Last year I found myself on camera for a TV show – on one of the biggest stages I’d ever been on – in front of a live studio audience…
This clip is going to ‘inoculate’ you for life and have you ready should anyone ever try to embarrass you in front of others.
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What a GENIUS comeback, Matthew!
Please keep interactive video “lessons” coming because this one was way helpful. I’ll definitely share this and already look fwd. to future ones :D! Keep up the great work!
Awesome Annie – Matt was EPIC on this show. x
Yes, yes and yes!
I agree with the first two yes’s but that third one…that’s where we disagree.
OK I changed my mind. I wasn’t sure about this type of content from you, but this video has proved me wrong. It’s brilliant! I think it’s a great way to go, this information is extremely useful for everyone! I have been in similar situations before and I have never known how to properly react to them! This video was really really helpful! It’s amazing how you kept your cool when that girl asked how old you were. You really know what you’re doing and talking about. Great content! I would love to see more video like this one.
Take care,
Kaja
Glad Matt won you over on this one Kaja. I can’t wait to see Matt’s new blog videos now everyone is loving this stuff so much.
Steve x
Loving this stuff! It is so useful. Please definitely do more!
Will tell Matt, Sarah. :)
Steve x
Very useful and helpful!! I work in a female dominated profession so I have been dealing with cattiness, backstabbing, put-downs, etc. And I am not like that myself at all. I had a situation where a coworker made a snide remark and I didn’t really say anything to defend myself. First of all because I don’t feel the need to because I’m secure with myself and I have no respect for people who have a mean negative streak. But still, it ate at me that I let that go. Now I’ll be better able to handle this type of situation when it occurs again. Which it will for sure! Thank you!
I think there definitely *are* situations where confrontation isn’t worth it – but yea, part of assertiveness is being able to say what you want in the moment instead of running from conflict just because it’s uncomfortable. Hope this video helps you take control in these situations Gabrielle.
Thanks,
Steve x
Matthew, would it be possible for you to post (at least some) of the titles of the books, you learned most of this thing? :)
I watched a video you made not so long ago in which you mentionned a comment post by a woman saying some of your videos were irrevelant since they were not talking about love, romance, etc. Personaly, I think your major goal is to help us becoming better and being at our very best in life, so I don’t think you would post anything useless for the viewers of your blog.
The content of this video, even if it didn’t talk about love or how to get the guy, is MASSIVE USEFUL information. I could watch thousand of videos like this one. The message and advice given in this video was brillant. Thank you very much. I demand more and more and more.
Red
Totally agree Red! It seems crazy to me that people even make a separation between this material and “love” advice. In my view, anything that helps you be a better, more authentic, more socially savvy person will make you a better partner in your love life.
Thanks!
Steve x
Of course yes! It is so helpful if you can explain the theory behind your behavior.
So please do more if you think it’s ok for you!
This is one my favourite vids Matt has ever done. I want more too! x
Absolutely 100% want more of this kind of thing! What a brilliant video :D
The step by step break down was great and can I just say how classily you handled that confrontation, I am in awe!
You and me both Liz!
Steve x
I love this video. The way you handled your self was brilliant. I always have a problem when people get on my case, and I don’t have the confidence to know what to say in that moment. I would love to see more videos about this subject, and how you would handle them. Your other videos are wonderful keep up the good work. Thank you, Linda
Don’t go for saying the perfect line Linda – just go for keeping confident and assertive in the moment and you’ll be perceived as in control.
Will pass on your lovely words to Matt. He would respond himself but he’s on stage today!
Steve x
Hi Matt,
I found this video extremely useful and helpful. I hope you do more videos like this!! I actually was in a similar situation not too long ago–someone embarrassed me in public in front of a coffee barista friend of mine. Unfortunately in that moment I was more reactive and told her that she was embarrassing me and being mean. I didn’t stop and let her trip herself up as you say. But thank you so much!!! Vey helpful for the future!!
Christine
Go back and own ALL the coffee shops Christine! ;) I’m gonna have Matt’s clip in my head whenever I’m bracing myself for confrontation from now on.
x
Thank you such a valuable and wise lesson, Matt! Yes, please! Keep’em coming!! :)
Hi guys,
Great video, precisely in the last weeks I was thinking I have to improve my interpersonal skills in those lines.. I work in a male dominated environment and sometimes I feel I’m ignored or not treated respectfully or that I have to make more effort to prove I’m capable, etc. A couple of times I lose my nerve and became too emotional in situations in which I should have remained calmed (like talking to the boss). I wonder if you can dig into these issues in the future, ie, from a male perspective, how should women behave to be treated respectfully by men (specially at work), what kind of reactions is better to avoid, etc.
And thanks for all the effort and time put into these videos!
Am loving this type of content! Would love to see more break down videos like this. Really love having the example there to watch too, or, like in Stephen’s post, the audio to listen too. Is much easier to understand the points you are making when we have an example to go off of :)
Hi Matt,
I like the concept and the video was very useful hope to see more videos like that in the future.
Falonne
I’ll pass it on to the big man Falonne ;)
Thanks!
Steve x
I absolutely loved it. Original useful content. Thanks.
WOW!! I loved this video! Please do more video’s like this because this kind of content is surly what I need and what I’ve been looking for for sometime. I even made an appointment awhile ago to meet up with a psychiatrist to help with certain things similar to this. Ughh! If only you, Matthew, could be my personal therapist:) xoxo
Hi Matt,
This was very insightful. I hope you post more videos like this in the future because it allows the viewer to diagnose at which point he/she breaks down when trying to handle a conflict effectively and constructively. This is content that needs to be watched several times to be truly internalized and incorporated into everyday situations.
My biggest problem when handling a conflict of this type is that I freeze up, my mind goes completely blank, and I wind up not being able to respond at all, or ineffectively at best, to an attack like this. Can you please post more videos about how to prepare for these situations ahead of time?
Liz
Really good point Liz – it might be good to gather some auto-pilot ways to respond to any difficult/confrontational scenario so that you don’t have to think on your feet so much.
Thanks for commenting. :)
Steve x
Amazing Matt. You really handled that well. I know I couldn’t have done that with all my years experience of teaching (31). You have definitely done your work in studying human behaviour and I applaud you. There is much to learn from that video. I enjoyed it, learned from it and would love more of this kind of thing.
Please give us more.
Judy
I’m nudging him still Judy – don’t worry. The reception to this has been incredible so I don’t think he has a choice now lol
Steve x
Matthew and Stephen,
This advice is so amazing and helpful!! I’d love to see more tips and videos like this in the future. I recently had a conflict at work where one of my coworkers was being negative and very greedy and basically starting a fight I could of defiantly used these tips and now I know how I can react in a more confident and powerful way without the need to defend myself. Thank you!
ps: I just attended Matthews NYC show and I’m Sooo inspired and I learned a lot!
Mathew poured his heart out And gave us so much information. He went above and beyond And more! Thank you Matthew I absolutely ADORE you and appreciate all your hard work and videos! :)))
#shitgetsreal
Yea Matt is INCREDIBLE live on stage. Anyone who hasn’t seen him at one of his events is truly missing out on an amazing experience – Matt gives everything he has.
Appreciate the kind comments Danielle.
Steve x