Why do guys overlook some women and give all the attention to others?
If you’re like most women, you’ll be tempted to think that it all comes down to physical beauty.
I’m not going to lie, men are very visual and are quick to spot when an attractive woman walks in the room.
But the fact that a woman has a perfect smile, a killer body, or lustrous mermaid-like wavy hair, does not guarantee a man is going to do any of the following –
- Approach her
- Ask for her phone number
- Want to go on a date with her
Physical beauty alone essentially does one thing. It gets a guy to say to himself in his head, “I would sleep with her”.
That’s just what men are like. We are hard-wired to have sexual thoughts about a LOT of women.
Hell, a man could muster up sexual thoughts about a female cartoon rabbit if she walked seductively enough and wiggled her hips across his TV screen.
But getting a man to notice you, by which I mean, what causes him to see you as someone he spots across the room and want to approach at a party, in a park, in a clothing store, or in a supermarket, requires a little extra thought.
So here I want to share the THREE most powerful but simple to use techniques that will get you on his radar and make him notice you more than any other woman in the venue.
Here we go:
3 Simple Ways To Get His Attention – Try These Today!
1. Throw him “Permission Signals” through your body language
Always remember that men are looking for ANY excuse to start a conversation with a woman.
And the women they notice are the ones who show him with their body language that they are warm, open, fun, and willing to enjoy life.
If you throw him some eye contact, then look away, then look at him again, a guy is already THREE times as likely to walk up and say hi. If you add a smile as well it’s proven to be even more likely that he’ll notice you over anyone else.
Most women forget how terrifying it is for guys to put themselves on the line and approach a woman.
When a woman seems open and receptive to being spoken to, he’ll notice her above anyone else in the room.
2. Use the “10% Investment” Method
Men are quick to notice women who make even the tiniest investment towards an interaction in his general area.
If a woman sidles up next to him at a bar and orders a drink, suddenly he gets a chance to be in her presence, smell her perfume, notice her hair. Imagine if instead you just stood behind him in line while he ordered. Chances are he’ll turn around walk straight past you (even if he’s attracted).
10% investment is about just that tiny bit extra that puts you in a man’s proximity. You slightly enter his world for a second and he thinks, “WHO is that?” as he imagines getting to know you more.
Next time you’re on a train, say to a guy “Do you know what the last stop on this line is?”. Just one extra line like this makes a man feel emboldened to make a move and gets him to notice you. Then after that, if you want to know whether he’s interested, make sure you read this accompanying post on how to know if he likes you.
3. Pay attention to the detail
Noticing tiny details is what gets a guy to see you as unique.
Is there a weird piece of art in the room you can make a comment on? Does he have a tattoo or piece of jewellery you can ask him about?
Guys notice when they meet a woman who has more than run-of-the-mill conversational topics to talk about. The more you get him to relax and enjoy opening up about his opinions and ideas, the more he’s going to notice you in all the right ways.
If he’s wearing a piece of jewellery, say: “Wow, that necklace is awesome, where did you get it?”, then follow-up by saying “If you could have any piece of jewellery in the world as a gift, what would it be?”
These questions make you stand out above the barrage of bland, uninspiring conversations most people have. The quicker you mark yourself out as someone with interesting things to talk about, the sooner a guy notices you and wants to get to know you better (and once he does, make sure you know some simple first date tips to nail the next step).
So there we are, three really simple ways to get his attention and stand out from the crowd.
Try these out today and let me know how they work for you in the comments below – then make sure you check out my follow-up piece on how to get a guy to like you!