Is there something you’ve been wanting to do but are worried what other people may think of you?
A trip away? A new hairstyle? A new hobby?
In this week’s video, I give you 3 tricks to help you from having other people’s opinions hold you back. Enjoy!
I usually pay special atenttion to your advice, since I think it’s been really useful, not only in my love life, but in much more levels of it, and try to thank the time you take sharing your knowledge with us.
I’ll tell you what I did about your advice on writing down your tips, because I gave it my own twist, and as you said, would like to share it with the entire comunity.
Once I saw one of your writen videos and thought it would be helpful, in order to remember them, to take some screenshots on the most important parts. I used them like notes (I’m trying to keep notes I used to write on paper digitaly, using Evernote), so that they would be easy to reach, and it actually worked!
Maybe you can take your videos to another level by making written notes on the screen, listing the points you are talking about, by your side, for example. I think it may help to remark those important words or phrases, while you talk, and those who like to do it could take screenshots and make digital notes about your videos!!! :)
As I always say, thank you for being so generose.
Tania
from Montevideo, Uruguay
Matthew, I love listening and reading all your advice. It truly gives people motivation and courage to improve their lives. For YEARS, I have had this feeling and need to go on a trip, similar to the “meditation” trip you discuss in this video. I always was full of excuses for not going; time, money, other people, work, etc., but I finally am going on a trip to Hawaii, by myself this spring. It is a daunting idea when I think about it and even hesitate to tell people, for reasons you discuss. I just feel like it’s one of those thing I need to do in my life to “find myself”, as corny as that sounds. At 30, I think it’s about time though!
❤❤❤ it. Carry on.
Love when you use a real example like the retreat.
I have been criticize by friends, family even teachers because they say the my boyfriend is not that ‘good looking’. I do not really care what they say because for me what ever he may look like I love him the way he is but the thing is he let himself be affected by there comments, he alwats say negative things about himself and is always insecure about my guy friends who I think not that much to be insecure for. How do I change that? like how do I make him feel like comfortable and less insecure… I have tried telling him but it has no effect please help me matt I dont know what to do anymore… thanks
-Yessamin
I’m so happy I found you Matt! I just went through a heartbreak and of course it affected me no only in a hurtful way, but it started to lower my self esteem. Listening to speak the truth without sugar coating how things will turn out is what i like to hear. I will continue listening to you. I only needed to hear this one day and you have already changed my life again. Thank you!
Though i only recently bought your book, i have been a great fan of your youtube videos since last year. This video particularly went straight to my heart. See, though i want to share my life with a guy, i think i need to love and make my life interesting at first. And that is a tricky thing to do. Especially if you have a close connection with family and friends that sometimes, out of love, direct you to things you really have no fond feelings whatsoever. So next time I wish to learn another foreign language, take a dancing class, or dance in the rain or even take on theater lessons, i hope this three ways you just taught will smooth some critics or rocks thrown on the way. Thank you for your videos! Keep doing your retreats cause one day i hope to be in one… Just for curiosity of course
Hi Matthew,
I just wanted to thank you for this video. This will help me dealing with my current problem.
I am studying in a college right now, but I want to quit and start a new study in another country. I am 20 years old and I feel the urge to get proactive, get out there and experience life differently.
But my uncle is against my wishes and wants me to stay. He says it would be foolish, because I would even leave my current job.
For me, my last year was a very hard and challenging time. My intuition is telling me for over four years to move on from my current place. I believe the most important issue in this case would be the money.
Maybe you could give me a short answer about whether it is okay to take the risk in this life phase or to stay.
Thank you, you are doing a great job for so many people all around the world, and for me, you are truly a genius.
Love,
Sanni
While i know some people in the city that i live in. I don’t have friends / boy friend that accompanies me to every activity – eating out, movies, concerts and stuff. I end up trying out some of these on by myself. Sometimes, i feel very conscious that i am there at that place, alone, while most people have Company. Any thoughts. Am i perpetuating the ‘singledom’? Some people always seem to have a group to do their things.
Mr. Hussey, you are a real blessing!! Your energy and the tips you share can be viewed as coming from the heart! Besides your natural beauty as a person on the outside you can see that it truly comes from within your Spirit! Please keep the videos coming and God Speed…Amen!
I have started not caring what people think about me and my choices…I am a grown woman who knows right from wrong and am moving forward with sharing myself in a good clean loving way with people and am open and receptive to positivity. When negativity comes my way I accept it and move on from it and learn what I can from that scenario. Your videos have helped keep me on my life journey to not give up on Love but rather to be prepared, because IT’S coming, I can feel it and it’s exciting! I’m looking forward to meeting some great people and learning to except them as they are and if they aren’t supposed to remain in my life then I simply acknowledge that I had something to learn and gain from it and keep moving forward loving, and even loving the unlovable…many blessings to you and your Blog…I will copy and paste this message as I am at work and my lunch break is about over.
As usual, great advice, Matthew. I read “Get the Guy” and have watched countless videos on YouTube. I love that this video in particular was not necessarily relationship related. You have a wealth of knowledge and I appreciate your honesty on all topics. All of your advice is brilliant because it’s easy to relate to and requires small steps. Nothing is too mind blowing that would hinder anyone from being able to accomplish anything you’ve set out.
I went through a break up over the holiday season and watching your videos was a HUGE reason why I was able to move forward, little by little, day by day. I’ve learned that being a positive person, enjoying my life, living it to the fullest, doing things for myself goes a VERY long way.
Keep up the great work! And I’ll keep watching your videos as you post :)
Good idea, I like it ! I will try
Thank you for the great advice. You’ve been an inspiration to me for the past 2 years.
I took a big step into the unknown 3 years ago and got a divorce after 28 years of marriage. And I’m so happy that I did it. But I’ve gotten a lot of grief about it from family – particularly my grown children. One would think they would understand, since I’d stayed married for my kids. But they don’t like seeing me happy and their father unhappy.
I’ve followed your first tip and embraced who I am. Hopefully I can use the other tips soon. Thank you Matthew!
You mentioned in the video that you’d like us to share our experiences when we wanted to do something and we’re judged for it.
I discovered an education program called micro masters and several of my co-workers started making fun of it when I was trying to share something exciting with my peers. They kept laughing and saying, “I’d rather get macro masters degree than micro. Haha!” I was so happy about his program and couldn’t wait to share it with them just to be ignored and laughed at and not even in a direct way. It hurt but I kept quiet. I felt like saying anything in that moment would have shown too much of my emotion and how they hurt me.
I don’t think i handled it right but after watching you video, i will not let that throw me off again. I want to be in control of how I feel. I don’t want ignorant people making me feel less than I really am.