Maybe it’s happened to you before: you knew you kind of liked a guy, but then he did one special move that made your heart do a triple back flip – now you are crazy about him.
How does this happen??
It’s not about fancy tricks, it’s about understanding this secret of deep, lasting attraction…
When a guy (an engineer) told me that he had read “The Stranger” by Albert Camus.
When he moves in to kiss me and both his hands cup my face as he kisses me gently! Something about the feel of his hands holding my face up to his that instantly makes me feel vulnerable and protected at the same time. For me, it’s equivalent to him sweeping me up in his arms! It “lasso’s” my heart every time!!
When my hubby of 25yrs turned up late to our 1st date as he detoured to his Nan & Grandad who called him last minute for help with their TV, I should of been mad but I sort of melted that he had his priorities in order, they apologised later that month when I was invited for tea. Again an act of kindness, pattern emerging in this forum I think.
It was when the fellow I was dating asked me to dance when there was no one else on the dance floor. I knew he was a bit shy but got up anyway and gave me the most romantic moment. He kissed me at the end of the song and I felt like the luckiest woman in the whole room….
My ex-bofriend told me what got him with me was I invited him to a dance and he was standing talking to some other men that were there and I made him a drink and walk over and hand him the drink and he told me later that by me fixing and bringing the drink over to him just did something for him. With me one night he came over to my apartment one night with groceries and he cooked me a nice Salmon dinner and then we sat talked and played trivia that was in the beginning of us dating.
Sang the same song without the other knowing
When I got my first tattoo, he spent hours next to me letting me hold (squeez the life out of) his hand and got me food.
When the guy I was dating sang to me ‘To Be With You’ by Mr. Big as we were laying in bed talking early in the morning. Him not knowing yet that was one of my favorite songs!
One of my exes said he fell in love with me when i confided in him about a tough situation i was going through at work. Talking about it then brought tears to my eyes. I had always been quite guarded with him, because we were in a casual relationship, but letting my guard down and letting him comfort me changed the way he saw me and our relationship.
i squeezed my future longtime partner on a shoulder
while we were at cinema watching a movie.
it was spontaneous, he referred to this moment many times:)
Thank you Mathew, the reason I was so attracted to athe guy that I dated was because, the first time he wanted to kiss me he asked me first, can I kiss you? It is very attractive to me when a man asks for consent and just doesn’t guess whether I am ready or not.
Mathew THANKYOU!!!!! I’m about to meet the Man I’ve fallen deeply in Love with full of all those self doubts.He is recently divorced and doesn’t want a relationship but we share some incredible moments.I finally blurted out I Love him under pressure of a jealous fallout so we are chatting about how we move forward.I totally respect his position but I’m desperate to be my best and that is sooooo hard for me.Your videos are so spot on and a timely prompt xxx
The guy I’m crushing on was having a bad day. He ranted and raved frustratedly for a few minutes. I looked him in the eye, said “come here” and gave him a hug. When it was done he looked at me and said “thank you.” There’s so much wrapped up on that; the vulnerability, the fact that he allowed me to comfort him, the fact that neither of us made light of it (we both hide behind jokes)…he makes me feel safe, I guess. That’s huge for me.
Hi Matt,
Let me first say … seriously “Bullseye” !!!! That is exactly one of the key things I feel that will genuinely bring two together .
One my favorite key moments for me was with my past boyfriend of 14years …. We had just started dating a couple of months and it was wintertime in Atlanta .. so cold and rainy.
I was then working retail during holiday and of course dead tired . I mention to him earlier I want to go out celebrate something … I don’t even remember what it was anymore .
But, he picks me up , it’s like past midnight and I walk towards the car and see little candle tea lights illuminated, in my car with a bottle of champagne open with two glasses!!! I never thought my guy to be the type to really take these small moment and genuinely make an amazing unforgettable moment in my life …
I’ll never forget that moment … needless to say we celebrated in the mall parking till 4am, just talking hearing undergoing house music … A perfect night.
Micro attraction!!!!! ♥️
I agree 100%!
I’ve always felt that the character of a person is always found in those moments, in between life “events.”
Just yesterday, my dear sweet man, kept extending his hand to help me on an icy hike, to insure I didn’t fall. He was already compromised, with an injury and needed a crutch for secure ambulation. That did not stop him from looking out for my well-being. Even as I share this, I am filled with such warmth and love for him. The virtues of people are found in their daily action.
Totally enjoyed the video and agree 100%.
A moment of microattraction for me with my current partner is when I expressed that I wouldn’t feel comfortable committing to a man that had a tattoo of his ex on his chest, but that I was more than happy to “have fun” with him.
The next day he got the tattoo covered up and it was all over for me…lol.
#fallenhardandfast
To be honest my friend said something very endearing a sort of acceptance at seeing all the effort I do for others in over thinking things but reading into details most miss. It settled within me a nice feeling of see finally someone gets it. That I am trying for the sake of joy but not seen as an overdose or Mettler. Just felt amazing to come from a friend for a first time.Especially since been lost onnlove for a bit but, versus a relationship found it in feiendship.
The moment I realised he was for me was when he said his son would always come before everything and everyone. His partner died when his son was 4 years old so he has been father and mother to this young man for 17 years. I feel just as committed to my family and realised that this man shared some of the same values as me.
Now for my love now who’s my best friend as well, I can’t shake him because deep down I chose him for his genuine heart in a guy aspect very rare for me. We grew up in high school me being older, while I was caring about others helping out I would watch his compassion towards the girls he ended up all dumping him for and felt that since of connection because guys said I was too nice and made me have resentment. But, after being with each other tho we r total opposites I can say I remind him of who he was because he let them effect him, but I always try to believe to not let go of yourself for personal gain because determined to prove to people you control you, so he shared that changed him that I impacted him. I fell in love with who he use to be but deep I stay true and around because I know he has it in him if he believes the root of all troubles is a good heart. We all have it.
I was hanging out with this guy Ben (to whom I was already attracted, btw) and I asked him if he’d ever paid for sex. He looked me in the eye and without missing a beat said of course not; he’d never do that. I had recently broken up with someone who had a history of sex with prostitutes and I let it slide because it was in his past and I believe in letting the past go, where you can. In that moment with Ben, however, I felt my heart crack open because I realized I’d compromised my principles with the other guy and Ben was the type I truly alligned with.