Marriage is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make—but it’s also one of the riskiest if you’re not careful.
In this week’s video, I’m sharing the lessons I’ve learned about what makes a marriage work, why rushing into it can lead to heartbreak, and how to know if you’re choosing the right person for the right reasons. (Plus, I share the one question you must ask yourself before saying “I do.”)
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My fear is not being able to find a man who is spiritual and has spiritual depth and or can really communicate in a healthy way when things get tough I have definitely been one of those who has hopped around thinking someone ” better” will come along. As a result I’m past the child bearing age. Ive passed up lots of good men and now don’t have the luxury of time to make the wrong decision
I was arrived for 35 years.my husband cheated on me before our 1st anniversary. I took him back cause it was the Christian thing to do so I thought .it messed up my mind body spirit and soul! I should have divorced him then or gotten therapy couples therapy something cause he did it again 3 more times that I know of and I took him back 2 of them..I finally walked away got therapy all kinds of therapy and counseling and once I got happy with myself realized how unhappy I was for 35 years.it was a game changer now I am a whole new me
One of the most significant choices you’ll ever make is getting married, but if you’re not careful, it’s also one of the riskiest.
This is the mosst important question one can ever make.
Your reflection on relationships and timing is deeply relatable. It reminds me how strategic planning in games like PokemonTD can mirror life’s challenges. This engaging tower defense game teaches valuable lessons in patience and resource management, offering a thoughtful escape while subtly honing decision-making skills that resonate beyond the screen.
Great advice! Your insights on making a successful marriage are truly valuable. The importance of choosing the right person for the right reasons can’t be overstated. Looking forward to watching the video and learning more about your experiences.
Totally get where you’re coming from! When I got married, I was like, ‘Let’s do this!’ but, honestly, I’d wish I’d paused a bit for some self-reflection. It’s so key to ask those tough questions before diving in! Anyone else ever feel that way? Oh, and here’s something that might help while you’re figuring things out—https://fnfspaghetti.net/.
Your perspective on spiritual compatibility and healthy communication really resonates—those are the foundations that matter most. It’s refreshing to see someone prioritize depth over settling. Many of us struggle with these same questions about timing and choices.
It takes a lot of courage to be this honest about the patterns that led you here. Many people stay in the cycle of chasing “better” without realizing that depth is often something built over time through commitment rather than just found in a new person. Even if the window for children has closed, finding a partner who shares your spiritual values can still bring so much meaning and companionship to this next chapter of your life.
Courtney, I really appreciate you sharing your vulnerability. It sounds like you’ve had a journey of self-discovery. It’s definitely tough when we realize we’ve prioritized things that might not align with our deepest values in the long run. Don’t give up hope! It’s possible to find connection and build a meaningful relationship at any age. Focus on what you *do* have to offer and the kind of partner you truly desire. Good luck!
This advice on lasting marriage really resonates, especially the point about choosing the right partner before saying “I do.
” The question to ask before marriage is a powerful reminder to value spiritual depth and healthy communication.
It’s a thoughtful post for anyone who has learned not to settle too
Really thoughtful advice. The reminder that marriage is not just about finding the “right” person, but choosing for the right reasons and asking the hard questions first, feels especially important. So many people rush into commitment and only realize later how much communication, self-awareness, and timing matter. I also appreciated the honesty about heartbreak and the value of reflection before saying “I do.” For anyone trying to make more intentional choices in relationships, this is definitely worth watching.