The Next Minute Could Be The One That Changes Your Whole Love Life

I’m sitting here less than two weeks out from my new TV show and book release (both on the 9th of April) and it’s a very surreal moment.

Advanced copies just arrived in the post, and it’s the first time I’ve had my hands on the real thing.

It’s a pretty special moment to be holding the book for the first time.

As I open it, between the dedication (to my mum of course ;) and the first chapter, I read the epigraph that I chose:

“This moment contains all moments” – C.S. Lewis

The meaning I take from this is that in this moment you hold the power to every other moment in your life.

Right now you have a huge array of decisions you COULD make, actions you COULD take, paths you COULD embark on. Which one you choose will determine which of the many roads you go down.

(Photo: BrianJMatis)

This beautiful sentence to me sums up what we do at GetTheGuy. I’ve come to learn that the smallest things we do are the things that generally have the biggest impact on our lives.

When a woman comes to me worried that guys just see her as a friend – or one of the guys – she usually can’t see that she is just ‘millimeters’ away from being seen as sexy or feminine. The tiny things she does in the way she touches men in a more masculine manner, or the odd word that suggests a friendship rather than a sexual connection are what determine how she is seen.

When a woman worries that she comes across as cold and unapproachable, it’s not because of anything major she’s doing wrong. It’s the small stuff. The way she turns away too fast when a guy gives her eye contact. It’s because she doesn’t smile just a couple of millimeters more with her mouth to show she’s non-threatening. It’s the way her answers to a man’s questions are just a few words short of seeming interested.

And of course, it’s the same in relationships. The moment you kiss your partner passionately for no reason at all. The 10 second call you make to tell someone you are thinking of them. The little present you bring them that cost $5 but shows you were listening when they said that thing two weeks ago.

Often we become overwhelmed by the amount of things we have to do to reach a desired goal.

I meet people all the time who are overwhelmed by the concept of going from single to meeting ‘the One’. “What am I doing wrong?” “Where should I be going?” “What do I need to be doing differently?”

If this moment does indeed contain ALL moments – every possible future outcome for your life – then what you do right now will change the picture of your life one day from now, one year from now, and even ten years from now. But nothing is served by overwhelming yourself with anticipating this change in any given moment. Instead, focus on the tiny shift you can make right now.

Pick one way to do this in this very moment.

And remember… There’s nothing bigger than the little things.

Matthew xxx

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As you know my book is coming out in less than two weeks. If you are wondering what ‘little things’ you can do in your love life to find and create an incredible relationship with an amazing guy, grab a copy. You won’t regret it.

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92 Replies to “The Next Minute Could Be The One That Changes Your Whole Love Life”

  • i’m always intrested to read what you write, and i always like it and answers questions in my head so thank you soooooooooooooo much you’re the best :)

  • im so glad you can now share with all women what we realy need to know Matt,well done and wish you all the good luck you need

  • hi matt

    just pre ordered your book on Amazon and i hope it will arrive soon.

    congratulations on your work. the emails from you are making me happy, make me think things over, adjust my behavior and slowly getting me in the direction of being a happy, beautiful and confident woman! thank you so much!

    good luck for next week
    sonja

  • Hi Matthew,

    I have seen all your you tube videos recently, just because they were interesting, although I have been with the ‘Man of my dreams’ from the last 6 years and we are getting married next month.

    Well, I was just curious on what should I do in my last single month, things that I would never be able to do again or what? Would love to know your response to this.

    I wish you all the luck for your book release and the show which are both just 2 days from now.
    They will be a Hit! Am sure.

    Love,
    Nitti

  • Hey Matt,
    Such an amazing article , seriously ..great work.. it made my day & every think you write jst keep reminding me how beatiful , amazing & strong woman iam & that i deserve to be happy ..you give me every thing i need ..we all are very lucky to have you XOXO
    P.s : Congratulations for the book& the t.v show.

  • Hey Matthew. So.. excited your book is coming out in a couple of days here in the U.S. I’m going to Barnes & Nobles that day. B.T.W you didn’t come across needy..lol

  • Hi Matt,
    I love your book and news letters, very insightful.. I was wondering if your coming to Boston anytime soon?

  • hi matt :)!!! Thanks a lot!!! all the emails you send to me is great,it help me a lot.Every thoughts you have is excellent :) you touch all girls heart ;) i am lucky or my i say we lucky to have you MATTHEW HUSSEY :) you are HERO for the girl like me!!! thanks!!!! CONGRATULATIONS for your book,t.v shows and your you tube :);) God Bless You!!!!

  • Funny that this came up “The Next Minute Could Be the One That Changes Your Whole Love Life”. I came over to the site to double check the date for your Dallas tour date and location, so I could see about a hotel. So I could decide if I would be able to make it or not. I hope I can, I enjoy hearing your perspective (a mans perspective) on things.

  • Hello there! This post could nott bee written any better!
    Reading through this post reminds me of my good old room mate!
    He always keplt talking about this. I will forwarrd
    thuis article tto him. Pretty sure he will have a good read.
    Many thanks for sharing!

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