Top 6 Traits to Look For in a High-Value Man

Women often ask me, “Matt, you give all this great advice for women to be high-value, but how do I tell if HE’S an incredible man worthy of a relationship with ME?”

Ok, I’ll bite.

80% of a happy relationship is choosing the right person in the first place, so this issue couldn’t be more important for women who want to find lasting love.

In this week’s video, I join forces with my brother Stephen Hussey (co-author of Get The Guy) to talk about the 6 SURE SIGNS you’re dating a high value guy, so that you can spot when he’s truly someone worth investing in.

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240 Replies to “Top 6 Traits to Look For in a High-Value Man”

  • My man does all of these things! Wow. I would add that a high value man inspires you to grow personally. Doesn’t push or demand, but genuinely is your biggest cheerleader on team YOU.

  • Great video! A high value man should encourage his woman in her dreams and pursuits. He should also be “present” when she is speaking with him.



    are WOW traits for MY ideal man…!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    xoxox Matt is so cute!

    1. There aren’t enough Keith Urbans out there Silvana…and that’s the great thing about this life, is that it forces us to look beyond our ideals of what that perfect man for us is…and the hottie is sometimes a complete distraction.

      1. And by “hottie” I’m referring to any guy who’s physically so beautiful we forget or ignore the important qualities that make up a beautiful character in a man.

  • Great video! I love your brother’s energy and the comedic dynamic between the two of you. He’s cute too.
    But also good points, both of you, and thank you. I would add a high value man supports and protects a woman’s dreams and goals for herself instead of trying to mold her to the perfect mother/maid/cook for himself.

  • A high value man, for me, has a passion (at least one). We don’t necessarily share it, but I will appreciate it. It could be anything from flying planes to growing things to a certain volunteer organization… But something that FUELS him. I never want to be my man’s only passion.

  • I love how you and your brother play off each other. Some women may not get your joking around with him but part of that may be the English sense of humor. I lived in Newqay for 2 yrs stationed at RAF St Mawgan and it does take a bit for Americans to get it but you guys are great together. (Even thought I didn’t care for the low cut shirt Steven was wearing. Neckline was too low IMO). Cheers

  • The one thing I tend to look for is how he treats and talks about his Momma, his ex and other women in his life, as it is a reflection of how he will treat you. This is a pattern that was set deep inside him from an early age and not likely to change…

    1. Good thinking. To be wary of guys who describe all or most of their exes as “crazy”. It’s okay to have one crazy in your past, but if every woman you’ve had a relationship with “was crazy”, there’s a problem. Especially if he says, “If you talk to her, never believe anything she says.” I dated one guy like this. It was just one way he had of making sure he kept his past a secret, and denying his issues.

      1. Also red-flag anyone who says, “All women are crazy,” or “All (or most) women are bitches, but you’re different.” Eventually, he’ll decide you are just one of the bitches too, like he always suspected.

  • My high value man is able to take care of me. He can do something that shows me he cares. Mine actually is in construction and can fix anything. He makes me feel like no matter what he can take care whatever comes up and I know thongs are going to be ok

  • Love the video about a high value man. Personally, I would ad to him making his partner feel secure in the relationship: by respecting her private sphere, and keeping her secrets safe, when she tells him about one or more of them. In my opinion, any form of healthy and functioning partnership, needs to be based on a growing element of trust, and respect.

  • A high-value man supports my passions. I’ll give you an example from my life: I want to have a foundation one day. My high-value man would help me bring that desire into fruition. He may have high-quality friends/colleagues that could help enormously. That’s what I’m talking about!!!

  • a high value man is someone who’s willing to work hard in and out of a relationship setting, becuase it shows me that first he’s willing to put in the effort for those he loves and second that he helps to take control of the things that He can control. and third he is willing to pull he’s what and I’m pulling my own weight in the relationship becuase I highly believe that relationships are a team effort. We both pull are own weight and no is of higher value then the other.

  • Empathy. A high value man can relate, or seeks to understand how you and others feel. Of course, if there is too much or too little of this virtue, it becomes a vice, but when in balance makes all the difference in your entire relationship.

  • I love a man – or any person for that matter – who can:
    1) admit when he is wrong.
    2) apologize properly.

    Might seem silly but notice how these are things that are difficult for anyone to do – myself included, it’s sometimes challenging to admit when I’m wrong but I do it. And a genuine apology where there aren’t excuses or underhanded blame shifting, I.e. “I’m sorry but you did do xyz & made me … Blah blah”

    Hope that helps!!

  • A high value trait in a man for me is a guy who cats and kids are drawn to, a guy who has that calm confidence that makes you want to be near them.

  • Hey.. not sure if I’m commenting in the correct place but I just wanted to add a comment relating to ‘6 signs he’s a high value man’s..
    I think it’s important for a man to be able to reflect on things he may say in the heat of a moment.. things that are exaggerated, untrue or hurtful. If he finds, on reflection, that he was being harsh, he should be able to own his part and said that he was unfair etc.. this is really a high value quality in humans.. gender really shouldn’t play a role.. and thanks for the tops

  • Hello,
    Communication, respect, & trust…. Is what I want in my future man, ofcouse there has to be some chemistry.
    I know I’m asking for too much, but I believe his out there, hope he comes to be ASAP.

    Have a good day.

  • A high value man always acts like a man, not a boy. There is a difference between playful behavior and childish behavior and a high value man always gets this difference. No sulking when things go wrong, always taking adult responsibility for his actions.

    A high value man is not manipulative or controlling, doesn’t try to make his partner do things they don’t want.

    Of course, the above 2 traits apply equally to high value women:)

    Thanks for the vid, gentlemen, you are both super sexy BTW.

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