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The High-Value Woman Position On Miley Cyrus

The whole Miley Cyrus phenomenon has been on a lot of people’s lips recently. I generally don’t use my platform to talk about celebrities, firstly because I don’t like to judge people whose lives I know nothing about, and secondly because I don’t much care what they are up to. 

I did however watch the VMAs along with a lot of other people, and found the whole performance somewhat uncomfortable. It’s hard to express exactly why without some serious reflection. 

I believe in empowering women and showing them what beautiful people they are. I believe respecting women to be of the utmost importance, secondary only to a woman’s own self-respect. 

So I was left a little conflicted with the Miley thing. A lot of people are judging her right now. She’s entitled to go through phases, just like any of us have. In a perfect world she’d be entitled to go through these phases without the judgement of millions of fans and non fans. Unfortunately (and fortunately for her income), she has millions of fans and non fans ready to judge her. 

The truth is, I do not care what the world thinks of what she’s doing. Nor do I much care about what the general population thinks about anything. We all have to be smart enough to look at a situation objectively without the rants of the mindless controlling every aspect of our thought. The temptation to parrot the demagogic ramblings of the gross tabloids and magazines is always there. 

But I’m reluctant to go down the righteous route of “she’s a role model so she should do better”. She’s not some elected politician who has a responsibility to their electorate. She’s a singer. She makes lot’s of money selling records, amongst other things. I will admit to finding the concept of lots of teenage girls emulating this ‘phase’ disturbing, but whether that really is her responsibility is another matter. God forbid we ever be in a position where every move we make is judged on how great an example it presents to millions of others; an impossible standard to live up to to say the least.

Although I don’t think ‘Miley news’ or any sort of celebrity news is ever really interesting or of any consequence, yesterday something did catch my attention: an open letter from Sinead O’Connor to Miley Cyrus.

Since I cannot talk from any personal experience of the music industry, nor of being a 20 year old woman, this letter contained a lot more credibility than I have on both counts. 
 
After allegedly claiming that her Wrecking Ball video was inspired by O’Connor’s Nothing Compares 2U, Sinead expressed her concern for Miley not only as an artist but as a woman. 
 
This letter sums up the ‘High Value’ way to look at this situation more authoritatively than I could. It’s long, but it’s worth the read I assure you.

After you’ve read it, let me know what you think. I’d love to hear your opinions on the matter (I would love it if the comments weren’t about Miley Cyrus, but about the situation itself. There’s enough judgement on her as an individual without us having to add to the pile. I think it’s much more positive to keep it constructive and look at it as something to take personal learnings from).

 

Dear Miley,

I wasn’t going to write this letter, but today i’ve been dodging phone calls from various newspapers who wished me to remark upon your having said in Rolling Stone your Wrecking Ball video was designed to be similar to the one for Nothing Compares … So this is what I need to say … And it is said in the spirit of motherliness and with love.

I am extremely concerned for you that those around you have led you to believe, or encouraged you in your own belief, that it is in any way ‘cool’ to be naked and licking sledgehammers in your videos. It is in fact the case that you will obscure your talent by allowing yourself to be pimped, whether its the music business or yourself doing the pimping.

Nothing but harm will come in the long run, from allowing yourself to be exploited, and it is absolutely NOT in ANY way an empowerment of yourself or any other young women, for you to send across the message that you are to be valued (even by you) more for your sexual appeal than your obvious talent.
I am happy to hear I am somewhat of a role model for you and I hope that because of that you will pay close attention to what I am telling you.

The music business doesn’t give a shit about you, or any of us. They will prostitute you for all you are worth, and cleverly make you think its what YOU wanted … and when you end up in rehab as a result of being prostituted, ‘they’ will be sunning themselves on their yachts in Antigua, which they bought by selling your body and you will find yourself very alone.

None of the men ogling you give a shit about you either, do not be fooled. Many’s the woman mistook lust for love. If they want you sexually that doesn’t mean they give a fuck about you. All the more true when you unwittingly give the impression you don’t give much of a fuck about yourself. And when you employ people who give the impression they don’t give much of a fuck about you either. No one who cares about you could support your being pimped … and that includes you yourself.

Yes, I’m suggesting you don’t care for yourself. That has to change. You ought be protected as a precious young lady by anyone in your employ and anyone around you, including you. This is a dangerous world. We don’t encourage our daughters to walk around naked in it because it makes them prey for animals and less than animals, a distressing majority of whom work in the music industry and it’s associated media.

You are worth more than your body or your sexual appeal. The world of showbiz doesn’t see things that way, they like things to be seen the other way, whether they are magazines who want you on their cover, or whatever … Don’t be under any illusions … ALL of them want you because they’re making money off your youth and your beauty … which they could not do except for the fact your youth makes you blind to the evils of show business. If you have an innocent heart you can’t recognise those who do not.

I repeat, you have enough talent that you don’t need to let the music business make a prostitute of you. You shouldn’t let them make a fool of you either. Don’t think for a moment that any of them give a flying fuck about you. They’re there for the money… we’re there for the music. It has always been that way and it will always be that way. The sooner a young lady gets to know that, the sooner she can be REALLY in control.

You also said in Rolling Stone that your look is based on mine. The look I chose, I chose on purpose at a time when my record company were encouraging me to do what you have done. I felt I would rather be judged on my talent and not my looks. I am happy that I made that choice, not least because I do not find myself on the proverbial rag heap now that I am almost 47 yrs of age … which unfortunately many female artists who have based their image around their sexuality, end up on when they reach middle age.

Real empowerment of yourself as a woman would be to in future refuse to exploit your body or your sexuality in order for men to make money from you. I needn’t even ask the question … I’ve been in the business long enough to know that men are making more money than you are from you getting naked. Its really not at all cool. And its sending dangerous signals to other young women. Please in future say no when you are asked to prostitute yourself. Your body is for you and your boyfriend. It isn’t for every spunk-spewing dirtbag on the net, or every greedy record company executive to buy his mistresses diamonds with.

As for the shedding of the Hannah Montana image … whoever is telling you getting naked is the way to do that does absolutely NOT respect your talent, or you as a young lady. Your records are good enough for you not to need any shedding of Hannah Montana. She’s waaaaaaay gone by now … Not because you got naked but because you make great records.

Whether we like it or not, us females in the industry are role models and as such we have to be extremely careful what messages we send to other women. The message you keep sending is that its somehow cool to be prostituted … its so not cool Miley … its dangerous. Women are to be valued for so much more than their sexuality. We aren’t merely objects of desire. I would be encouraging you to send healthier messages to your peers … that they and you are worth more than what is currently going on in your career. Kindly fire any motherfucker who hasn’t expressed alarm, because they don’t care about you.

As posted on www.sineadoconnor.com

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  • Thanks for posting this letter. Very heartfelt and something that I think-personally-needed to be said. I hope MIley will read this and keep it in mind.

  • Very well said! As a teacher, I see teenagers daily, and I am concerned about the fact that girls wear clothes to school that make them look like prostitutes. Teachers have no way of forbidding it, parents just don’t do it, can’t do it either or are clueless. However, I also see a lot of guys going for the girl with the fake bodyparts and sluttly clothes, they do not seem to care about much else. And I totally agree that they actually ‘don’t give a fuck’. But people stive for appreciation. It is biologically determined that we don’t want to be alone and we want to be appreciated. And since men only really respond to a certain kind of, for want of a better word even though it is a stretch here, ‘style’, women will do what Miley did to get appreciation. Our society is just that messed up. How we are not extinct is beyond me, but that is how it is.

  • i think the letter is the truth and is a great message for all young women, however by making this letter public not only did she put miley on the defensive, it also makes you wonder is she really trying to be helpful or just make her self relevant

  • Wow! Very well said, Sinead! If there’s anyone Miley could be prone to listen to, is her, since she’s expressed Sinead is a role model for her. That presentation was shocking for me too, and my opinion about it was not good at all, I must say. In short, I thought that she wanted to emulate Lady Gaga, and show what an amazingly creative and innovative person she is, still she ended up showing up as a low-valued, somehow pathetic character. Now, I don’t like judging either. Having an opinion is one thing, judging is another. So I gave myself permission to listen to what she had to say about her presentation and kind of reckless behavior. And well, I have to say that the girl apart from talented, is extremely intelligent. She demonstrates to be in control of herself (in my opinion) and is very clear about the fact that all she wanted was to call the attention of everyone, while she’s expressing how she feels inside at this very moment of her life. She knows what she’s exposing herself to, and she does it anyways, because she wants to express herself more than she wants the attention. I don’t think she’s being manipulated. She’s choosing to express herself the way she understands she needs to at the moment. Just a phase she’s going through? Most likely. And in a perfect world as you say, nobody would give it so much attention, and would just let her be, until she’s ready to move on to the next stage of her life. But since it’s not a perfect world, she’s making millions in the meantime :)))

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  • Wow! What a heartfelt gesture the letter was.
    The big question is, how did Miley respond? Did she take it in the spirit with which it was intended, or get pissed?

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  • Sinead O’Connor is relevant to this debate because Miley Cyrus involved her in it by citing her as the inspiration of her video. Ms. O’Connor has been in the music industry longer than Ms. Cyrus has been alive and she has a long and varied personal life, which is well documented and she has openly discussed. I believe this letter was written as an act of wisdom and love and I respect Sinead O’Connor for doing so. We should value and love ourselves, we are all sacred, important and irreplaceable. All of us.

  • I didn’t watch the VMA. I didn’t see her music video. So I legitimately cannot comment on Miley Cyrus. However, I’ve seen other music videos of other artists. It is crazy to me to say that Miley is “pimping” more than other female AND male artists. They’re all using they’re sexuality to some degree. Some do it in a more acceptable, classy way. But it’s still there. You still feel the manipulation. And it’s not limited to musicians. Everyday people do it. Perhaps the other artists didn’t make you feel uncomfortable, Stephen. But they were trying to manipulate you through sexual attraction too.

  • I just think it’s ironic to make up standards of decency when people refuse to accept an objective standard. My standard of purity/decency comes from the Bible – which is objective/authoritative/unchanging/black and white. There nothing in the US Constitution right now about purity. Miley isn’t at a school with uniforms. So I think it’s unfair almost arrogant of people to make up rules for her – as if they’re any better. For instance, how is Beyoncé, Madonna, even Taylor Swift better? (See my last comment.) Who came up with a standard? If people or society doesn’t believe is saving sex (sexual behavior) for marriage then… what does it really matter? And why are you judging someone who is taking advantage of the same liberties everyone else does – that of sex outside of marriage.

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