How To Get the Guy Podcast

When we meet someone we feel excited about, “love bombing” can feel like everything we’ve ever wanted. Someone we’re attracted to showering us with intensity and attention who is also happy to introduce us to their close friends and family . . . let’s be honest, it feels really good. Life suddenly transforms into our very own romantic movie. Sure, the pace of it might feel a little rushed and intense . . . but isn’t that what happens when you meet “the One”? But then, like clockwork, it happens. The texts stop coming in fast like they used to

In this conversation on the Know Thyself podcast with André Duqum, Matthew explores why we so often mistake familiar patterns for healthy ones—and how our “normal” can quietly keep us stuck. From gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people to operating from scarcity and self-protection, he breaks down how our past shapes what we tolerate, even when it hurts. This episode is a reminder that your past doesn’t get to dictate your future . . . and that real change begins when you stop staring at the wall you’ve mistaken for the world. --- ►► Try Matthew AI for 24/7 coaching and

I’ve carefully designed these steps to address the stages you’ll go through. And while we all know this process can take an enormous amount of time to put into action, I hope these steps will serve as a compass that will keep you pointed toward your strength (in spite of any distractions the narcissist may try to throw your way). I also hope this episode provides you with strength, acceptance, peace, and progress as you finally move on with your life and remember what it feels like to be free from the coercive control of the narcissist in your life.

December can be a strangely emotional time—even when everything looks festive on the outside. In this podcast, Matthew revisits “Complicated Christmas,” a message created for anyone whose holiday doesn’t match the picture-perfect version we so often see online. If you’ve ever felt the weight of loneliness, grief, anxiety, or that uneasy mix of emotions that tends to surface as the year winds down, this podcast is a reminder that you’re far from alone—and that what you’re feeling is more common than you think. --- ►► If this season feels especially heavy and you don’t have someone you can talk to

Early dating has a sneaky way of turning us into versions of ourselves we don’t even like. You start off calm, confident, grounded . . . and suddenly you’re overthinking texts or pulling back in ways that don’t feel true to who you are. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t like who I am with this person,” there’s a reason for that, and it’s not because you’re broken. In this week’s episode, Matthew breaks down how early dating so often goes wrong without anyone meaning for it to. More importantly, he explains how to lead instead of react, and how

We all know the feeling. We start speaking to or dating someone and we begin to get excited about them . . . but then as soon as we show interest, they start to pull away. This can be painful and demoralizing. But why does this happen? Is it them, or is it us? In this episode, Stephen and I break down a number of “them” and “us” scenarios. For instance: • Some people loathe themselves so much that they devalue anyone who starts to see value in them. • Others might have an obsession with attainment, and once they