Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
I was seeing this guy, when one day he confessed the he starting falling in love with me when I shared with him how my dream house would look like. It seemed like such a small thing to me, but he said it showed my vision and my values.
This may seem super simple but it’s in the way he will do for me like he does for himself. It’s the tiny considerations of getting me ketchup too without asking (like a fast food place), telling me to watch my step because he has seen something in my path before me or knowing he’s cold so without asking puts a little throw blanket on me while we are watching tv. I also see in his leadership at work that he is compassionate towards those that are considered under him. He shares stories with me that show me he cares about their success and celebrates them when they do.
When my ex told me that I was his hero. He always made sure to make eye contact with me and it felt different than normal eye contact…at times it felt like he was looking right at my soul. I hope to find that again in someone.
I will always remember the day my ex-boyfriend offered me a tiny book that he bought in a shop while waiting for me. It was a mini-book his mother read to him before sleeping when he was a child. We where not together at that time and it totally melt my heart. It showed so many things: his sensitivity, the importance of family for him and the fact that he wanted to share something personal with me. A few days after we began a story that lasted a little more than 3 years. We’re not together anymore, but I keep a lot of good memories and we have a very good relationship today. :)
i was at a bar for a bday w/ a guy i’d been dating for about a month. i mentioned that i wished people had been dancing, and didn’t want to be “the only fool on the dance floor”. he asked what it would take to get me to dance, and i said i’d only do it for my favorite artist/song. so he got the bartender to play said artist/song. we became the only 2 fools on the dance floor. it was awesome.
I recently went over to a guy, who I’m very interested in, house for a small get together. Everyone who smoked went outside to do so and it left me, him, and two other people inside. I walked over to him and the others, while they were talking, and he stopped listening to turn towards me and look at my skin (I have an ongoing condition.) I was slightly embarrassed for it being pointed out and said “I know. I know, its bad.” and he responded “No. I still think you’re pretty.”
Not only did he compliment me, but something that gives me a lot of issues personally was made look lesser than myself, and I needed that.
We were at the beach, it was too cold to swim but we walked at the edge of the surf. Each time the tide washed the sand from under our feet he laughed and giggled like a child, time and time again. Very sweet and endearing
I met a man recently who seems very sweet, thoughtful and deep. He told me he writes poetry. After only two dates I had texted him about a difficult student I work with who was feeling sad and has had a very rough life so far. He texted me the most inspiring and beautiful poem to give her. When I read it to her she was so touched by it and how the words resonated with her she said she wanted a copy and then said she wanted to tattoo it on her arm! His words were so perfect given her situation and that he took the time to care about my work and this unknown girl who was suffering really meant a lot. My feelings for him have really grown since that micro attraction moment. Seeing a man who cares for others and can inspire you with his words or writings is a real gift and is a super attractive quality!
I just met someone at a party , we haven’t talked allnight but we have spent the night looking at each other and exchanging cute looks. At the end of the night, I asked him for his Facebook profile. We talked the day after. The first thing he told me is that he was amazed at how confident I appeared, that he couldn’t tell if he was more attracted to my energy that night or my smile. This made me feel more attracted to him. Men usually compliment me on my body or how I dance or what I am wearing. But to see that a man really took the time to follow every step I made that night and was interested not at the material but the spirit is so exciting and attracting. Next date : we spent the hole night talking and he never stoped looking at me in the eyes even though I was were something really sexy . ( I have tried to use a lot of your love tricks , and it’s working good so far , thank you Matthew :) )
I think this is the one the best videos I’ve watched of you. This is not just about the script, also due to how it is visualized. Animated characters are from different nations, colors, and this matches with the root idea of the topic. Also its text obeys the rules of reference system. I wish to believe in appearance isn’t important, but it is in reality generally. Of course this is not enough, it has a value and this can be about cultural differences. As I see in some realy civilized Western countries, men are relatively more respectful and give value different qualities. I would like to express some other thoughts about your persona, but unfortunately I need to improve and write my PhD thesis. Hopefully soon…
There was this one time I was with a guy and it was our first date. I made the first move, by gently holding his hand. He smiled so that’s what told me that he had an immediate attraction to me. I find that microattraction is incredibly important, especially when you are making a first impression on someone. Sadly, it didn’t last, cause I somehow scared him off. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this, I will continue to pay particular attention to it, in my future.
I was drawn to the man I am currently dating because of the way he spoke about his adult children which echoes the way I am with mine and how important they are to both of us…..massive turn on that family is so important to him. In addition his integrity with clients…going the extra mile to ensure they are really happy with the service…..again same as me. I know my happiness will be very important to him.
What a wonderful video! Thank you!
It’s the things that he didn’t do (unlike what other guys would do). I guess it makes him unique that way. For example, I met a guy and he asked me to dance with him. While we were dancing, he asked me what were my favorite places in the city(it was my first time visiting because of a conference and we just met that night). So, I actually don’t know him well yet but his question made me think of the exciting places I had visited. When ever I express myself, I normally use my hands. When I get excited, my hands get busy so I accidentally squeezed his hand and his arm as I was telling him about those places. Remember, I was dancing with him? It was a slow dance! Instead of hearing a comment, he just continued to smile and did not say anything. He was calm and happy the whole time eventhough I was slightly embarrassed at myself. Because he did not say anything, I felt safe and stopped feeling embarrassed. I enjoyed dancing with him the whole night. Until now, we still keep in touch.
Thank you for this amazing video!!!
I felt attracted to a guy, who was just a friend, because of similar interests like books on personal growth,and challenges in our life.
Attraction to a guy who repeatedly demonstrates random acts of kindness.
When the man I was seeing, became interested in the activities that I enjoyed, and while doing them he would often ask if we can just take a moment to soak it all in.
love it- so right on!
When he opened the fridge and it was obvious he’d thought about being able to prepare a meal or two or three while I was visiting…while camping and HE said I’ll be right back with the coffee and cups…..while at the beach and he spontaneously scooped me up and carried me over the dune….when he took the hair dryer out of my hand and offered to finish drying my hair….when he called to say good night versus sending a text…these are not all the same person but special moments that may me pause and smile from over the past year
While we were dating, one night my ex divulged that a few nights before, while he I were out, a woman approached and hit on him at the bar. He responded by pointing at me and said I’m with that gorgeous woman.
I agree with this 100% Matthew. I’ve followed you for years now and so appreciate your authenticity and speaking honestly to women about what really matters.
About 3 months ago I met a guy, from the UK actually, who completely made me fall for him on a second date. It’s been going incredibly well ever since and is a more fulfilling and amazing relationship than I could have ever dreamed of.
The first moment of micro-attraction I had for him was on that second date when he invited me to a holiday market at an art gallery. He was genuinely interested in speaking with and engaging with one of the artists there (a bearded Santa-looking man in his 60’s), and totally geeked out with him over a wooden puzzle of all things. Seems so weird, but we had such a wonderful time just looking around at the beautiful things, and he had a sincere appreciation for the artistry and craftsmanship. We just so enjoyed spending that time together and I so appreciated how he interacted with people and truly valued them. He’s playful and fun, and there have been millions of moments of micro-attractions ever since. Your video today rings completely true for me.
Thanks for putting this out there.
Have been following Matthew’s scripts and his advice for awhile. Met a great guy 6 months ago.
He is so good looking and way out of my league it seemed.
My good girlfriend had a leg op and is in crutches. One day we were sitting around and she got up and wobbled and fell. My man leapt up, dropped his drink in mid flight to catch her before she hit the ground.
I was so impressed. He has his own back issues and still thought selflessly of catching her.
I’m so lucky to have him.