Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
I Loved this concept; or really made me smile and reflect. I’ll do two. ..
One microattraction I do is when we stop to get gas for the case and the guy hops or, I get and and stand and chat with him.
One micrattraction I loved was when I was at work and my boyfriend called to tell me he had played with my cat and have him some time outside and brought him safely back in for a while before he headed off for his day.
Hi Matt.. here goes.
He showed up on my doorstep for a post-Valentines date holding a huge bouquet of flowers and a card. So, no it wasn’t the card or flowers. It was his wide grin and the sheer adorable dorkiness of how he was dressed… three piece suit and tie.
He played his guitar in his own little world, so present in that moment… Letting me be part of that moment.
For our second date, I was on a hike with my boyfriend. He was years five older with a real job, my first ‘real man’, not just another young immature guy. I was nervous that I was too young, didn’t know how to be around him. As we were walking down the trail, I glanced back behind me. He had pulled his hands inside his jacket sleeves and was swinging the ends of his sleeves around like a little kid. When I saw him, his face told me he had just been busted being silly. That was the moment that I fell for him, knowing he could be silly just like me, and it was ok.
This is just perfection, how The Game should be played.
A guy came to pick me up for a first date. I had mentioned that I have two cats. He came with cat treats. LOL
OMG i’d fall for that one! :D
Yep. An executive gets out of a cab and the bellhop takes the briefcase out of his hand and gathers his luggage. The bellhop dropped the briefcase into a puddle. He said “No worries.” Took the briefcase up to his room and pulled critical items out to dry. Never angry; just accepting of the present moment.
First, I have to say you are such an inspiration and provide absolutely amazing insight and practical, usable advice for your audience. You can sense your genuine passion for dating, relationships and personal development in your videos. So, I wanted to say a HUGE thank you!!
One of my microattraction experiences: Several weeks ago I was out on a dinner date. The restaurant was freezing and he could tell I was cold. He went out to his car and grabbed his coat and helped me put it on while we finished our meal. Ever since that date, he always has this same coat with him and constantly makes sure I am warm and comfortable.
There are SO many “little things” he has done and said after that one date that support your concept of microattractions in the dating arena. These things definitely set him apart from the other guys I was talking to and have made me want to know more about the kind of man he is.
Thanks for doing what you do. You are a rockstar!!
When I felt unseen , a few days later I brought up, and shared amiable things I do do. Like showing up 5 minutes early,
(early is going to be my new standard)
When I said, “ no one even noticed I was 6 minutes early?”
He sweetly responded, “ I did” and smiled at me. It defused my hurt , and made a lasting impression.
By the way, so thrilled that you are finally using the term Game. Because that is what you teach. LOL God help the girls with no game. LOL
I was very stressed at work and had a patients funeral to attend the next day (I’m a Psychologist). I was up in the night and started crying-which I didn’t suppose was giving me any sexy new girlfriend points! My new boyfriend listened to me and offered to take me there, sit outside and wait for me and drive me back-which he did. The whole experience was made so much better and showed me that he was a genuinely kind, caring and supportive person which he has continued to be :)
Fairly fresh into a major relationship, I was having dinner at a Chinese restaurant with Mark. I surprised myself as well as him by blurting out – “I ‘asked’ for you.” I thought he had let it go in one ear and out the other and just figured I was a little buzzed from that Chinese beer. Months later in a birthday card, he wrote some sweet words, then P.S. “I asked for you too.” There were several other instances that made me say to myself- “I really like this guy,” but this one stands out like it was yesterday- it was probably 12 years ago… Ü
I had a first date with a man. We decided he would pick me up for dinner. When he walked into my house I was actually a little disappointed. We went to dinner. Had decent conversation. He was pretty stoic. Didn’t really show much emotion. After dinner, we got back to my house. Sat in the sofa and talked some more. When all of a sudden he layed his head in my lap, grabbed my waist and squeezed tightly.
THAT was the moment I fell for him. I ended up being madly, deeply, I can’t help myself, in love with him. Still am! We had a 4 year relationship. I’m very sad that it ended. But he has such issues with commitment he kept looking for reasons to end the relationship. He is a stubborn fool….and I say that with love. I am in love with this man and miss everything about him. The wonderful, the good and not so good.
I’m trying to move forward. Not so easy !
Brilliant video Matt! On my first meeting with a guy I’d met online, he told me he isn’t materialistic and that made my heart sing! That was my micro moment and we have very similar values.
I have two daughters and both of them are very unique people. When I asked my 19 year old daughter what she thought of him. She said “I like him Mom he’s nice, but I love how he saw me being me, and he had the biggest smile on his face”. Her face was glowing when she said it. I couldn’t have been more attracted to him at that moment and I didn’t even see it.
I felt attracted strongly when he expressed while watching a movie which had the actors attempt to save his girl silently by enduring some hardship … this particular act of compassion was expressed by him instantly like a child shouting out loudly that “he did this to save his girl”!
This made me to feel for the first time that this person has compassion and empathy still in him which he hides as I noticed.
He hides that he is a soft hearted person who could love his girl deeply.
He portrays himself to be cold n that he can control every beat of his heart if he wants to but doesn’t .
I had just started dating this girl and we have gone out a few times. One night she was out at a Brad Pasley concert with her sister and parents, and she sent me a simple text message, saying “ I’m thinking of you”. That action instantly made me smile, that she would be thinking of me during a fun time with her family.
It took several months for me to accept a date with him and when I finally said yes.. On our first date he had arrived early to the restaurant charmed the Hostess to make sure we could get the perfect romantic table and when I arrived he had pink roses (my fav) a small box of chocolates (also my fav) … but what really made me fall right then and there was that he had also brought a gift for my little dog… his attention to all of these little details meant the so much.. yep he had me right there.
The guy I was dating started reading a book I was reading for my business. I am a school counselor and my side business is teaching educators how to work with children with severe behavior and emotional issues. It is a huge passion of mine and the fact he took such an interest made me feel like he was more then just a cute guy. It took our summer romance to the next level. I definitely think you are on to something Matthew!!
I have been dating a guy for about a month, and the last time we went out to dinner, he ordered spinach on the side of his chicken. When our food was served, and we began eating, I noticed that he was taking the pieces of garlic off of the spinach he was eating. I thought maybe he just didn’t like garlic. Later on, when dropping me off, we had kissed good night, and I asked him if he didn’t like garlic, and I mentioned that I noticed he had taken it off his spinach. He told me that he did that so that he could kiss me later on in the evening. And I just thought that was the sweetest, most thoughtful thing anyone has ever done.
I went out with a friend to a concert. It was an all day thing, and at one point we were talking to this group of people we’d just met, and he glanced over to check on me, to make sure I was chatting and comfortable with these strangers. Our eyes locked and he made a face and then smiled and went back to his conversation and this guy I’d never imagined I’d want to date became someone I was extremely attracted to. Later in the same day I ran into some coworkers and the guy made an effort to know these other people from a different part of my life. He made conversation so naturally that I found myself just watching him with the biggest smile. I knew he could be a real partner. At the end of the night he kissed me in the perfect moment.