How To Get the Guy Podcast

Why do people “fade out” in dating with no explanation? The good news is: It often has nothing to do with us. Yet there are also things we may be doing that push someone away without us even realizing it. In today’s episode, I share 5 behaviors that may make someone pull away . . . and ways you can leave people better than you found them (and wanting more!) Whether you want to learn how to become a better listener, not come across as too intense when you really like someone, or just be a better date, don’t miss

"I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship with you right now. . .”   Nobody wants to hear these words.   Especially when it’s coming from someone you genuinely care about.   Someone you’ve invested time and energy in. . . and someone you feel could be the right person for you in the long term.   It leaves you wishing they could just get over their indecision...   If that sounds familiar, I have a simple solution:   Because there IS a right way and a wrong way to handle this situation...   The wrong way is

In this episode, Matthew dives deep into why the "New Year, New Me" mindset often sets us up for failure and how true change is possible with practical steps to break through our old habits and wiring. Topics include: Why Resolutions Fail: How old patterns and beliefs hold us back, no matter how ambitious our goals are. Why creating new goals without addressing underlying habits leads to frustration. The role of action and getting new reference points to rewire our beliefs. Breaking generational patterns of beliefs, behaviors, and trauma. Deciding to "be the pioneer" who changes the trajectory of your

“I thought by this point in my life I definitely would have . . .” can be a dangerous phrase. Whether we’re “feeling behind” because we’ve never gotten married, had kids, or owned a house, or just wish we were further along in our career, it can be demoralizing. It’s the same feeling when you go through a breakup and feel like you just “wasted” all that time with someone. But this thinking is a trap. If you’ve caught yourself feeling “I’m so behind compared to everyone else,” use the four powerful mindset reframes I share in today’s episode to get out

an you relate to this? You start dating someone who seems too good to be true. Maybe they treat you like no one ever has before, or they check all the boxes you’ve been looking for, or maybe it’s their success or status that makes you feel like the luckiest person just to have their attention (as in today’s example). But here’s the catch: they’re sending you mixed signals when it comes to commitment. You keep spending time together, but you’re still unsure of what they actually want. It’s a tricky situation. Even though you can sense something is off,

In this episode, Matthew and Audrey explore the problem of waiting to find love until the "perfect time", and how this thinking can hold us back from living fully and achieving our goals. Whether you're contemplating a life-changing decision, trying to date amidst personal challenges, or simply struggling to move forward, this episode will give you the tools and mindset shifts to take action today. Topics Covered: The pressure of starting fresh in January and why it can be counterproductive. The challenge of single motherhood and facing fears about dating with children. The concept of "Nel Mezzo" (in the middle):