My Love Letter To You…

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The eve of the storm, I’m thinking of you… (Photo: Camerabee)

It goes without saying that everything happening right now is all a dream come true.

In the last couple of days I filmed for Inside Edition, Katie Couric, and The Today Show. All to talk about my new GetTheGuy book and ‘Ready For Love’ on NBC. This week, there is A LOT more to come.

And yet, while my dreams are coming true, it’s still hard.

People often forget that when trying to achieve their dreams. And that there will be ways in which life is still hard once they’ve achieved them. My life right now is hard. It’s hugely exciting and rewarding, but it’s still hard.

First, there is the pressure to perform. The next few days are going to be the biggest (and most nerve-racking) of my life. I’ll be appearing on somewhere in the region of 12 different TV shows, 10 different radio stations, and in more articles than I can keep track of. Performing is something I’ve done for years now, every weekend at my events. I can speak for 50 hours over 5 days straight (a long way from not being able to give a 5 minute speech in class at school!). It’s become second nature to me.

Except that all of this hasn’t been a ‘performance’ for me. It’s been me. It’s my love, my passion, my baby. My ideas, my thoughts, my stories, my personal experiences… everything is me. As I evolve and change, so does my material. As my story gets richer and more diverse, so do my ideas.

I believe that a great deal of my success has been due to my authenticity, my candidness, and the fact that I’m congruent with my material. So it’s something of a bind. The more authentic I get, the more successful I become, whilst simultaneously deepening the extent to which I let people into my world and my life.

Tomorrow, the number of people who will be exposed to me in that way will be beyond anything I have ever experienced.

And that’s a little scary.

Last week a delightful journalist by the name of Amanda Stern interviewed me at my hotel in New York. She gave me one of the most interesting interviews I’d ever had. She was honest. She was tough on me, and didn’t let me off the hook on anything, but I really liked her.

As the interview was nearing a close she said, “I’m a little worried about you”. She expressed her concern for everything that was about to happen to me. I mentioned to her that although I was scared, I was resigned to staying true to who I am, to what I believe, and not getting sucked into becoming something I’m not. I also said that my friends and family were there to keep me sane and be my rock through all of it. And they do, everyday (I remember when I went back to London to see them recently, I couldn’t so much as ask my mum for a cup of tea without my brothers saying, “Oh look at this guy, he’s gone all Beverly Hills already…pathetic”. I love them so much!).

As I was thinking about what constitutes my ‘rock’ in life, or rather WHO, I began to think of you – my readers, my viewers, my clients. Recently I released our book trailer video, “Kids Talk Dating Problems” – which I’m told might be the most viewed non-fiction book trailer of all time, though I’m not sure. When I released this, alongside the lovely comments from people who saw it as the light-hearted bit of fun it was supposed to be, we also had our share of very strong negative comments on Youtube. Now it’s not that I mind the negative comments. I really don’t. They are part of life and they certainly make things more interesting. If anything they spur me on to create more. But these negative comments do remind me of something…

That when I come back to my own blog I feel like I’m home.

Because I have you. You are my rock. You welcome the new things that I put out with open arms. You celebrate it. You share it. You support me. There is something that to me is extraordinary about this little world we have created together here. It goes beyond you just liking the content of the blog. You actually want the best for me as a person. And that is a rare thing.

It means more to me than you know to have somewhere I can come back to where people know me and love me, and the knowledge that even once the show and the book have come out, you will still be here fighting forward with me gives me so much joy. Let’s face it, there will be new people who arrive here, but I love more than anything that you will be crusading with me on the journey… my original crew : )

All this is to say that you are more than my clients and followers. You are my friends. And I love you.

We are a team, and we stick together. I will keep making videos and articles to support you. I will keep writing posts and staying honest not just about my triumphs, but my flaws, my insecurities, and my doubts. There is nothing we cannot achieve as a team.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being there for me.

Always here for you.

Matthew xxx

P.S. I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming tomorrow. There’s an email that’s coming for you at 7am. Stay tuned.


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181 Replies to “My Love Letter To You…”

  • Dear Matt,

    Let the LOVE in and have a blast!

    Here it comes another wave too catch.

    Best wishes,


  • Matthew,
    I think you are truly authentic, which means you will remain so through all the hoopla and wackiness that will follow.

    If things get overwhelming, I take a minute or 20 and sit alone and blank my mind. Sitting in warm water (hot tub or tub of hot water) is great and just let it wash the overwhelm away.

    I always wondered how people like Oprah can possibly take in and integrate the level of love energy that comes their way every day. How they repel the negative “hater” energy that must come their way as well. I hope you will tell us in this blog what it feels like to experience all that, if there are words. There may not be words to describe it.

    Being a public figure is a hard road, but your message is so spot on, clear, needed and real.

    Take time away. In a quiet location. Without entourage, family, friends. Just be somewhere alone, quiet and peaceful where your privacy is truly respected. Don’t be afraid to be alone. I think many public personalities end up afraid to be alone.

    Be honest with yourself. If it gets to be too much, too much of the time. Bow out and let your message continue on without you.

    I survived treatment for Stage 3 cancer this past year, and it has taught me so many huge and tiny lessons. You are young. Yet wise. So many lessons will come to you as you grow through this process. Stay open, real, and strong.

    We need more men out in the world like you.


  • Thank you Matthew, it’s impressive when someone reaches the top and remembers just how they got there. And I get to meet you in just 12 days, I can’t wait! I’m so excited!!!!!!

  • You are fantastic in so many ways, and have absolutely nothing to worry about! Take a deep breath tomorrow and truly enjoy what you have worked so hard for!

  • Dear Matt,

    Firstly, I wanted to thank you for writing this blogpost. It was really nice to see you to take the time and write this eloquent post.
    Secondly, I also wanted to thank you for being you and having this dream! Without discovering your videos on youtube, I wouldn’t have known about this blog, and this blog has honestly helped me.
    The videos you make and the articles you have written have helped me in ways I never knew possible. I’ve realized the mistakes I made when dating and have even learned to be more confident and be happy with who I am, and I couldn’t have done it without you!
    I do wish I could go to your get the guy tours, but I live in Ottawa, Canada so it’s hard to commute to any of the places that you hold the presentations, but I am truly glad this blog exists and that you’ll continue to post things on it.

    So again, thank you and I wish you the best of luck!

  • Dear Matthew!
    Even though it’s been only a few months since I read and follow your blog, I must say that I’ve grown really fond of you. You are an amazing person, who makes us feel better everytime we feel down and also gives us great advice without wanting anything in return. But you still do get something back and it’s our support for you and hope you achieve your dreams (which you kind of did now).
    I look forward to seeing how everything works out for you and for everyone else on this blog. Good luck to you all in your journeys! Thank you Matthew for being such an amazing human being. And remember everyone here loves you.

  • Hey! You deserve this! You have helped so many women and you will help so many more! I have read and tried to follow so many people that claim to know “what’s wrong with women” these days. Not you! You are empowering and you speak to us like the intelligent human beings that we are. As a result of taking your course, I have met the love of my life! It’s all so simple, yet powerful.

    Ladies, please listen to this guy. He’s awesome.

  • *Gives you the Beverly Hills treatment by placing a cup of tea beside you; gentle shoulder squeeze; benevolent wink* Glad to know that the amount of love you give, Matt, is also the amount of love you palpably feel and receive. Deep breaths, enjoy the rollercoaster when you’re able to, and group hugs and safe habour here always, hun :) xx

  • Hi Matt,
    Best of luck with everything!. Everything you say, write and do is a huge inspiration for many people and for that thank you.
    You are a very special man to share all the insights, advice and ‘cut the crap’ advice that you do.
    We love you too, enjoy this time, you deserve it.

  • Your congruence and integrity is one of the many things that make you shine Matt. You will grow, develop, evolve, change and still retain the core of who you are. Tomorrow and this week will be part of that journey! Thrilled for you inspirational man! Enjoy the adventures, live through the fear and blaze!

    Looking forward to continuing to participate in your journey as you do in mine!

  • Dear Matt,

    Thanks for your letter today!
    Thanks for for sharing your very personal experience with us. :D

    I’m really happy you’ve got such a great family who will help you stay grounded.

    I love that Steve Jobs quote: “Stay hungry. Stay foolish”.
    Always keep on being your humble, authentic and kind you!!

    Courage with the upcoming events.


  • like so many others I just wish you the best and I feel like I am experiencing the excitement with you! I just felt like crying as I read this blog. Do stay true to yourself as that will always be a saving grace. who you are at your core will always ring true and it will sift the wheat from the chaff! Enjoy this time! I myself can’t wait for tomorrow night and have it scheduled to watch with a bunch of guy friends who think I am a romantic sap! :) I am!

  • From a fellow author…

    Matthew, your new book is going to become wildly successful.

    How do I know this…

    Because you write from your heart and you provide valuable wisdom that uplifts and empowers those you help.

    Plus, you’re launching tomorrow on my Birthday…so it’s going to be a fabulous day for you! LOL.

    Sky’s the limit!

    Mary Mac

  • Dear Matt,

    This was a very touching letter. I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you how fantastic and inspiring you are. Thank you for being so honest, I think we all can relate to the feelings you are experiencing right now. It’s admirable how you’re describing the importance of staying true to yourself, I completely agree with that, that’s the only way to genuinely be happy in life. If your personality and candidness has taken you this far, then why wouldn’t it be able to take just as far all over again? Stay true to yourself :)

    Massive good luck on all your happenings this week! You are amazing, and thank you for being an inspiration to me! <3


  • We love you Matthew and always will!
    Thanks for everything you’ve done for us!
    We stay tuned for more ;)

  • Matthew, I love your vulnerability. To me you seem like the most confident person on earth, so when you say you get scared too sometimes, and that things are not always easy when you’re fulfilling your dreams, it makes it ok for me to be scared too.

  • Hey Matt!

    It’s all going to work out no doubt! I remember that the big fancy bling bling media world got the better of me one day, but I was a mere child back then… I think you’re grounded enough to stay on top of things and not end up in lala land.

    <3 <3 <3


  • Dear Matthew,

    Thank you,
    Thank you for everything you have done.
    I have lived in England for almost a year and when I got back, my life and the person I used to be was so different and I didn’t know how to deal with that.
    Have had some very tough times, but then I found your e-book about confidence and all and it helped me to get back on my feet.
    When I saw your get-the-guy program, I signed up immediately and it has been a great blessing.
    At the moment I am crazy in love with a guy and it seems like he likes me too, your advice helped me to find a nice and decent guy and I thank you from the bottom of my life!
    I am a christian and I really believe that God knows exactly what He is doing and I think I was meant to find your articles and stuff, it was his way of helping me.
    And I know, that as long as you stay true to yourself you can succeed and make all your dreams come true.
    I am honoured to be called your friend and I wish you all the best, with your book and programs and that you will help other people like you helped me!

    Big hug


  • Hi Matt,

    I’m practicing what I’ve learnt from The Man Myth but realized I’m not a very good student so far. Last week I went on a vacation with a perfect guy I just met once 3 months ago. We had an amazing time together and he was everything I could ask for. But turned out at the end we are not right for each other as we’re lack of chemistry. It was hard to let go such a great guy but I know it’s the right way to do. I’ll go back to your materials with this experience hoping to learn more from it.

    It’s great that you are always here for us, those who need you, love you and support you through. I’m so happy that you made your dream come true. I agree that your life right now is hard and it’s even getting harder soon, that may sound scary. But if you think of it as just a career and keep your feet on the ground, you will be totally fine. Celebrities are still human being. I believe you can always be you and can always talk 50 hours a week till years and years later! :) ..

    And I also believe that this blog is always your home as we are always here for you!

    Love, xx


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