How To Get the Guy Podcast

If you've ever felt like you're running out of time to find love, you're not alone. It's easy to look around and feel like everyone else is moving forward while you're standing still. That pressure can make us settle for relationships that feel like progress, even when they're taking us further away from the love we actually want. In this episode, Matthew shares seven mindset shifts to help you let go of the fear, comparison, and uncertainty that can come with being single. He explores why there is no universal timeline for love, why being in the wrong relationship is

Have you ever convinced yourself that one dating mistake cost you someone who could have been really special? Maybe you replayed the texts. The conversation. The moment you wish you could take back. And because genuine connection can feel so rare, you started believing you'd ruined your chance. It's a painful place to be, but it's also where our minds tend to tell us stories that simply aren't true. In this week's episode, I talk about why we obsess over early dating mistakes, how a scarcity mindset can make us believe we've lost our only chance at love, and why

One of the hardest things about people-pleasing is the fear of what might happen if you stop. What if someone gets upset? What if they pull away? What if the relationship changes? In this episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen explore why so many of us struggle to set boundaries, speak honestly about our needs, and tolerate conflict in our relationships. They discuss how people-pleasing often begins as a way of feeling safe, loved, and accepted, and why it can become such a difficult pattern to break. The conversation explores the hidden costs of constantly keeping the peace, the surprising rewards

More and more people are saying the same thing: they're tired of the apps and want to meet someone in real life. The problem is that after years of outsourcing the earliest stages of dating to our phones, many of us have lost our flirting muscle. We're worried about looking awkward. We overthink what to say. We wait for the perfect moment that never comes. And we've become so focused on avoiding rejection that we often miss opportunities right in front of us. That's why, in this week's episode, I share 5 principles that can make flirting feel less overwhelming

One of the biggest misconceptions about family estrangement is that people do it lightly. They don't. And for many, the reality is far more painful… The truth is, most people don't create distance because they stopped caring. They do it after years, sometimes decades or even an entire lifetime, of trying to make the relationship work. The tragedy of estrangement is that it's often not a choice between connection and distance. It's a choice between preserving a relationship and preserving yourself. In this episode, I talk about why the growing backlash against estrangement misses that reality, and why what looks

For years, when I signed copies of Get the Guy, I would write the same message: Never settle. I still believe we should never settle for bad behavior, mistreatment, or a relationship that doesn't make us happy. But over time, I've come to see the idea of "settling" a little differently. These days, we're surrounded by endless options. And while that sounds like a good thing, it can make us constantly wonder if there's someone better just around the corner. As a result, we end up overlooking genuinely great people because they don't meet every requirement on our list. In this episode,