good reason. So much dating advice comes from people who’ve never had to face what it’s like to be overlooked or rejected again and again. When you’ve never had to climb from the bottom of the mountain, “just be confident” isn’t advice . . . it’s a reminder of how far the gap really is. This week, we’ll explore what