How To Get the Guy Podcast

Unfortunately, a lot of people are actually really bad at predicting what will make them happy long term. When it comes to dating, many people get stuck on a rigid “type” which is usually a checklist of traits they think their partner must have. But interestingly, research shows that while most people have a long list of qualities they want, they often end up perfectly happy with someone who only matches a few of them. So how do you figure out what will actually make you happy in a relationship? And how do you evaluate that when dating apps mostly let

Many people believe that finding the right partner will finally make them feel complete. But what if the real work begins before the relationship even starts? In this conversation, Matthew sits down with Humble the Poet and shares the lessons that changed the way they understand love, attraction, and self-worth. They dive deep into: why we often chase the wrong people, how childhood patterns influence who we’re attracted to, and why the ability to receive love may be just as important as the ability to give it. Whether you're single, dating, or trying to build healthier connections, this conversation will

Early dating can feel magical, but it’s not always a reliable preview of what a relationship will actually be like. Sometimes, emotional availability in the early stages looks like hesitation or caution. And sometimes emotional unavailability looks like fireworks, intense chemistry, amazing dates, and big talk about the future. Which means it’s surprisingly hard to tell early on: Is this genuine interest… or love bombing? That’s also why advice like “The right person will never put themselves in a position to lose you” can be misleading in early dating. So what green flags can you actually trust in those early

It’s easy to get swept up by chemistry and start investing in someone before they’ve actually shown they’re committed. When that happens, we don’t just lose perspective… we start obsessing. In this episode, Matthew breaks down why we spiral in the first few weeks with someone new, and what it really takes to slow down without “playing games.”  Matthew shares 3 practical shifts that help you get your power back when it feels like options are limited and this person is a rare opportunity you can’t lose—so you don’t settle for the wrong one out of urgency. --- ►► Every

Becoming a dad recently made something click for me that I’d been circling for years: Choosing the right partner might be the single most important decision you’ll ever make. It shapes your finances, your health, how you parent, and how you handle life’s hardest moments. And yet, modern dating has made it harder than ever to get this right—too many options, too many clichés, too much conflicting advice. In this episode, I give you a framework I’ve developed to help you cut through the noise . . . so you’re not just following your feelings, but making a decision you’ll

Why does confidence feel so fragile? You can get the date, enter a relationship, even achieve success in other areas of your life . . . and still feel like you’re “not good enough.” That insecurity can follow you through every stage: from messaging on apps, to first dates, to long-term relationships. In this episode, Matthew breaks down why so many of us tie our confidence to external “metrics” — looks, success, status, attention — and why that approach inevitably leaves us anxious and comparing ourselves to everyone around us. Matthew shares 2 powerful ways to build real confidence in