Men And Commitment

So you’re probably wondering what men like in a relationship…

Are we really that bad when it comes to relationships?… Any man reading this might hate me for agreeing with you, but yes, when it comes to relationships, we really are that bad.

But it’s not entirely our fault…

Whilst a lot of dating advice and popular opinion attributes this behaviour to male genetics; blaming the old extra Y-chromosome for all the broken hearts out there – this isn’t entirely the case.

Perhaps a bigger problem is giving men this identity. Our society basically leads men to grow up thinking that on a biological, genetic level, they are predisposed to want multiple sexual partners.

This conditioning is coupled with TV shows and Films telling guys how much potential their life has… so long as they’re single. And so men (particularly younger men) tend to keep themselves single believing that they can have the crazy parties and wild nights that they’ve seen on the screens.

The Male Blueprint

It’s this type of social conditioning that I like to refer to as ‘the male blueprint’, and it’s basically a rough psychological roadmap to the 21st century man’s love life.

Being brought up seeing fictional role models like James Bond on the big screen and Vinnie Chase on the TV set, who can blame guys for thinking they’d be better off single? Men are basically programmed from the time that they can speak, to think that they can have so much more fun, freedom and excitement if they keep their options open.

Men will tirelessly pursue this fantasy for years before realizing that they’ve wasted them.

And for most, it’s not until around the age of thirty where this realization really kicks in.

And even then there are countless guys who are still trying to live like James Bond.

And knowing what men like in a relationship isn’t always enough. You’ve really got to be strong in your approach to a relationship with a guy, as if you give him everything he wants too soon, you’ll end up being used and taken for granted.

Getting Him To Commit

So a mistake that a lot of women make, even knowing what men like in a relationship, is giving it all away too soon. If you’re giving a guy your full, undivided attention, and you’re rearranging your schedule to accommodate him, giving everything you have, there is no incentive for him to actually commit to you.

I remember that a few years ago in my life, I was at a point where getting into another relationship was the last thing on my mind. I thought there was nothing anyone could do to convince me otherwise, and I was planning on at least a few years of being single. But then I met someone. And the more things developed between us, the less I saw of her. But every time I did see her things got better. Every time I met her there was something new and exciting, and it got to the point where I just couldn’t stand seeing her so infrequently. I had to commit, and when I did, that’s when things got even better.

I’m not saying that you need to start playing “hard to get.” Rather you need to be a high-value woman. Show a guy that the more he commits, the better things get. And the less he commits, the less frequently he gets to see you (but when he does see you, it still has to be amazing).

What Men Like When In A Relationship…

When you’re actually in a relationship, it can be so easy to slip into a routine. This might be in terms of the places we go, the conversations we have or even our sex lives. And that’s why it’s so important to add variety to everything you do, and never get settled with doing the same thing.

There is nothing more attractive than a multi-dimensional woman; someone who can be funny one minute, then serious the next (and playful all the while in between.) Keep showing different sides to your personality, so that he could never guess what’s coming.

If you feel that things are starting to fall into a rut, ask yourself, ‘what did we do differently when we first started going out?’

This should give you some idea of where you’re getting a little lazy.

Even when you’re in a relationship, you should both be having as much fun seducing each other as you were when you first started going out. And most importantly, don’t forget to flirt! Tease each other, send him a naughty text, and just keep him on his toes.

So there you have it – what men like when it comes to a committed relationship.

When it comes to dating men, the more natural and congruent you are, the more you will ‘click’ with the guys that you’re seeing.

So now you know what men want in a relationship, it’s crucial to keep him on his toes…

This means using proven dating tips that work with almost all men and help to turn the attraction up a little, to the point where he can’t stop thinking about you and must get in touch. In my FREE newsletter I show you some of the most cutting edge techniques for meeting, attracting and keeping your ideal guy. So sign up today and get instant access, you can be reading the first newsletter within minutes from now.