Are you stuck obsessing over someone who’s wrong for you? In this week’s video, I dive into the concept of limerence—the unhealthy fixation on someone who doesn’t return your feelings—and how it can keep you chasing as your confidence falls lower and lower.
I’ll show you how to recognize the signs of limerence, why it thrives on hope and uncertainty, and what you can do to break free and get your power back. If you’ve ever felt trapped in this emotional loop, this is your way out!
Definitely been in limerence while being in a committed relationship. I frequently felt uncertainty and perceived he was disinterested and pulling away. The hope that things would get better reinforced the pattern of grasping and it took so much of my energy. We broke up 5 months ago and my nervous system is still trying to settle.
Yes! A 26 yr marriage , three children and now retired and nothing “relationship” worthy exists! Ugh!
I have experienced this feeling, but I now know my ex partner was doing this over his co-worker. It now feels like a great deal of deception was going on.
OMG, how about with someone who has strong signs of an Avoidant attachment?
Yes I walked away from a 7 year relationship with an avoidant attachment style male nearly 12 weeks ago. As an empath I did all the things you talk about of over explaining , supporting, forgiving, 2nd 3rd 4th…. chances. I thought I was going through the signs of grief and coming out the other side. However it’s just now I’ve started experiencing limerence. It’s quite horrible, and very annoying. Not as exhausting as being in the relationship though. You’ve made me realise I would indeed have been experiencing it throughout the relationship.
I just ended a 5 year relationship with an avoidant. He said he loved me and chose me but I never felt it from him. Then I found out so many things he had been doing that made it clear he always had one foot in and one foot out. I’m free now but your video made me realize I had created an idea of who I wanted him to be and clung to that while fighting against my inner wisdom that told me not to trust him. Five years wasted.
It’s so good to know that there is an actual name for it and that I’m not the only one who has experienced it!
I’ve had serious Limmerence for most of my adult life with various people. I was emotionally abused all thru childhood by my dad and now realize I really also suffered childhood trauma- and perhaps this is the cause…
limerence Never heard of before.
I have childhood PTSD as my father murdered my beautiful older sister over 40 years ago. I have been in therapy all my life and believe I will be for the rest of my life.
I have just come out of a 23 year narcissistic marriage a night mare. I am on my healing journey from this horrible person who used my childhood trauma as a tool. Wow!!! Just a monster.
limerence never heard of before.
I have childhood PTSD.
My father murdered my beautiful older sister over 40 years ago. I have been in therapy all my life and believe I will be for the rest of my life.
I have just come out of a 23 year narcissistic marriage a nightmare.
I am on my healing journey from this horrible person who used my childhood trauma as a tool. Wow!!! Just a monster.
limerence never heard of before.
Never heard of Limerance before
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