My Love Letter To You…

 (Photo: Camerabee)
The eve of the storm, I’m thinking of you… (Photo: Camerabee)

It goes without saying that everything happening right now is all a dream come true.

In the last couple of days I filmed for Inside Edition, Katie Couric, and The Today Show. All to talk about my new GetTheGuy book and ‘Ready For Love’ on NBC. This week, there is A LOT more to come.

And yet, while my dreams are coming true, it’s still hard.

People often forget that when trying to achieve their dreams. And that there will be ways in which life is still hard once they’ve achieved them. My life right now is hard. It’s hugely exciting and rewarding, but it’s still hard.

First, there is the pressure to perform. The next few days are going to be the biggest (and most nerve-racking) of my life. I’ll be appearing on somewhere in the region of 12 different TV shows, 10 different radio stations, and in more articles than I can keep track of. Performing is something I’ve done for years now, every weekend at my events. I can speak for 50 hours over 5 days straight (a long way from not being able to give a 5 minute speech in class at school!). It’s become second nature to me.

Except that all of this hasn’t been a ‘performance’ for me. It’s been me. It’s my love, my passion, my baby. My ideas, my thoughts, my stories, my personal experiences… everything is me. As I evolve and change, so does my material. As my story gets richer and more diverse, so do my ideas.

I believe that a great deal of my success has been due to my authenticity, my candidness, and the fact that I’m congruent with my material. So it’s something of a bind. The more authentic I get, the more successful I become, whilst simultaneously deepening the extent to which I let people into my world and my life.

Tomorrow, the number of people who will be exposed to me in that way will be beyond anything I have ever experienced.

And that’s a little scary.

Last week a delightful journalist by the name of Amanda Stern interviewed me at my hotel in New York. She gave me one of the most interesting interviews I’d ever had. She was honest. She was tough on me, and didn’t let me off the hook on anything, but I really liked her.

As the interview was nearing a close she said, “I’m a little worried about you”. She expressed her concern for everything that was about to happen to me. I mentioned to her that although I was scared, I was resigned to staying true to who I am, to what I believe, and not getting sucked into becoming something I’m not. I also said that my friends and family were there to keep me sane and be my rock through all of it. And they do, everyday (I remember when I went back to London to see them recently, I couldn’t so much as ask my mum for a cup of tea without my brothers saying, “Oh look at this guy, he’s gone all Beverly Hills already…pathetic”. I love them so much!).

As I was thinking about what constitutes my ‘rock’ in life, or rather WHO, I began to think of you – my readers, my viewers, my clients. Recently I released our book trailer video, “Kids Talk Dating Problems” – which I’m told might be the most viewed non-fiction book trailer of all time, though I’m not sure. When I released this, alongside the lovely comments from people who saw it as the light-hearted bit of fun it was supposed to be, we also had our share of very strong negative comments on Youtube. Now it’s not that I mind the negative comments. I really don’t. They are part of life and they certainly make things more interesting. If anything they spur me on to create more. But these negative comments do remind me of something…

That when I come back to my own blog I feel like I’m home.

Because I have you. You are my rock. You welcome the new things that I put out with open arms. You celebrate it. You share it. You support me. There is something that to me is extraordinary about this little world we have created together here. It goes beyond you just liking the content of the blog. You actually want the best for me as a person. And that is a rare thing.

It means more to me than you know to have somewhere I can come back to where people know me and love me, and the knowledge that even once the show and the book have come out, you will still be here fighting forward with me gives me so much joy. Let’s face it, there will be new people who arrive here, but I love more than anything that you will be crusading with me on the journey… my original crew : )

All this is to say that you are more than my clients and followers. You are my friends. And I love you.

We are a team, and we stick together. I will keep making videos and articles to support you. I will keep writing posts and staying honest not just about my triumphs, but my flaws, my insecurities, and my doubts. There is nothing we cannot achieve as a team.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for always being there for me.

Always here for you.

Matthew xxx

P.S. I can’t wait for you to see what’s coming tomorrow. There’s an email that’s coming for you at 7am. Stay tuned.


Free Guide

Copy & Paste These
"9 Texts No Man Can Resist"

181 Replies to “My Love Letter To You…”

  • Hi Matthew,

    I just finished reading your article! Those are deep & honest words you’ve expressed and thanks for sharing that with us :)

    I’ve learned so much from your program get the guy and that literalley made a positive change in my life. I didn’ t really thank you for that. So once again a BIG THANKS for all your knowlegde you share through your programs, blogs & videos. Keep up the good work & looking forward hearing , seeing and reading more about it and of you.

    And a big congrats on the release of your book & succes. And hopefully many more to come! :)

    Keep up the good work.



  • Hey matt! how are you honey? guess what, just bought the book today! I’m so excited! i won’t get it till next monday but i have it! so I’m really happy, i hesitated a long time to commit in some way with you, and i don’t even know why, got the book now and really, please come to mexico!!!

  • Hi Matt!

    It’ been a long time I hesitated to leave a comment on your blog…and now your “love letter” and your words pushed me to share with you my feelings as well…

    I always watch all your videos, and all your advices are so usefull and important to me, and of course to all the girls who follow you….!

    It’s been so long that I’m not in love, and all my friends can’t believe that I’m still single…and for a while it wasn’t an issue for me, because I felt I didn’t need to be in a relationship again to be happy and fullfilled.

    My last love affair was a long five years’relationship, and it wasn’t easy to find a new life balance after its end.
    I think that you need to know to live alone and to find your own balance before a new relationship.
    This is the reason why I put my lovelife on ice…

    But now I’m ready to find somebody to love and I really don’t know how to do….I feel like I can’t be attractive anymore….and your advices, Matt, help me to feel confident again.

    So I thank you so much for your blog and your videos and your book of course!

    I’ve ordered it and I can’t wait to get your book and start reading it!

    I sincerely wish you all the best!


    Esther from Italy (Please excuse my poor english! ;-) )

  • Hi Matt! I read your book and have recommended it strongly to all my girlfriends. You really understand the female perspective and come from a supportive place that I so appreciate. Your advice has seriously changed my life for so much better! Can’t thank you enough. I also wanted to tell you that your authenticity, gratitude and love for people come across in every interview and post you do. Keep your energy up because we need you!

  • Hey There. I found your blog using msn. This is a very well written article.
    I will make sure to bookmark it and come back to read more of your useful information.
    Thanks for the post. I’ll definitely comeback.

  • Hey Matt,

    Thank you for your Beautiful Love Letter! Once again you have touched my heart with yours! You are amazing how you trust us with your feelings as we trust you with ours! Even though I haven’t had the pleasure of meeting in person I feel like I have thru your videos and blog and your book . I hope that as your schedule gets tighter that you will take time to take care of yourself because we love you so much and we need a person like you that is so committed, loving, passionate,caring, kind, creative, very funny and also very good looking!

    Always know that I will have your back and support you in all you do because I also believe in Teamwork. I hope you realize how much you mean to me. Your advice always comes from a place of love and I can tell. Thanks for being such a great team leader.

    When you are strong enough to show your own insecurities it makes me feel that I can trust you with mine. You do it in such a funny way, I love it and want to see more! Please take care of yourself. Thank you for letting me see and feel your heart it’s beautiful!

    Lotsa Love to ya,

    Debbie xo

  • Hi Matthew ,
    My name is Hafsa and I just want to say thank you. I am so touch by this beautiful letter it’s crazy how you make me smile. Everytime I see your video You make me feel happy. I want to congratulate you because you deserve everything, that’s happing to you. So pround of you and I want to keep doing what makes you happy.And keep being the amazing person you are. I don’t know you personally but I can say that you seem to be a great person. Congrats again Xoxox.

1 7 8 9

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

All-Time POPULAR Posts