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What Our Parents Forgot To Tell Us About Falling In Love


Watch this video first, the whole way through, then check out my article below for why I think hidden within it is one of the most important lessons we can learn for our love lives.

I can’t remember a single relationship I’ve ever had which didn’t hurt at some point. The hurt that comes from an argument where things are said that are hard to take back. The hurt that comes from feeling jealous, feeling like I somehow wasn’t enough. The hurt that comes from missing someone when they go away, even for a day or two. The hurt that comes from worrying you might lose someone. [Read more…] about What Our Parents Forgot To Tell Us About Falling In Love

What It Means When A Guy Spends More Time With His Friends Than You

Firstly, what is the right amount of time for couples to spend together? Clearly this is going to depend on the stage of your relationship, but different people want to spend different amounts of time together throughout these stages.

This is one of the fundamentals of compatibility.

Are there things you can do to change how much time you want a guy to spend with you? Of course; we’ll get to those in a second. But firstly I just want to talk to you about some of the reasons why a guy might be spending as much time with you as you’d like. And then we’ll get on to how to prevent this from happening and how to change it if it already has…

So why are some men so reluctant to spend time with their girl friends?

The real core reason can most certainly stem from what type of character he is. Extroverted guys can grow up with a dependency on their male friends, and in the midst of the male blueprint, they often give each other a hard time for ever even getting into relationships.

Conversely, more introverted guys can long for some along time to really recharge and delve into their own thoughts for a little while.

Not seeing you can leave him feeling empowered.

The third reason, irrelevant of men’s characters, is that some men have grown to associate not seeing their girlfriend regularly with feeling empowered. Think about it. Whenever anyone has kicked up a fuss about not seeing him enough, he’s feeling validated; he’s feeling validated for not seeing you and so he’ll start to do it more and more and more. When else does he get this much attention?

I know it’s almost a default response for anyone in this position to confront the person they’re with, but I urge you not to. If you’re reactive in this situation it’s only going to reinforce this further. You have to keep your cool and come at it from a different angle.

Don’t match him by being aloof.

There is dating advice out there that will tell you to be impossible to get a hold of, and to be the who plays hard to get in the relationship, but all this really does is make a guy fall in love with the chase. Doing this inevitably distances you further and further away, as if you ever really start to spend quality time together, he’s like a cat that’s been taunted with a piece of string; seduced by the chase, not you.

Instead you need to speak to him with language that will really resonate. You need to validate him for spending time with you. Saying “Isn’t it great when we spend time together?” just isn’t strong enough. You need every time he see’s you to get better. You need to value your own time and most importantly you need to leave him always wanting more. And that’s how you get him to change his associations.

When it comes to having amazing relationships and growing the connection with a guy, the more knowledge you have, the faster you’ll be with the man of your dreams.

When you’re dating someone, it’s crucial you know what to do to keep them hooked…

This means using proven dating tips that work with almost all men and help to keep the attraction, to the point where he’ll be dying to call you. In my FREE newsletter I show you some of the most cutting edge tips for meeting, attracting and keeping your ideal guy. So sign up today, get instant access and you’ll be reading the first newsletter within minutes.

How To Get Him To Commit – Changing His Mind For The Better

Trying to get a guy to commit can seem like an almost impossible task for many women. The more you push, the more he resists, and so you’re left dumbstruck as what to do.

I remember back to a time when I was casually seeing a girl, but I had just got out of a long-term relationship and had no intentions whatsoever or being in a relationship with her (or anyone else for that matter).

But I must have seen her about 7 or 8 times, and it got to the point, in mind at least, where questions were starting to arise as to what we were doing together and what the situation was between us.

Being a naive, but caring guy, I decided to be upfront about it

I was so adamant that a relationship wasn’t the right thing for me, I felt the need to express this to her, even though I really liked her (I wanted to be single, but I didn’t want to lead her on).

Dropping her off outside her apartment after another night together, I told her everything on my mind; that I wanted to keep seeing her, that I really liked her, but that I couldn’t fully commit to another relationship right now.

I had played this over in my mind a thousand times before actually telling her, and every time I did, I expected her to be angry, upset and vexed.

But it turns out that this was the perfect opportunity for her to demonstrate how high-value a woman she was. After I’d finished, she turned to me and said, “I wasn’t asking you to marry me!” – immediately making me feel like a complete idiot for having put so much thought into what was essentially just a few casual dates.

Get A Guy To Commit By Using Emotions To Topple Logic

I really didn’t know how to react to this, and driving home I couldn’t get her off my mind. She didn’t care if we were in a relationship or not. She was so relaxed and unfazed with her response that it only made me want her more!

This attitude of hers, coupled with her busy schedule, left me rarely seeing her – making it very clear to me that if I wanted to be with her, I had to actually make a commitment.

She was the only thing on my mind for days, and now the more I’m thinking about her, the more I want to be her.

It doesn’t matter how much I can logically tell myself at this point that I don’t want to be in a relationship – I want to be with her. And it’s very, very hard to fight emotions with logic.

And so about a week later, we’re in a relationship – One which lasted several years

Now you might be thinking that for this article I’ve just decided to reminisce about an ex. But I use this example, even though things didn’t work out between us, as there are so many things to pick up on for women who want to get a guy to commit…

  • Be patient with the early stages of a relationship
  • Never pressure a guy into making a decision by giving him an ultimatum
  • If a guy tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship – don’t react to it
  • Make a guy realize that if he wants the best from you, he has to make a commitment

If right now you’re finding it hard getting a guy to commit, follow these four rule, and I assure you that he’ll be yours before you know it.

When it comes to getting a guy to commit, the more natural and congruent you are, the more you will ‘click’ with the guys that you’re seeing.

So now you know the basics of getting him to commit, it’s crucial you know what to do once you’re in a relationship…

This means using proven dating tips that work with almost all men and help to sustain the attraction, to the point where you never loose that spark together. In my FREE newsletter I show you some of the most cutting edge techniques for meeting, attracting and keeping your ideal guy. So sign up today and get instant access, and you’ll be reading the first newsletter within minutes.