A recent scientific study (…well Marie Claire) showed the two most romantic things you can do for your partner are…
1) Put on a candle-lit dinner. 2) Write a hand-written love note. This got me thinking…
There are many cliché romantic things we can do for our partners, but I’m a big believer in the most romantic things being unexpectedly romantic.
As such, I’ve compiled a list of 7 unromantic romantic things you can do for your partner.
By the way, ladies, I would suggest you send this video to the man in your life.
If you’re single, if nothing else, send it on to your uncle, brother, or someone you know whom this will earn huge brownie points for.
They’ll thank you later!
1) See the terrible movie your partner really wants to see
When your partner’s shown you some awful trailer that they think is great, book the tickets to go see it.
I know you don’t want to go. They know you don’t want to go, but it’s going to mean the world to them that you took the initiative instead of being dragged along kicking and screaming.
2) Surprise them with their favourite lunch
Surprise your partner at their office by taking them their favourite lunch. This will be totally unexpected, and you get extra points if it’s a spot that’s way out of reach for them during their lunch break.
3) Run them a bath
Run a nice, warm bath. Get some bubbles going, a few candles and some music…
Then get the hell out.
The whole point of this one is you’re not there. Romantic things don’t always have to involve the two of you. You can do something romantic by leaving them to it. This one involves them relaxing and you giving them space.
4) Take their mum out to lunch
Spend some quality time with the person they care about most.
This doesn’t seem romantic as it’s not with them at all, but it will go massively appreciated that you’re putting in the time and effort with someone they care about.
Treat them well, make it on you, and show them a great time.
5) Wash her car
This is a nice, manly thing to do. Totally out of the blue and she’s going to love it.
6) Make her feel like a princess at that time of the month
This might just be the least romantic sounding of all, but there are going to be times where you lady has her ‘lady pains’.
When it gets to that time of the month, you have to think of all of the little things you can do for her in the moment.
Have a ritual set up. Get her a heating pad, rub her back, put on her favourite Disney movie, and do all of the little things that will ‘ambush her with kindness’.
Make her feel like a princess at a time where she’s normally used to guys not having a clue how to take care of her.
7) Learn how to make HER cup of tea
Everyone has their own particular way of doing things.
Learn the subtle intricacies for how your partner likes things done, and it will amplify the effect of you ever doing them.
Not only are you making her a cup of tea, breakfast in bed, or cooking a fancy dinner, you’re doing it the way she’s always fantasied about.
And that’s it!
Sometimes the most romantic things you can do are seemingly the most unromantic things you could do. It’s these little moments where you really show your partner you’re there for them in ways that no one else is.
Anyone can throw together a candle-lit dinner on a first date or write a love note. Here’s a list of things that show you know your partner inside out, and that you care deeply for them.
Question of the day…
What’s the most unromantic romantic thing someone has done for you? It doesn’t have to be something that seemed romantic to everyone else, but it felt romantic to you. Let me know in the comments!
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Oh Matt… I have three words for you… CALGARY, ALBERTA, CANADA. We will make you a great cuppa. You should come do a weekend retreat here.
The cuts and lighting are driving me crazy in this video but as always great advice and HILARIOUS.
cary north carolina!
you’ll get like 5 people to attend ur seminar here in suburbia, moms will be angry at dads who attend ur seminars – and vice versa
Come to New Zealand? :3
…yeah, right.
#onlyafreakingpopulationof4.5million.
#kill me now
#Alwaysclaimtohatehashtagsbutdothemanyway. -.-‘
Awww Matt!!! I love you!!! It’s been a while since I’ve watched one of your videos and I’ve made it a point to find some time this weekend to catch up. I’m one of those that you talk about that has been in a relationship and that ‘feels’ as if I don’t need to check them out anymore. Lol. However, I’m soooo incredibly happy that you’ve decided to do more videos of people who are already in relationships. I’ve definitely come across some interesting things these past 5 months. I had been single for a couple of years and loved it because it was time for myself. It was time for growth, travel, new hobbies, etc. It still is, but I had forgotten that relationships require quite a bit of work. Lots and lots of communication. I can’t wait to see what else is up your sleeve. So proud of you with the “Keep the Guy” stuff. Keep it comin’! Grande abrazo!! :)
Good heavens, finally a man who understands that sometimes women just want to be understood. For me, a relationship isn’t about the dates and the romantic setups, but about the small things that the guy can do that make me feel all tingly and butterflies inside. Impressing and being relaxed around my family is a major step in a guy even being in my life, having my guy take that extra step to encourage communication with my family is very romantic and shows just how much you like me. Other simple things are finding a random book I like for me, making hot chocolate on a cold day, renting my favorite movie after I text you I have had a horrible day, etc.
Beautiful video, you beautiful man!
-J
oh my gosh! books yes.
what an APHRODISIAC! :p
I don’t know if that’s sarcasm or not! I’m not saying I would immediately jump the guy for getting me a book, but if he made a move after doing something randomly nice like that then I’d be alright with that. XD
He helped me while I was moving from my old appartment, carry bags, it was the 5th floor, and then I prepared him his favourite dinner :)
i’m hungry.
hahahahaha you are the cutest guy ever <3
Matthew is always flirting with the camera, shamelessly :o)
Thanks for the laugh at your comment. So true! Also loved the out-takes at the end. OMG Perhaps Jamieson will compile a blooper collection, and post.
Methinks the gal who Matt ultimately settles with will have her own career and finds his enormous fan club amusing.
I am so loving this video, my favorite is taking the time to take my mom or dad or even one of my brothers out to eat or just to chill, cuz family to me is super important. See guys sometimes just don’t get it, if I’m happy trust me u will be happy too;)
I honestly love you Matt! Your so funny and adorable. You make my days brighter and more positive. :) Best regards xo
Matt!!! I loved this. LOVED it! Was going to share it on my facebook wall for all my guy friends to see, but then I got embarrassed that they’d know I was watching something called “howtogettheguy”. Why or why couldn’t it be “Howtogetyourloveon”or something generic or coach-y?? I love your stuff. I’m a devoted fan. But also a little shy…. ;-)
me too!!! Im shy to share it because of that… :X
I do most of those things anyway, because the best way to know what to do for someone is to think of how you would want to be treated and adapt it to fit to what they would enjoy.
p.s Have to say your quite a normal well rounded kinda guy, if more guy’s were like you I wouldn’t have given up dating.
absolutely love this! this is such a truth! You are the best ♥
You are absolutely adorable, Matt! I hope we can all find someone as thoughtful as you. Perfect unromantic romantic gestures!
It’s funny.. because you just described my boyfriend..
He knew from my Twitter page that I’m a huge Backstreet Boys fan, so he kept using their lyrics to send me messages, which I found so romantic that got my heart melted for him.
He cares about every single detail of my interests (which most of them, he doesn’t really care about) but he talks about them with me and asks me questions like he really cares about them, but made me feel that he really cares about me.
Thank you Matt!
I was beginning to think Jameson wasn’t real, but I’ve finally heard him! Will definitely be sending this to some male friends. Although one of my favorite things to do for people is write love notes, these suggestions are great too.
PS: More tea, less milk all the way.
I remember when I bought a pair of sneakers too small. I tried them on and bought them without my shoe insoles so they didn’t fit properly when I wore my insoles with them. My ex-boyfriend was kind enough to sit with me for half an hour trying to stretch the shoes with his fists. We may not be together, but those same shoes still fit me today. =] Wish him the best.
Why isn’t he married already?!? He is SO adorable!
you are so adorable, can you just marry me already?
Haha. Right? Props to Matt for being such a gentleman and a good guy.
Can you please explain to me how to make the perfect cup of tea? I lack the tea skills, and have yet to make an amazing cup of tea!
Thanks ;-)
I’m kind of short, so when the guy I have a HUGE crush on at work (who’s really tall) helped me get stuff from the shelves that are too high for me, I can’t help but look at him like he’s the best thing ever ^_^
Side note, is it totally wrong that I gave an excited cry when Matthew said “Put on her favorite Disney movie?” I would seriously love a man forever if he let me watch as many Disney movies as I wanted and let me sing along. Did I mention I’m 25?
I think the best has for to be when my ex took a week of work to get to know me – that was lovely I sent him back to work after day 3 because he was too much in my space/up my arse too much! But after a year of being single I can see the romantic gesture in hind sight. And I think it’s one of the sweetest things a bf had done 4 me. I’ve had the wash the car & the ambush on my monthly & the best cuppa done 4 me b4 & the helping my mum stuff. And yes they do work!!!