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Matthew, I get so much out of your videos and hope that when you have a seminar near me that I am able financially to go! You really are making the world a better place by helping people in their relationships. Much love and appreciation,
Suzanne
Love how you explain things through your videos, shows your vulnerability :) and encourages me to continue in the same as well!
Hello Matthew thank you so much for your videos they really are an inspiration, I get a lot from them x
I think that loneliness indefinitely defines who we become with society. For example: If we feel alone with our spouse, even if we are around them twenty four seven, that lack of connection brings pain and social separation to our emotional health. I agree that you have to be alone with your own thoughts on occasion in order to figure out who you are as a person and what you truly want out of any relationship. Loneliness is extremely internal, and the older I become the more I realize the importance of not only social interactions, but social connections. It is hard to know yourself, your worth, and your standards when you surround yourself with people you have very little emotional or intellectual connection with. That being said, be it your best friend or your spouse.. Communication, interests and moral understandings all have crucial Impacts on who you become based on your interpersonal needs. Loneliness tends to diminish when we find people we love and connect with under the surface, not just on the surface. At least that’s what I’ve continued to learn :) Thank you so much for your intellect, Matt. You are always such a help!
Hello Matthew. I wrote this in the comment section of one of your more recent videos. (Don’t ask me to remember which one) but it never hurts to repeat.:-) I just wanted to say thank you. I started watching your youtube videos a few months back, and they have completely transformed my outlook on relationships. Because of your advice I have become someone who seems more available and more reasonable, and much less awkward. A little more than a week ago I started talking to the guy who came to unlock my door after I’d left my keys in my apartment. I’d talked to him once before, and at the end he asked if I liked tacos. He said he knew the best taco place in town, and he’d like to take me sometime. And I said that would be great.:-) Now, 3 dates in.. We text good morning to each other every day and never run out of things that we want to do or show the other person. I know it’s early days, but it is so nice to date someone who doesn’t need to be told to be nice and understanding. They just are. Don’t get me wrong, I still have plenty of insecurities, but I’ve gotten serious with him a couple of times and he has not backed away. Yet. How insane is that? So thank you Matthew, I am in heaven. Without you I probably would’ve been moping too much to appear attractive to this guy on the day he unlocked my door for me. Thank you for all your wonderful advice, I recommend you to all the friends I know who are having difficulties. I was once lonely, and now I’m not anymore. And I have you to thank for that.
Matthew, i genuinely believe you are changing this world for the better. I am a cult victim and your videos is one of the reasons i woke up from my indoctrination. I was like: OMG! This guy has more wisdom than the people (the leaders) who claim that they are the only chanel of communication between God and humankind! Normally they have bullshit advice when it comes to dating and marriage that NEVER work. Also, you are much kinder and more concerned about people than any religious person i know.
I’m a single Mum of 5, life is busy but lonely, always hearing other people’s news with none to share of my own, here for everyone but no one is here for me it seems, guess that’s independence. I will have to start asking others for help not the other way around… Great video… Thought provoking!
Feeling connected to someone around you or the people you’re with is a much happier experience than being in a room of people that have no interest in you or have nothing in common with you. In other words, being with people who don’t really care about you make it feel very lonely.
But even though I do agree that connectedness is certainly a joyful experience and essential for not feeling lonely, you still need that other essential piece, someone who really cares about you and wants to be with you.
Going solo can only suffice for so long before the loneliness sets in and you crave a partner or soulmate.
Btw, your videos and advice have helped me feel better through many lonely times of hopelessness.
Thank you!
Hello Matt!!!First time commenting on your video…I have been a fan of yours a couple of years now and a huge junky of your Sunday videos!!! I love your advice!!! They have helped me rebuild my perspective and views about life in general.
I am 29 and at a turning point of my life. Although it wasn’t an easy choice I have decided to go back to the university and study for a whole new subject in order to practice the profession I have always wanted. To do so I had to move from my home town away from my friends and family and start over. The last couple of weeks in this new place i admit I felt quite lonely sometimes although I try not to show. Loneliness also makes me dought about my decision whether I am doing the right thing or if this is all a big mistake. Maybe I should have settled after all it wasn’t all that bad with my old job. I have lost so much time and I am 29 now starting over … Maybe it’s too late… Loneliness can be ruthless sometimes when you are left alone with yourself your fears doughts and insecurities….
I had to watch this top quality, heart-felt video with my hand blocking all but your face so that I could take it seriously. Flesh coloured trousers weren’t a good choice! Lol
Thank You Matt for being there!
You really have to know,You saves my life!
Thank You.
And all the best in Your life!!!
Roza x
I’ve dealt with previous narracistic trauma that almost broke my spirit to reach out to others with a smile like I would practice daily. It hasn’t been easy, but I learned besides healthy, balanced solitude…reaching out to connect to others is what will pull you over to begin relating. I work as an Esthetician at a hotel spa. I found all walks of life are coming to relax, but tend to sometimes share their life challenges. At the end of the day everyone tends to feel alienated and I do feel these tactics really make a difference. Keep the brilliant advice brewing Matthew!….It’s refreshing to know a man like yourself (& Jameson!) exist! Your vids have very comforting more than you could imagine. On the darkest days…thank you for bringing in the light!
Hi Matt,
great video, great subject, well explored from different angles with the usual sensitivity, wit and warm presence as usual.
Great outfit, very stilish, I loved it!!!
One more step towards our personal growth…Thank you.
Hello Matt! This is Tandis from Iran . You may be surprised that you have a big fan in Iran .I really love you and the vidoes that you share with us are very helpful .I introduced you to all my friends. We learned a lot from you .
Thank you for all your efforts .
Love.
This was a very thought provoking video for me. It has helped me realize we are all lonely at some point and that’s ok. The loneliest times for me are when I need someone to talk to and no one is around. I have also realized that sometimes being single is ok. Some of my lonliest times were when I had someone in my life and I was lonelier with them it then being by myself. That was a ahha moment!
This is beautiful. Thank you for speaking real wisdom and not fluff.
I have gone through many seasons of loneliness. The most recent one a health battle where I was forced to be alone in a dark room without people around me for months. Through this process I’ve actually gotten to know myself better. I agree that loneliness comes from a sense of worthlessness. I am so much more outgoing and social now compared to when I was young and depressed. The older me has learned that I have value.
I have been single for the past 2 years, but I know I can choose to invest in close friendships during this single period.
Matthew making phenomenal videos as usual and this does get to me on a personal scale.Not that I am lonely all the time, but once in a while I do feel empty here and there.Would give some arguments here for what he said but I can’t really think of much since most of his points are valid and overrule my thoughts which are negative sometimes.
I was online reading about the news and had seen your post on loneliness and 5 ways to turn off in a relationship. Both were spot on. Thank you for moving into these areas that are normally off limits. I like the fact that you can be who you are in spite of others. I have had many times that my outgoing, sunny personality has been rejected by others. With are you trying to come on to me. Well a date does start with a conversation. Lol. I make small talk and get odd responses from people. I try to make new friends and they are not interested in me. It is not easy to make connections with people.
I can tell you it is wonderful what you are doing. Thank you for doing what you do. Don’t change.
What you said is so true! I will never forget when I was crying as I waited for a bus rushing to get to my doctors office.
I was crying because I was afraid after my doctor said I need to hurry in because something very serious may be wrong. A total stranger who saw me being alone and vulnerable brought me flowers from a street vendor saying they hope all goes well and they help me feel better! That was many years ago but it touched me deeply.
Really an amazing video! Its true that sometimes we dont see the postive side of lonliness…my version of lonliness is when i feel that my partner wants me when he is free or bored but dosnt bother me when i am in trouble dosent react to my emotions and moods but i relaise after seeing this video the more i face my problems alone when more i get strong…maybe